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Is Dating a Co-Worker Good or A Disaster Waiting to Happen?

There is nothing unusual people telling that they’ve fallen in love with that cute lady or that handsome guy at work. But is dating a coworker a lucky thing or just a call for disaster? Consider the pros and cons of such relationships before you make such a decision.

Dating someone from work has some benefits. As both of you are working in the same, you most likely know about his/her strengths and weaknesses. You have seen how he/she handles stress and treats her peers and colleagues. Even better, as you both work for the same employer, you two will have the working hours, days and holidays. Both of you’ll have the same values, friends and coworkers. But, all isn’t rosy here. Think whether your relationship will become a topic of office gossip? Will your other co-workers conspire with you? Will they become resentful and jealous towards you? Will you be treated differently by your boss, supervisors or coworkers after they come to know that you’re dating someone at work?

Then there’s the question whether your office romance will affect your productivity at work? There is a chance that you’ll get distracted by your new love interest, at least during the initial stages, and if the relationship breaks down, will you become less efficient in carrying out your job duties? After all, you’re responsible for accomplishing certain tasks by your company. If you think that dating a coworker, will make it harder for you to keep your love life and professional life separate, or it might make you less productive, then having a relationship with a coworker isn’t a right decision.

You should also take into account the financial impacts if the relationship ends. Would you feel comfortable working with him/her at proximity post-breakup? If not, is there any option that you’ll be relocated to another department or location? Or, will you need to look for a new job somewhere else?

Nonetheless, if you’re still interested to date someone at work, the following guidelines will make the whole experience a lot smoother.

Follow the rules of your company or organization. If your company forbids you from dating your coworkers, follow it. Some companies allow it after disclosing it to your boss or supervisors. Don’t date someone who directly answers to you or you answer to them, such your boss or supervisors. You must need to avoid any chances of favoritism, abuse of power, conflicts of interests or gossips from your coworkers.

Maintain clear boundaries between your personal and professional lives. While on the job, focus on it 100 percent. What you do at your workplace is your employer’s business, and what you do outside of work is your personal business.

Keep your romantic behavior discreet. Don’t make your colleagues feel uncomfortable by showing affection to your coworker when things are good, or grief when things go awry. Besides, don’t use any office phone or emails for personal communication as it can interfere with your privacy.

Love can find you anytime, anywhere. Despite all the problems, it’s still possible for singles to date their co-workers and have loving, lasting relationships with them. After all, this is where most people spend almost half of their days.


How to Deal If Someone Gives Mixed Messages

One of the most common complaints couples have to deal with their partners is when one of the potential partners sending out mixed signals. For example, you had a great date, and he said he would call you soon, but it turned out that he didn’t. You had a growing relationship, but all of a sudden, it turned cold, and he started to act distant. Sound familiar?

Here are eleven ways to deal with your potential partner, when he or she begins to send mixed signals. So, the next time you see yourself in a situation like this, try to recall the following:

1. Don’t predict anything or reach to conclusions. We, as humans, try to find out or read into anything that we find concerning or curious about. But, we can’t be sure what going on a person’s head or what he or she is thinking about. Therefore, don’t waste too much energy on wondering what is happening on other person’s head. When the time is right, you’ll know.

2. Don’t take mixed signals personally. Your date sending out mixed signals has nothing to do at a personal level. So, try to resist the urge to blame yourself when things do go as expected.

3. Don’t force or keep nagging your date when he or she gives out mixed signals. Back off and give some breathing space.

4. Believe what you’re told. Unless your intuition tells you something else, believe what your potential partner said. Allow your partner to experience the doubt and show trust – until the trust is no longer there.

5. Realize that the other person may have some personal issues to deal with. Your partner is confused because he or she might be dealing with pains from past relationships, fears, insecurities, or other life circumstances.

6. Don’t be demanding. It’s one of the bad habits you need manage if you want your relationship to last. So, when your partner didn’t call you, don’t call him back angrily and asking him questions like, ‘why did you call or what took you so long to text,' etc. This can contribute to the push-pull phenomenon, which is common in relationships; the more your partner for answers, the far he or she will go away.

7. Try to get a second opinion. If your date is sending out mixed signals, ask your friend to see what’s actually going on might be helpful.

8. Ensure your confusions aren’t contributing to the problem. If you feel vulnerable, it’s likely that you too may be sending out mixed signals. It’s this is the case; things can get even more complicated.

9. Be direct. Ask straightforward questions and don’t be pushy. If you’ve doubts, a few right questions may clear things quickly.

10. Remember, you’re responsible for you. Sure, you can’t control what your partner conveys to you, but you can control the way you react to them.

11. Boost your self-confidence. A high sense of self-assurance and confidence will help you to navigate all the ups and downs of your life. It will also make you look attractive and desirable to your future potential dates, in case your current one breaks up with you.

The bottom line is if you’re seeing someone new, and your date gives out mixed signals, try to talk about it. If the mixed messages persist, think if you can live with them, and decide when to walk away.


Five Signs You’re Suffering Exhaustion In Your Relationship

Typically most of us are acquainted with the term ‘exhaustion.' Burnout happens when you’re working too hard for the results that are being produced. Exhaustion can also be seen in a relationship. When we feel burned out, we lose enjoyment, frustrated, and depressed. If we’re working too hard to make our relationship work and it still fails, we become upset and begin to think that being single would have been better than staying in a dysfunctional and unhappy relationship.

So, how can we tell that we’re tired and burned out in our relationship? Here are five ways to explain it:

1. You start to resent dating. Some people after a breakup get all prepped up to get into the dating, while other seem disinterested or indifferent to dating. These are all somewhat positive indications of wanting to be single again. But, if you’ve decided not to date for a significant period after a breakup or a divorce, it points that you’re tired of being in relationships.

2. You don’t have much enjoyment while meeting potential partners. Most men and women find looking for a date as a stressful activity, but about when you’re meeting one or dating someone you met at work or introduced by a friend? If you feel less excited about these prospects, then we can conclude that you won’t get over your relationship exhaustion anytime soon.

3. Your emotional energy is almost empty. Most folks are depressed and feel exhausted after a breakup or after a final divorce proceeding. There another consequence of a relationship burnout – the lack of emotional energy. If you’ve depleted all of your emotional energy, you won’t feel any emotional reaction even in simple things such as jokes and laughter.

4. You remember only the bad moments. Usually, whenever someone leaves a job and found an opportunity or excited to pursue their passion, they keep reminiscing all the good and bad times about their past jobs holistically. If someone feels grateful to quit a bad job or a relationship, they will only remember all the bad and stressful times they had during that period. You can only recall the fights and arguments with your ex, rather than reminiscing all the good time you both during the early days of the relationship that brought you close to each other.

5. You feel pessimistic or cynical about love. You don’t get into a new relationship because you think sooner or later it will fail. You always think of people who are in love or relationships as fools. You always keep telling bad things about the concept of love and relationship like lies, illusions, etc. If this is all you can think about love, then it’s an unfortunate outcome of relationship exhaustion.

To make this critical period of your life easier and get over it, try to understand what lessons you've learned from your previous relationship so that you can heal and prepare yourself for your next relationship. Even you meet someone interesting, and he or she likes to date you, be straightforward with and tell them you aren’t interested at the moment. If you’ve lost your spark, try to cultivate it again by focusing your interest and passion in other parts of your life.


Five Big Turn-Offs for Men While Dating

Despite the fact that things have changed over the years, most women still follow an old set of rules when it comes to dating men. These may have worked in our earlier generations, but many of these old dating rules no longer work while attracting men to have a healthy relationship. Some are, in fact, total turn-offs. Here are five major turn-offs for men while looking for ‘The One.' Read on to find more:

1. Expressing your feelings while being desperate. There is a big difference when it comes to open communication and being desperate. During the initial days of dating, it is okay for you looking forward to spending more of your time with your man and expressing your feelings without any moderation. But after a few dates, this kind of behavior might make appear as desperate, clingy, obsessive and overly dependent on your partner. It’s better not to rush and wait for some time before expressing your feelings in full force.

2. Downplaying your intelligence and personality. Often women were taught to be timid and reserved. Most women even think that expressing their views, opinions, and intelligence as unfeminine characteristics that would keep their potential partner at bay. Even though women have more rights than ever before, they still think to consider suppressing their real personalities to look cute, submissive and appealing to men. However, a good guy will seek to have a loving, long-term relationship with a woman who has her own opinions and views and with a strong and confident personality.

3. Making him jealous or envious. Openly flirting with other men or talking with your ex is intended to make your partner jealous or envious of you, so that he would love you more, will have an opposite effect on your relationship. This risky behavior isn’t only immature on your part, but it will also hurt his feelings. Keep in mind, if a man is interested in you, he doesn’t want to play games with you. So, if you’re thinking of inviting your ex to the dinner party to make your guy jealous, think again. Instead, focus all your energy towards finding out what made your instincts to come with such as insidious idea in the first place.

4. Being overly caring to him. There is nothing wrong to care for your partner, but whatever you do, don’t try to become his mother. It might have worked well in the old days, where girlfriends and wives had more functional roles to play. But it’s very displeasing and overbearing to men today. Don’t interfere and push your opinions when he’s trying to make a decision. He is an adult, not a kid.

5. Don’t play hard with him, instead interact with him frequently. Playing games and sending our hints or mixed signals don’t work in today’s relationships. While small challenges can sometimes be fun and exciting to men, too much of it can appear to be silly and immature and can be detrimental. It can make you less alluring to him.

Unlike women, men rely more on actions than words. If a man interested in a woman, he will flirt with her, make eye contact, take her to vacations, send her gifts and so on. Therefore, when a man realizes that your actions, gestures, and behaviors are desperate, clingy and overly caring, it will make you less appealing and attractive to him.


3 Ways To Tell If Your Man Is Really Into You!

So you’re in a relationship, but still not sure if your man loves you or not? It’s a haunting feeling most women who are dating or in relationships feel. When a man says, “I Love You,” to someone he loves, it’s considered a game changer. It’s a commitment of the biggest kind. But, why is that you still doubt his feelings towards you? It’s important for you to know this answer as no matter how many times a man says these three simple words; it’s meaningless if you can’t feel the emotion behind them.

Here are three ways for you to find out if your man loves you:

1. He makes you feel and be special
When a guy loves you deeply, he will do a ton of things to show how special you’re to him and how much you mean to his life. He pays full attention to your feelings. He shows concern for your well-being. He will also show his willingness to go an extra mile to do something to make you happy and feel excited. In short, he has taken you to be the most important person in his life. It’s a feeling, you’ll feel there. If it’s there, you’ll feel it. If you don’t feel it, there’s nothing to do.

2. He doesn’t try to change you
If a man has doubts regarding your feelings towards him, he’ll try to find out ways to change some things about you. If that’ the case, love won’t flourish in the relationship. You can’t keep romance and judgment in the same room. If you see that you’re finding it difficult to live up to his expectations, then this man isn’t right for you. There is no point in changing you into a woman he wants and your traits he needs to change. If a guy truly loves and adores you, he appreciates who you are. He starts to love you even more as he finds more and more about you as the relationship progresses.

3. He puts his trust on you with his feelings
You can find love in a place devoid of any intimacy. Intimacy is the ability to allow a person to feel a part of you, which you don’t share with anyone else. It’s one of the essential elements in a romantic relationship, and without it, the relationship has little chance to succeed. We all desire to have a significant someone in our lives with whom we can safely and comfortably share some of our intimate and secret feelings and thoughts. Women are more familiar to this than men. But it becomes easy for men if they can find a man with whom they can open up about their deepest desires, thoughts, and feelings, without being labeled as unmanly or weak. Sharing a secret part of him with a woman he loves makes his love meaningful.

The bottom line is if a man loves a woman, he makes her feel special and desirable. He will cherish her. He will desire her and will do everything to make her feel happy. He will love you the way she is and will share his deepest desires, thoughts, and feelings with her.


4 Steps to Feel More Confident on First Dates

Most of lack high self-esteem and confidence while going on dates, and yet these qualities are the most sought after by most men and women when looking for dates. Many of us lack confidence and self-depreciate because we are scared of getting rejected. They’re afraid that they would remain alone and no one will fall in love with them. Consequently, we find ourselves not enjoying our dates and the whole thing turns awkward.

But, there is a way to feel more confident on dates and overcoming our fears of getting rejected. Here are four simple ways:

Step one; visualize a part of your life where you feel the most confident and not afraid of rejection. It can be your career where you can sell anyone anything they want, or maybe it’s your creative side, where your artworks get sold out within a few minutes. Some men and women feel more confident in the gym or while playing a sport, where they can easily tell what type of exercise will be most useful for them or which game plan will make them win matches. Think about all areas of your life that you feel the most confident. Now while going to your date, close your eyes and visualize yourself in those places in your mind that you’re the most confident.

Step Two: now that you’ve thought about all the places that make you confident ask yourself why do you feel so confident in those areas? Most will tell that you believe in the product or service you’re selling or advertising, you believe in your talent or in the ideas or knowledge you possess. You actually think that your talent, your products, your services, your ideas, or knowledge will have a positive impact on someone and change his or her life.

Step Three: you know what areas in your life you feel most confident and why, now ask yourself, how do you feel when you get rejected in that or those areas? If you get rejected in that part of your life, you don’t think of it as a loss or a failure. You somehow start to think that maybe that product, service or experience wasn’t appropriate for him or her, or it’s simply not right for them. You think that the rejection doesn’t reflect who you really are. It’s never a reflection of you. Ultimately, you will fail if you don’t try it or you’re simply afraid to give it another chance thinking that you’ll fail or get rejected again.

Step Four: Now that you all of thoughts and fears figured out, apply that belief to yourself before heading to your date. While you’re on your way to your date, think about all the parts or areas of your life that you feel the most alive and confident, and turn those beliefs inwards. Think about all the positive effects you can have on that’s man or woman’s life. Be confident and start believing in yourself that this date will change your and the others person’s life. This may sound a little bold, but it’s true nonetheless. The other person with you in date can become your partner, and this can change both of your lives, simply because there was no fear.

Lack of confidence and fear is the main reason why we have bad dates, rejection and relationship problems. So, if you want to find someone new, flirt with someone, or just want to make your partner happy in the bed and the relationship, be more confident and let go of the fear.


5 Actions That Tell Your Man Loves You

If you want to understand men, you need to see their actions. Unlike women who mainly rely on words, you can read a man by his actions. If you really want to know if this is the man you want to have a relationship and get married, his actions will indicate that he is surely in LOVE with you. No matter how hard he tries to conceal his words, the actions speak out in the end.

Here are five actions of a man that says that he loves you:

1. He listens. At the initial days of dating, being a good listener is an attractive and important quality to have, and it becomes even more important and serious if you’re a man. A guy who is interested in you will listen to all you say about your life, family, and friends, and makes sure that he can remember and make references is incredibly appealing to a woman. Besides, by paying attention to you when you speak, shows that he respects and loves you.

2. He is caring. When a man is in love with a woman he likes, he will take care of her. He will fix things around your home or apartment, bring dinner or do shopping for you if you’re sick, take you to dinner or the movies if you’re bored, and so on. All these actions validate that you’re very important to him and he’s trying his best to prove it you by his actions. His efforts to make feel safe and comfortable is clear evidence that he has feelings for you and shows that he can do the same things for you in the future.

3. He has included you in his future plans. If a man loves you, crazy for you, he will talk to you about it and will include you in his future plans, whatever that maybe. It can be realistic long-term plans like inviting you to be his date for his friend’s wedding months away from now and making serious plans to marry you and buy a home for you and your future kids. In other words, he will include you in his daily and future plans, and it all shows that he wants you to be by his side all the time.

4. He introduces you to his family and friends. If a guy is serious about you and he won’t keep you waiting to tell about it to the people he loves, his friends and family members. Come on, if he thinks he has no future with you, why would he make an effort to make you meet his parents. When a man gets you acquainted with his close friends and family, he’s not only feeling proud and happy to show you off to the folks close to him; he also hopes that they too will love you as much he does.

5. When he says something, he means it. Keep all the actions aside for a moment and determine if a man really loves you, when he says the words, ‘I love you' he means it. If a man truly and deeply in love with you and wants you, he won’t be able to keep it in himself. He always says it to you and will make sure he means it!

Actions speak louder than words. When a man truly and madly loves a woman, he will jump leaps and bounds to please a woman, make her feel comfortable, secure and happy physically, emotionally and mentally.


Try These New Year Dating Resolutions To End Your Single Life

Often people tell that New Year resolutions are meaningless and silly. But notice that it’s these pessimistic folks who have made them in the past and failed to honor them. If you’re someone who is organized in making a list and put the effort in achieving them, you’re probably one of those people who get things done efficiently and timely. If you’re single, it is important that you set your dating goals and get to work on your love life, and what’s better to start at the beginning of a new year.

We will discuss three resolutions here; we hope you give at least one a try. So, read on:

First, date at least one new person for the first three months of the year. If you’re still looking for someone, but just don’t have the drive to do it, maybe this will give you some inspiration. If you date at least one person every month, it means that you can date twelve people a year, and hopefully, you’ll find your match there. However, just for any goals or resolutions, it’s better to keep it realistic. What’s the point of keeping promises which you can’t keep? Anyways, we will recommend you stick with dating at least one new person for the first three months of the year. This target is necessary as it keeps you motivated for dating and meeting new people.

Second, have a date with someone at any month of the year, who isn’t your usual type. Suppose, you like tall and blonde women. Just for change go out with a lady who is a brunette, yet not very tall. We understand why most men and women always like to date people who are their type or can relate to. But, it’s important that you expand your “types” category. Dating only individuals who abide by your strict types and preferences will make it harder for you to find a match. Many couples have settled for partners who aren’t their original types because they couldn’t meet someone that fitted their inflexible type codes. So, if you’re still single and looking for a partner, looking for someone that will be a perfect match and type is the last thing you should be doing. The best thing you can do for yourself is to expand your options and to give someone else a shot to be your significant another.

Third, consider adding one new activity or interest into your usual dating schedule. Meeting or hanging out over a cup of coffee or a beer is not bad, but it’s not exciting either. Instead, try doing something different this year. If you’re active and full of energy, do something active and exhilarating that sitting at a coffee table with someone you don’t know. If you’re already dating or in a relationship, doing something active or exciting like a bike ride, skydiving or hiking, will make your relationship fun and successful. And if you had an active date, yet failed to score a relationship, well, you didn’t lose anything.

Going on dates at the beginning of a new year can be a really exciting. So, take some risks, try new things and be kind to yourself. But, for the moment, flirt with women, flirt with men, and get surprised to see the results.


Good Online Dating Profile Photos May Get You More Matches

Online dating has grown in popularity than ever before. It’s just not young men and women looking to find their dates online, even veterans too, have started looking for love. However, people get frustrated when they don’t get much response after setting up their online dating profile, and in some cases, they quit.

But, did you ever think that whether if your bad profile pictures are the main reasons your potential suitors aren't interested in your profile? Having a lovable and decent profile picture is a must if you want to successful in getting attention from people online. Whether they check your profile or not, people are going to make judgments on your online profile based on your photos. Here are few tips that you should remember when uploading your online dating profile photo.

1. Don’t upload blurry, dark or oversaturated photos. Also, don’t upload flash-induced ‘red eye’ pictures of you or with your eyes closed. Don’t post pictures that have the time stamped on them. Don’t post extremely close-up photos or selfies, or with your tongue sticking out. It’s terrible.

2. Never post a profile photo while wearing a costume. It may seem funny to you, but for someone looking for you, it may look utterly strange and awkward.

3. Don’t post profile photos while wearing sunglasses. It’s okay if you upload a few pictures of yourself with shades, but not all of them. If you show off a picture of yourself wearing sunglasses on the beach, it’s cool. Remember, your matches also want to see your eyes.

4. Posting party shots are bad. You don’t want your matches to see you enjoying yourself with your friends with martini glasses or beer cans in your hand. After seeing your party shot images, your match might make the assumption that partying is a big part of your life.

5. Avoid sharing photos you took with an opposite sex without any explanation. A lot of people have online dating profile picture with someone of the opposite sex. They even post a text on the picture which is the person on that particular photo. It makes your match wonder who the other person in the picture is. Mostly think it’s their ex. And you don’t your matches to assume that one.

6. Don’t post images where it can clearly be seen that someone cut or removed their faces out using programs like Photoshop. These types of pictures are pretty common to find on most online dating sites.

7. Don’t post photos that you’ve taken in your car or bathroom. No one is interested in the interiors of your car or bathroom.

8. Never upload hunting pictures, shots of you holding weapons, or posing next to a dead animal you killed. This isn’t only scary, and it makes people uncomfortable and gives them an impression that you like kill birds and animals for fun.

If you decided to have relationship and looking for a woman or man online, please put some effort, time and thought in your photos, because they’re very important. Ask your close friends to take some beautiful, attractive and appealing pictures of yourself. Use the headshot or medium shot as your main cover photo. Also, don’t forget to include a full-length body photo as well.

Happy dating!


Seven Things Single People Are Fed Up of Hearing

It appears that people who are in relationships are very much interested in the lives of their single friends more than their own lives. So, it’s no surprise their single friends are annoyed and tired of their nosy questions and comments such, ‘why are you still single,' or ‘why aren’t you dating anyone?’ And so on. When your reply them in a negative tone, they get all judgmental and make you feel less worthy than them.

Okay, let me tell one thing, there is nothing wrong with you being single. So, don’t let your friends make you feel less. Secondly, when someone asks you these types of questions, it’s okay to make them feel guilty. Here are some questions all those single folks are tired of hearing and how to respond to them in a sarcastic and witty way.

1. You will find love when you least expect it

Well not exactly. You need to put some effort to locate the person you need to fall in love with. If your pals tell you this, let them know that it’s up to you on how to live your life and look for the right person to have a relationship.

2. You get lonely sometimes, right?

Yes, single people sometimes get lonely. But, it is even worse when you feel lonely and miserable despite being in a relationship. Why do you ask? It’s because being married or being in a relationship with a man or woman is one of the worst things to happen to a person’s life as neither can satisfy or fulfill each other’s physical, mental and emotional needs.

3. Are you anxious that you can’t have children?

Women are having babies at their 40s. So, there is a better chance that you too will have kids. Tell your overly caring girlfriend that it’s your body, and it’s your choice when to become a mother.

4. Try online dating, it’s great

Tell your friend to buzz off, when he or she got all excited and cheered up when they tell you to try online dating. We all have tried online dating. Some like it, some have good experiences using it if it’s working for them significantly. Some don’t like it. So, its better you don’t remind them of it.

5. There are plenty of fish in the sea

Just because there are plenty of fish in the sea, don’t always give you a chance to catch one. It takes around ten dates to get one date, with who most men and women will consider going for a second date.

6. You’re still single because you’re just too picky

There is a big difference when it comes to looking what you want to see in a person that will be right for you to be in a healthy relationship. Then there is nitpicking; here you’re trying to find something wrong with someone.

7. Let me set you up with someone

Blind dates work out; sometimes they go wrong. It’s all about being creative and how can you handle the situation. We suggest your friend bring along your blind date, so he or she can meet in a group setting to avoid anything awkward.

Always keep a positive outlook when you’re single, and have faith in yourself that one day you will meet a girl who will be willing to accept who you are and want to be your partner.