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Out of Ideas – Try These Conversation Starters!

At some point in our lives, we do face a situation in which we need to talk to the other person, but we do not know exactly where to start from.

It's hard to start a meaningful conversation by walking up to the person whom you don’t know and with whom you have never had any interaction. In fact, meaningful conversations are always between two people who know each other.

Conversation starters are said to be hard but not impossible. You may find it difficult at the start, but you can begin a great conversation even with the strangers as long as you have got some good conversation starters.

Before jumping on to the conversation starters, let us first discuss the tips for making a great conversation.

  • Have a look at the surroundings. A lot of time the surroundings are very helpful in creating an environment for you to start a conversation. It can be anything like the shirt they are wearing or what they are watching on the TV, etc.
  • You need to pay attention to their body language. If the person is facing you and listening carefully with an eye contact then he/she must be enjoying your conversation while the individual who doesn’t seem interested in what you are saying will look away.
  • You are advised to go slow at the beginning. No need to rush up to ask about their greatest fears. Start a conversation with a lighter mood.

Great Conversation Starters when you can’t think straight:

Here are some conversation starters that will help you to initiate the perfect discussion:

Have you read any good book lately?

This not only gives you the insight of the person’s interests but also an overview of the entire book with loads of information to talk about.

What’s the best thing about you which you never want to change?

The conversations should always start and end on the positive notes. So, ask this question and get to know about the best thing they would never like to change in them.

What do you like to do?

This question is something which has an endless answer as every person loves to discuss their favorite things or interests and the conversation goes on and on.

Is your job something that you enjoy?

Asking about the job will lead to the answers of many relevant questions like what is their job type? What do they like or dislike about it? How do they get there?

Tell me about your most strange habit:

Everyone does have one, and it is also necessary for you two to have a little funny conversation in the start.

Do you come here often?

This is a sort of question which can open the door to a long conversation. If they say ‘yes,' then you can discuss this place, and if they say ‘no,' then you can ask them that why they are here.

Who do you know here?

If you have been invited by someone on this event then by asking this question can immediately lead you to some mutual interest and eventually to more discussions.

These are the simple tips when your tongue is all tied up in front of your crush and will let you know them at a deeper level.


Why Falling In Love With Your Best Friend Is Not A Good Choice?

A best friend is like your support system for life. You share everything with him/her, and their presence has become a constant need in your life. You might as well get into fights with them, but it all sorts out because obviously, they’re your best friend. Things, however, get a little complicated when feelings of love start to get into the friendship bond between a girl and a guy. This is very common because in such a friendship, one definitely falls for the other and that is how friendship starts to become a relationship. If it is you who has fallen for your best friend, then you should take a look at these points and try to move away from this situation:

#1 The judgment starts

Your best friend knows all about you. You were used to sharing every detail of your day and life in general with them. They know everything about you like all your embarrassing moments, your breakdowns, your sad moments, your secrets and desires. Now that love is in the equation, your best friend may not act like before, and he/she will probably get paranoid over whoever you meet from the opposite gender. The secrets that you once shared might backfire now that you’re in love.

#2 One of you will end up getting hurt

There is a very high chance that your friend doesn’t feel for you the same way as you do. Previously, when you needed them, they were always there without any questions asked. Now, when you finally open your feelings to them, you really don’t know how they will react. The chances are that they might agree or even say no. The worst that can happen is that they might even end the friendship.

#3 Being best friends doesn’t mean you’ll be the best couple

Friendships are easy and hassle free because there are no demands or expectations from it. The friendship is only about unconditional love and care. In a romantic relationship, things are different where you have to prove your love to the other person. Expectations will be there, and maybe you will not be able to fulfill them. When you were just best friends meeting them was like taking that time off from all the tensions, but now that you are in love it might become a full-time duty. You have to be careful about all that you say and that you do. You will see entirely different sides of each other, and it will be hurtful knowing that you were once best friends.

#4 No one to share your problems with

Your best friend, as we mentioned, was your support system. You would go to him/her whenever there was anything wrong going on in your life. What about now? Who are you going to share your couple issues with? You have now lost your greatest friend, and all you are left with is regret. Things could have been perfect the way they were, but getting into love ruined it even when it was not what you wanted.


How Can We Rejuvenate Our Emotional State?

We are humans and all of us get tired at some point. Excessive physical energy can exhaust our body, and you may need some rest to get back to normal. Same is the case with our emotions; there comes a time when life has been just a little too much and your mind can’t take the pressure. The reasons could be many – there may be issues with your love life, with your family, issues at work or just a general burden that has gotten too hard for you. Sometimes, you are not doing enough for yourself which is why you will face that emotional irritation. Being a perfectionist can emotionally drain you as well. You are always tied up in perfecting things, and it takes up a great deal of your mental and physical strength. Whatever the case may be, it is important that you give your emotional state a boost to feel refreshed again. This article is going to tell you how you can pull yourself out from that emotional mess.

#1 Identify the source

Before you start with any other thing, it is important that you see what fits your situation and what exactly it is that is making you emotionally upset. Once you know what the source is, you can further take steps to change it.

#2 Communicate with your loved ones

If the problem is with any one of your relationships, then you need to put aside your ego and talk to that person. It may the first time that you are doing this but this one time effort might just save you from the trouble happening in your life. There is a reason you love them, and if you feel like something is not right, then they have the right to know it because ignoring it will only make it worse.

#3 Put your own self first

You need to put yourself first and see what it is that makes you happy. You need to invest some time in yourself and put your dreams and desires ahead of other responsibilities in life. When you are not happy yourself, then you will not be able to do anything right anywhere else. It is your life, and you need to take care of yourself the most.

#4 Change what you can

You need to see what you can change and what you cannot. You cannot change what other people think or say, but you can definitely bring changes in your life and the environment around you. You can improve the environment by making it positive, surrounding yourself with the people who love you and by getting rid of all the negative vibes in your life.

#5 Find your strength

Nothing will ever be possible unless you believe in yourself and believe that you can do it. We all have our boundaries, and some have financial issues while some face social problems. You need to rise above the barriers and break them to be able to bring out the strength in you. We have the power to change, but we need to know just how to do it.


How To Get The Attention Of Your Crush While Looking Fabulous?

Does this ever happen to you where the person who was desperate to catch your attention loses interest in you all of a sudden? While crossing the hallway, sitting in a café or conference room, that cutie or that handsome guy who may have been trying to draw your attention seems to suddenly have no interest in you? Ever wonder what the reason is behind losing interest? What and where it went wrong?

Well, the first glance usually stirs the emotions, but to keep it moving and arouse interest you need to look good.  The following tips will guide you that how you can increase the excitement at the very first glance by looking good:

Look occupied

Appear like you have a life and show yourself to be busy and occupied. Do not ever lead them to think you have nothing to do. Avoid a constant stare as it may feel strange for the other person or scare them off.

Right eye contact

Eye contact is very essential. You need to learn how to make the other person’s heart skip a beat through flirting with your eyes. Sneak a glance over time and excite that person to want you more.

Surround yourself with fun people

It is always easier to look good and grasp attention while sitting in a group of your friends. Moreover, it is simpler to seem like you are the center of attention when your friends are with you. So, always try to sit within a group. But if your friends are giving some wrong impression, it is better to leave their company and move away from them.

Blush when your eyes meet

No matter how much glances you exchange, show a little nervousness when your eyes meet as it always makes romance more sweet and beautiful.

Good Posture

Always stand tall or sit upright. It makes you look good and confident. The coy posture is perfect for women, whereas dominant posture works well for men.

Create an opportunity for each other

If you have been exchanging glances, do not lose any chances that come your way. A few glances and that person may make a move by starting a conversation and exchanging numbers.

If you are a woman then excuse yourself from your group of friends, walk past him with a smile and step out. This is a green signal from your side that you want him to get up and move towards you.

Bottom Line

Eye contact may be the best among the above tips. Just sit back comfortably and enjoy it if you are not ready for the next step yet. But do remember to look confident and play your flirt game at best.


Ladies – Avoid These Style Mistakes On The First Date

There are a lot of rules out there regarding what to wear on a first date. Which rule should be followed by you and what you should not opt for is a pretty difficult decision to make. But what really matters in the end is that whatever you decide to wear should bring out the best version of you. Obviously, this is your first date, and you undoubtedly want to look amazingly stunning on this very first occasion of yours. Here, I will discuss the tips that I have tried and that will apply to most of the women on their first date scenario:

Wear something fresh

One of the most instant ways to make yourself look attractive and beautiful is the way you dress up yourself. It is not about wearing something branded or labeled, it is about wearing something that suits you.

Some people are so casual that they do not give importance to their wardrobe; however, this is the most significant part of your date. Now, don’t tell me that you have decided to wear those jeans on your first date which you are wearing since the past 4-5 days. Wear something fresh and comfy as your outfit will give the very first impression of yours to the other person.

Stressing out too much

Don’t stress yourself out when you are selecting an outfit for your very first date. Obviously, everyone wants to look perfect but there is no need to be overly concerned about it. What you will wear on the upcoming dates is more important as it tells someone how you feel or think about them more accurately.

Avoid showing off your body too much

Is it your first date? If yes, then act sensible and mature. What impression do you want to give your date by showing off too many of your body parts on your very first date?

When it comes to flashing your flesh, it is important to show a single body part like legs, shoulders or back. Anything more on your first date and you may be viewed as trashy.

Looking unapproachable

If you are uncomfortable in what you are wearing, then there are a large chance that it will make your date uncomfortable as well. So wear something that will keep you at ease and approachable. It is time to welcome someone in your life and not push them back.

Overdoing the hair styling

It is better to leave your hair free for your first date. Do not bother to overdo it. Your date might want to run down his fingers through them.

Applying excessive makeup

Applying a little makeup will make you look better along with making your good features more prominent. But keep it subtle. There is no need to apply so much makeup that your face seems like it has been painted. Keeping it light will get you appear more elegant and natural.

Avoid wearing a dress which makes you feel suffocated

Why wear something which is too tight, and even makes you uncomfortable? Wear something in which you feel good rather than stuck.

I hope these simple tips will help you in making the right choices. In the end, it is all about making yourself feel good and striking. So, wear a comfy dress confidently for your first date.


How To Find Out If You Are Dating A Phony?

Have you ever come across someone who is so perfect that you think you’re both meant to be together forever? They fulfill all our requirements, and you almost ask yourself if it is too good to be true? Well if you really ever do feel like this then it probably is. It may seem perfect initially but soon after you will realize that it wasn’t a great deal. You need to know the following points, so you know if you’re dealing with a phony or liar:

#1 They will agree with everything you say

It is impossible for someone to match your routine, your likes and dislikes to every extent. When you say you like your eggs sunny side up, or you like to dip chips in mayo, every time they will only have one thing to say, and that will be, “me too.” This should give it away that they are probably lying about it. No one can be that similar that they match each and everything in your life. They are probably trying to give you that hint that you both have a lot in common, but you should know that they are only faking it.

#2 They will play smart by mentioning things that you did too

For instance, you said something to them about how you have always wanted to live in the hilly areas. Now, a few days later they act smart by bringing up the same topic and molding it into something like high ranges are their favorite destinations to visit. Since you don’t remember saying this to them, you feel like you two connect.. But, this is another trick so don’t fall for it.

#3 They lie about what they are doing, always

These people will always be lying and covering things that irritate you. If you have told them about a few traits that you don’t like in a person, then they made hide those traits in themselves. However, there may be a time when you catch them displaying those traits. When you catch them doing that stuff, don’t let it go and confront them immediately.

#4 They avoid talking about themselves, every time

They will always try dodging questions which relate to their personality and personal information. They will make sure that the subject of the talk never about them, and somehow they will change the topic to something entirely different. They will have their flirty ways to change the topic, and you have nothing to say but fall for their tactics.

#5 They contradict their previous statements

This is one thing about people who lie – they will agree with you about something one day and after a few days if you say you don’t like it then they will agree with you too. You will notice after some time that they really have no stance of their own. They will only agree to all that you have to say, and later on, it will get irritating.


Is It Too Soon To Give Up On Love?

Love is definitely not what we see in movies, and it isn’t a fairy tale where your prince will always be there to rescue you or your princess will be waiting for you and will love you every second of their life. This is life, and life has its harsh realities as well. Love is not at all simple, and you must be well aware of it before you start a relationship. Some people have their luck with love whereas others just learn a lesson from their bad experience. If you, unfortunately, had a bad experience or even several bad experiences with love then this does not mean you should give up on the whole idea of love. Love itself is a very beautiful feeling, and everyone should have a partner in their lives who loves them unconditionally. Here are some important things that you should consider before thinking of giving up on love forever:

#1 You are not alone

It is not just you who is feeling this way; there are thousands of people in the world crying over lost love and hurtful relationships. Probably, everyone at that time would be thinking the same thing – that they should give up on love. But this doesn’t mean you can’t get it right the next time. There is definitely someone who is perfect for you, and it is only a matter of time before you find them.

#2 Love doesn’t happen right away

You should stop comparing your life with the life you see in movies. Love is not magic, and it certainly doesn’t happen in a week. Sometimes, it may take years for someone to find their perfect match and therefore you should be patient with all this.

#3 You might be too picky

There may be a chance that you, yourself have made the situation really complex. We all want perfect life partners, but that doesn’t mean we should set unrealistic standards and then try to find love that will fulfill all these expectations. When we set extremely high standards then no matter how nice, sweet and loving the other person is, we will still find some negatives about them. You need to be more open minded for different types of individuals who love you and do things to make you feel special.

#4 You are not dating the right kinds of people

You might think that you made the right decision, but what if every time you end up with the wrong person. Maybe every time the person that you start a relationship with is not caring, loving or not your type.

#5 There is nothing wrong with being single

Being single is a good feeling! In fact, you should try to give yourself some time and invest in your own self. When you actually do spend some time alone and be happy with what you have, that will eventually direct you to true love.

#6 You will be really lonely

Love is companionship, and every person in the world needs someone to share their life with. If you give up on love, then this means that you have decided to spend your life alone. That will not be healthy for you because a time may come when you start getting depressed, and the need for companionship will leave you in great misery.


Don’t Rush Too Soon To Make The Relationship Official

So you've been in a relationship for some time and now you think that the situation is ideal for you to take one step further by making it all official. But you ask yourself if you’re rushing too soon? Sometimes people rush into things while they're excited but then regret it afterwards. Maybe they are agreeing to it because of some family pressure or because of the time factor with everyone getting older, but whatever the case may be it is a major decision, and you should always think thoroughly about it. These signs will tell you when you are rushing to make the relationship official:

#1 Your gut feeling doesn’t lie

When taking this decision, you feel a rock bottom feeling in your stomach and lots of nervousness. This is a normal reaction to something which you haven’t done with the heart’s agreement; this should be an immediate sign that it is time for you to rethink your decision.

#2 You have planned it, but you hesitate

People who want to make things happen then they put all their effort in it as well. You, on the other hand, are still using words like “if” and “when” as if the time is somewhere in distant future and this all shows you are not ready for it. You’re taking this time off because you are not yet sure about it.

#3 You are still in contact with you exes

When you are not sure or serious about one relationship, then you will always be in contact with other guys/girls, and it will not feel wrong because you feel whatever you are doing is okay from the inside. If you had committed to the person whom you are going to marry, then you wouldn’t even think about anyone else, and you would only spend all your time with that one person. You are definitely exploring your options because you haven't yet taken your decision.

#4 You don’t get motivated seeing others get hitched

People who want to get married or want to start a long-term commitment usually get motivated and excited when they see others in the same situation. You, however, have never felt this way and even if it is your closest friend getting married. You will still not want it for yourself.

#5 You have been overprotective about your independence and alone time

You are not yet ready for someone’s interference in your life. You don’t want anyone to tell you what to do and when to do. You like living by your own rules, and this long-term companionship might not be the best idea, at least for now.

#6 Whenever the subject gets brought back again, you always change the topic

Your partner is all pumped up for it and has already started making plans about things like which place will you be living in or what school will your kids be going to. All these things feel nauseous to you, and all you do in such situations is change the topic to something entirely different or just bring food in between since that seems to solve it always.


Second Date Tips For Men And Women

So, finally, you have made it to your second date. The second date is the time when you truly get to know about the other person. His/her real personality, past relationships, interest, likes, dislikes, etc. So, usually by the end of your second date, you will be able to get to know each other’s true inner self.

After your first date, here are a few tips that will strengthen the bond of your relationship and make the second date a successful one:

Greeting your date with a hug

Start your second date with a warm long hug. It will be helpful in breaking the ice between you two and increase the comfort level which is necessary for the start of a strong and healthy relationship.

Try out something completely different than your first date

Your second date should be different from your first date to create a new and fresh environment. By doing so, you will have something different and more to talk about. Moreover, your second date should not be a formal one like your first date. You can just stop by for a quick subway bite or go for a good old movie date.

Your dressing should be slightly casual than your first date

You may have worn your best-looking clothes on your first date but keep it simple and more casual going for your second one.

Women can go for a hugging shirt along with skinny jeans and heels. Keep it low on the makeup and stay as natural as possible. On the other hand, men can wear a nice looking shirt or a T-shirt along with jeans or khakis, casual pair of shoes and jacket is optional.

Revealing a real color of your inner self slightly

On the first date usually, the colors of the character and personality are not shown. The second date is the best time to get close to each other. Couples usually start showing their true self on their second date which includes their habits, likings and original personality.

Recall the talks of your first date

Show that you are a good listener. Impress them by remembering what you had talked about and did on the first date. This shows how genuinely you are interested in that guy or girl.

For example, if he told you about his brother’s new job, you can follow up by asking how it is going so far. This imposes a very positive impact on your relationship.

Allow your conversation to be slightly more personal

First date conversations are usually ice-breaking talks; however, on your second date, get a little closer to being a little personal. Speak of life journeys, past experiences and relationships, future goals, etc.

Increase your flirting quotient

Every person is reserved on their first date. They flirt indirectly. Obviously, they would never like to sound desperate. The second date is the time to loosen yourself a bit. Compliment your partner openly. Don’t be shy and let your attraction be known.

Getting touchy-feeling on your second date

On your first date, touchy-feeling signifies desperation. While on the second date, it is a clear signal of attraction. If you are attracted to your date, look for the signs of attraction through their body language too.

Well, these are the simple tips to follow. It is advised to increase your interaction after your second date via text messages, Facebook, Twitter or other social networks. It indicates happiness and is a healthy sign of a long term relationship.


Significant Signs Of Heading From “Dating” To “In a Relationship”

In the start, you find dating enjoyable and fun. But later with the lapse of time, going out with many people and still not finding the perfect one for yourself becomes very annoying. You sometimes start feeling dejected and hopeless that you will never be able to find that dream date for yourself which you hope will eventually lead to a long and healthy relationship.

No need to be pissed off. You have arrived at the right place. Just go through this article, and you will get the clear view that whether you and your date are heading ‘from a date’ to ‘in a relationship' or not.

Signs you will end up in a relationship or not

Several ways can give you a clear hint regarding your future with your date. If either of you notice once of these, you could be heading in that direction.

Silences are no longer awkward

The green flag is lifted when you find that person making every conversation exciting. Nothing seems to be awkward between you two. Even the lapses between the conversations are comfortable and soothing.

By being yourself, you can make each other laugh

This not only implies that how comfortable you two are to put on a show, but it also expresses your compatibility. The similarity in the sense of humor shows that how capable you two are for providing joy to each other.

You two always schedule another date

Now if each time on the date, you plan for your next date then this indicates a clear signal that you two are getting closer to each other. Do not worry if this doesn’t happen. People nowadays are very busy; they can contact you afterward to plan out a date.

What is going to be better than this that if your date says, “Hey I am tight on my schedule this week but if I get a chance, shall I be able to see you again?”

You find a weird level of comfort

If you two are nervous at the beginning, but always seem to end up in the odd level of comfort together as the night progresses then this signifies a positive growth of your relationship.

Your phones are gone when you are together

Putting your phones down and simply talking is the biggest respect and compliment anyone can give or receive. It signifies that who matters the most.

Nothing else around you matters

You would either be enjoying the world together doing things that interest you both or be blind to the world around you. Nothing is going to matter when you both are together. Just you and your date, nothing else will interest you.

Your body language is much more relaxed

At first, when you two are together, you two are conscious about how to sit and where to put your hands. But later, you will realize that you have entered into a relatively comfortable zone where brushing of hands and a slight touch on the thighs does not matter then this is the point which indicates that you are all set to grow into a strong bond.

Just stick to these simple signs, and you will be able to assess your date that whether it will prove to enter into a long lasting relationship or just end up after some time.