The fact is many relationships end because one or both persons in a couple failed to realize their expectations or have unrealistic ones, to begin with. So, what happens when couples in a relationship don’t get their expectations met? They become unhappy and think of a breakup. Therefore, it’s wise to know what to expect in a relationship before you be in one.
Here are four unrealistic expectations men and women have in a relationship and which are also responsible for its demise as well.
Being in a Relationship Will Make Me Happy
Believing that you will be happy and complete in you’re in a beautiful relationship is an overstatement on your part and edging towards fantasy. It’s totally understandable of your belief that if you be in a meaningful and loving relationship and provide you what you’ve been missing, but it doesn’t always work that way. It’s your responsibility to find ways on how to be happy; being in a relationship is just a part of it.
My Partner Will Spend Most of Their Free Time with Me
The idea of couples doing everything and spending time together may sound very appealing, but this riding on this expectation all the time will make you frustrated later. When you start a relationship, if find your partner little dependent on you, it makes sense that he or she would like to spend more time with your or wake up beside you every day. But remember, that your new partner needs some space and would like to socialize with their friends and family or by their own without their special someone present. Remember, being open to this is the key to long-lasting marriages.
My Partner Won’t Flirt With Anyone
You have to accept the truth that your partner will be attracted to other people besides you and when you aren’t there. So, what about flirting? Do you think that your partner will stop flirting when you are in a relationship? The answer is sad, “no”. But you can set some rules, like tell your partner not to flirt with anyone when you’re present, but also that won’t be able to tell them to stop when you aren’t in front it. In reality, a lot of men and women will flirt anyhow, if you aren’t there.
I Am Going To Have a Lot of Physical Affection in the relationship
Physical affection comes in two types, sexual affection and physical affection, itself. If your partner is very intimate, you will have a very sexual relationship, but most couples aren’t fully into it. If sexual affection is your thing, make sure your partner agrees with it. Regarding physical affection, most men and women aren’t very affectionate, mostly hold hands, kiss or hug now and then. Remember, it’s not their personality. So, if these things are a priority to you, tell your potential partners about it from the start.
The takeaway here is having unrealistic expectations are counterintuitive for a good relationship. When you start going on dates, tell your partner about your expectations and what you want exactly from the relationship from the beginning.