So, you decided to try online dating to meet someone. That’s a good step — forward-thinking and proactive. But there some things you should be careful about otherwise it may turn into habits and counterintuitive for your online dating experience.
Here are six tips to keep in mind as your scan through the never ending the stream of profile you’re your potential suitors.
Pictures Isn’t Everything
In online dating, it’s common for most singles to nitpick and maintain high expectations. But, remember pictures aren’t everything and don’t say much about a person. Things like, “She’s pretty, but I like blondes,” if you are that kind of person, stop it. You’ll never find a person to date this way. If you want to project yourself as a mature and empathetic person, then opt for a want a real connection and a relationship with a person whom you love and in turn love you.
Don’t Obsess With the Details
Don’t worry about the specifics like, which bars, food, restaurants, books or movies he or she likes. Instead, broaden your horizon and look for particulars like does she lives in the same city? Is he a reader? Does she seem funny? Don’t get consumed with the notion that there is someone out there who will match exactly to all your preferences and taste.
Evaluate the Profile for His or Her Attitude
This can be quite difficult, and you are trying to know the person and his or her attitude from a profile picture. Try reading between the lines and see if he or she’s pleasant, friendly and sincere. Also look closely for signs of bitterness, boastfulness, and insincerity. For example, if you see a person saying over and over again that a person is “very satisfied” with his or her life, or “absolutely love their lives,” then it appears the claims aren’t truly honest and exposes his or her vulnerabilities.
People Aren’t Honest About Their Personalities
Most people aren’t genuinely honest about who they are and explicitly lie about their personalities or true motives. For Instance, “I’ m an optimistic person,” or “I have a sense of humor,” means nothing as people are very unreliable self-reporters. People can lie about actual values like age, job, location or education when it comes to less tangible elements; people are simply delusive.
Don’t Get Attached Without a Real Meeting
It doesn’t matter if you have become an expert at reading people profile and passing judgments about how this girl or guy is the perfect match for you. The thing is looks can be deceiving and don’t even start a relationship without meeting him or her first in the real world. You can learn a lot of a person’s manners and demeanor, and things like how he smiles, the tone of her voice and whether he makes eye contact while talking and so on. You don’t get to see this from his or her’s online dating profile.
Don’t Start a Relationship after Two Dates
You shouldn’t do this offline too, but the temptation to do this greater in the online dating arena. Sometimes we become so tired of dating that we just get over it, and rush ourselves into the next thing, the relationship. But getting too soon in a relationship can counterintuitive and can scare your potential partner.
Being in a relationship isn’t all that simple and finding “the one,” can be hard. But finding and getting to know another person takes time and patience.