Most of us have experienced this phenomenon involving human nature in our everyday lives. You probably met people you didn’t like when you first met them, but as you got to know them over time, they became more and more physically appealing to you over time. Why? The reason is that as you got to know them better, you came to appreciate the qualities that made you like them such as their interest in the work you do, their sense of humor, the passions and interests they share with you, and so on and so forth.
So, has this have to do boosting your attractiveness while dating online? Researchers at the University of Kansas concluded that people’s perceptions of their online matches’ physical attractiveness improved dramatically after they interacted with them in person.
The results of the research might be obvious, but they have significant ramifications for online dating:
Don’t wait too long to meet your matches after connecting with them
Texting or talking with your online matches might look like a good idea to get to know more about them, but there’s no substitute for face-to-face interaction. You won’t improve your chances by dragging out the system and wooing them by sending them funny video clips or links to your favorite tunes. If fact you run the risk of disappointing them with your persona that you’ve created online doesn’t resemble the reality. So, communicate with your online matches just enough to flame-up their interest in you and then seal the deal with your inner wit and charm.
Don’t Compare Your Matches
It isn’t a good practice to compare your matches to each other while dating online. The primary research goal was to figure out whether the practice of scrolling through multiple profiles at the same time helped dates to establish connections in real life. The researchers said that it didn’t.
The explanation here is that dates eventually ended up comparing their matches with other matches instead of giving each person a chance to prove themselves. If you keep comparing your matches with other people you’ll end up with fewer matches that work in your favor. So we suggest men and women looking for partners online to evaluate an individual’s attractiveness in relation to their personality, interests, and other opinions in deciding overall compatibility.
A Good Personality Matters A Lot
One interesting result from the study was the attractiveness levels of people rose dramatically who didn’t rate high on their physical attractiveness or attributes. But, it’s important to keep in mind that according to conventional beauty standards, men and women are perceived to be beautiful in their own way.
The good news is that if you think that you’ve some shortcomings about your outer appearance, your other characteristics that make up your personality and your identity can make up for your perceived physical shortcomings. For example, if you’re a funny person and people have fun being with you, your attractiveness levels will go up despite that fact that you aren’t perceived attractive by most people.
So, when you’re looking for a date online, enjoy texting your matches. But try to meet them face-to-face as soon as possible.