Did you know that muscles can be divided into 2 categories such as: glory muscles and real muscles. Let's take some examples: biceps? Glory muscles. Quads? Real muscles. Pecs? Glory muscles. Your entire core? Real muscles. Even though, glory muscles get the attention, the ones which do all the work are real muscles. But what do you think it happens when you sit in a chair at work all day, then go to gym and work on your glory muscles while ignoring anything that doesn’t immediately show up once you throw on a tank top or go shirtless at the beach? You concentrate on overdeveloping some muscles (and a lot of the time, very useless ones), create imbalances in your body, and become the man who can bicep curl 50s but can’t do 10 lunges without tipping over or hurting yourself. Well, forget about this scenario and let us help you with some advice to make sure you don’t become that guy by giving you five exercises to strengthen the weakest muscle in your body, your glutes, courtesy of Paisley Meekin (BA in Nutrition, CPT), owner, lead trainer, and cycling instructor at Honest Training.
1. Straight Leg Single Leg Deadlift
Stand on one leg with the opposite leg raised off the ground. Using your hip as a hinge, bring your trunk parallel to the floor to make a 90 degree angle. Make sure your spine stays straight, avoiding the hunchback, and that your standing leg is straight with a very slight bend in the knee. As you do the move, think about driving your hips back as you bend over, then forward as you return to the starting position. Also, remember to squeeze your glutes. This exercise is effective because it isolates the posterior chain (glutes, hamstrings, lower back), an area where most people are quite weak, Meekin says. To add intensity to the move and incorporate core and balance components, hold the weight in the hand opposite the leg on the ground.
2. Cross Over Lunge/Speed Skater Lunge
Start with your feet hip distance apart. Next, lunge back and behind, crossing the midline of your body with the back leg and lower down by bending your front knee. Then, drive up through your heel to the starting position. Alternate legs or do 10-20 reps on one leg, then 10-20 reps on the other. This move is great because while it focuses on the gluteus medius (the side of your butt), it also uses your core, balance, hamstrings, quads, etc. Again, remember to move from your hips, not your knees.
3. Barbell Back Squats
Getting into this position can be tricky for the first few times, so watch the video above before trying this one. Also, you do not need to go as low as the man in the video when you are first starting out. Once you have the barbell on your shoulder/back, place your feet at about shoulder width apart, with your toes pointing straight out, or if it’s more comfortable, a bit outwards like in the video above. Next, squat down while keeping your spine straight, your core and glutes engaged, and your chest up. Avoid the hunchback! As you get stronger and the motion becomes more fluid, start squatting lower than 90 degrees to really target the glutes, says Meekin.
4. Forward Lunge and Reach
“This is one of those movements that happens in real life so it’s important to learn,” explains Meekin. “It’s taking a big step up a hill on a hike, it’s lunging for a ball playing softball.” Start with your feet hip distance apart and lunge forward with one leg. The back leg can bend so the knee just kisses the ground, or it can stay off the ground like in the video above. Tap the floor with one or, preferably, both hands, then drive through the heel of the front foot to push yourself back up into the starting position. Alternate legs or do 10-20 reps on one leg, then switch to the other. To intensify, add weights but still perform the forward tap.
5. Hip Extensions
Lying on your back, bend your knees so that your fingertips can reach your heels. Next, push your lower back off the floor while driving through your heels to lift your hips as well. Hold for a three second count, then lower back down but do not let your butt hit the ground until you have done as many reps as possible. To intensify, try the same move with one leg lifted off the ground. This move is great for people rehabbing from injury, as it is low-impact but still isolates and works your glutes effectively. Remember to drive through your heels and squeeze your butt as you go up and hold the pose, before slowly lowering yourself back down.
Dear friends, your waiting is finally over. Here comes your emergency shred meal plan that'll get you ripped in two weeks.
Take all your courage and perseverance with you and start your training every day for two weeks and recovering sessions. That means to have a careful balance of macros—rather than a wholesale carbohydrate fast. This is the best bet. This sample day of eating, put together by nutritional counselor and former executive chef Eric Diggs (Team Banks Bodybuilding), maximizes muscle repair while minimizing breakdown.
► 6 egg whites
► ½ cup oatmeal
► 6 oz nonfat or
► 1% greek yogurt
► 1 banana
Fat: 0 g
► 6 oz chicken breast
► 4 oz sweet potato
► 1 cup broccoli
► post-workout shake with 35g whey protein
► 6 oz salmon
► ¼ cup brown rice
► 4 oz asparagus
► 6 oz cottage cheese
► 10 almonds
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Beards have started to have a life and their own personality just like as much as a handbag or a pair of shoes. Let's think a bit about it: would you ever mix up your Adidas with your Manolos? Or confuse your YSL for your Balenciaga? I don't think so. That's why when we talk about beards, and the men and women who love them, we have to differentiate. Have you ever thought about what your favorite beard says about your personality? Surprinsingly or not, your facial hair you all your spend time with reveal can a lot about you, too.
Unless you’ve been living at the bottom of the sea (and if you have been then you know the secret to survive underwater without oxygen), then chances are you know beards are hotter a bowl full of Red Hots. Clean-shaven may have been trending for a while, but #beards are back like #bigbooty and #badbitches.
However beards are much more than fuzzy face-warmers or lumbersexual status-symbols. This collection of facial hair is not just a bunch of dead skin cells conveniently placed around the mouth and cheeks. Scruff, mountain beards, groomed ones and retro goatees all come with different meanings — for him and you. Let’s delve into what your favorite man beard says about you.
1. Scruffy McScruff
You are absolutely sexy and most probably you know it. Scruffy is up on the latest trends and knows the best way to conceal his weak chin is with a light layer of stubble. It might scratch the hell out of your face after a little make out sesh, but you are determined to do anything for this good damn looks. Above anything, the look is what really matters. Mamacitas who fancy a 5 o'clock shadow are equally as trendy. The two of you enjoy reading fashion magazines (GQ for him and Elle for you) and getting pedicures together. Could anything be more romantic? No way Jose.
2. Balls Out Mountain Man Beard
We are talking here about a totes full on long-haired neared, the kind you can make a ponytail with. At times it seems a little feral and other times somewhat intimidating. Sure these men may look like an Appalachian escapee but so what? They don't care at all about this thing. They're just outdoorsy, wild, and rebellious, (unless the guy sporting said beard is Amish, in which case not so much). Ladies who like these guys are a little wild and free themselves, but still committed and steadfast. You don't mind getting a little dirty every now and then, but no matter what happens you will always stand by your partner.
Ladies and gentlemen, summer is coming and it is the perfect season to show off your body and get admiration. Now it's literally the best time in human race history to bulk up. So if you need any tips in order to get great results, then make sure these top 10 foods for bulking are part of your diet!
1.Whole Milk and Cottage Cheese
In case you have thought to avoid dairy products, you should take into consideration that whole milk is a great way to stock up on calcium and add extra fat and calories to your diet, with around 150calories per glass! For example, you can start by consuming cottage cheese and whole milk which will provide you with a good source of protein to help build muscle. On the other hand the fat, carbohydrate and lactose helps restore your muscle glycogen stores and maximise your muscle building potential. And if you think that's complicated to introduce it your daily routine, here's how you can do it: start by consuming whole milk with your post workout protein shake or enjoy a pot of cottage cheese before bed. If you want a personal recipe, you can try cottage cheese with nuts and a scoop of chocolate nut.
2.Nuts and Nut butters
If you want great results, you should get nuts about nuts. Any person passioned by their looks and body health, probably you already know that they are energy dense and full of healthy mono unsaturated fats…this is the reason that nuts and nut butters are perfect for bulking! Start with small servings of nuts which provide a large amount of calories in addition to protein and fat, about 300 calories per 50g! On top of that, nuts and nut butters are packed full of essential micronutrients and minerals including magnesium, phosphorus, selenium and zinc, all of which are essential when it comes to maintaining your nutritional status to a healthy level and building muscle mass. So whenever hunger kicks you, try snacking on a handful of nuts. Also, here's one ultimate snack cover: a banana in peanut butter. Absolutely delicious! But … be careful and not exagerate with too much nuts as they are highly caloric and consumed in big quantities they can destroy your plan.
Salmon and other sources of fatty fish can be successfully included in your bulking diet. In fact, even the government of UK recomends eating at LEAST one portion of fatty fish a week. Salmon is full of MUFA- mono unsaturated fatty acids which are super healthy and great for clean bulking! In addition, the benefits of a large dose of omega 3 include joint care improvement and cardiovascular health! During intense training try and consume at least 3-4 servings of fatty fish per week!
Do you already feel a superhero? Not so quickly. Maybe after you’ve stocked up on this super fruit you can consider yourself as one! Avocados contain mono unsaturated fats such as oleic acid which are perfect for adding healthy calories and fat to your diet. Apart from being a healthy source of calories, eating avocado during bulking season also brings a high amount of antioxidants and vitamins including vitamin E – helping to improve cardiovascular health and your overall well being. So here's one quick options to add it in your meals: try mashed avocado on rice crackers, in a salad or even better in homemade chocolate protein pudding and protein truffles!
Don't fall into the trap of using only the egg whites and throwing to the bin the yolks. Whole eggs are great for getting a good source of protein and fat with around 75 calories per egg! Many people, especially those higly interested in bulking their body, consider eggs to be unhealthy due to their saturated fat content and high cholesterol, but we can bet that you don't know that eggs are high in healthy cholesterol? And unless you’re eating 12 eggs a day the saturated fat content shouldn’t be a problem! Start consuming whole eggs and get in a good source of fat and protein by making a whole egg omelette or some delicious scrambled egg!
Red meat is often people's number one choice when it comes to getting the perfect physique lean sources of protein. But consuming red meat is great for bulking for tons of reasons such as: a high source of fat and protein, which when consumed regularly can help the growth of muscle mass. Furthermore, red meat is high in heme iron! Generally, in the diet there are consumed two types of iron – heme iron and non- heme iron- whereby the absorption of these two types of iron differs significantly in the body. For example, the absorption of non- heme iron is largely effected by other dietary factors and foods- the absorption of heme iron however is unaffected by other foods in the diet. When building muscle and training hard, getting an adequate amount of iron is essential. So go ahead and try a delicious steak for your next meal.
7.Coconut and Olive Oil
A bulking diet is also about oils and coconut and olive oils are great to add. Small changes are decisive for big steps in your transformation, so start using more coconut and olive oil in cooking and meal prep. And above all this, these oild don't leave you so full you want to burst!
When it comes to bulking- most people think only about protein, protein, protein and fat. But come on guys, carbohydrates are an absolute must! So forget cutting carbs to a minimum, now is the time to treat yourself and enjoy your meat and potatoes! Sweet potatoes are jam packed full of carbohydrates with the average potato providing around 40g of carbs and tons of vitamins and minerals! What’s more, if you’re persistent and try to avoid sugar, sweet potato is great for satisfying your sugar needs and can be succesfully incorporated into tons of protein recipes- such as this sweet potato protein brownie recipe! Try adding a portion of sweet potato to your meals and reap the bulking benefits!
We have spoken about everything: milk, eggs, meat, nuts, but we haven't yet included oats. So here they come! Oats are another great source of complex carbohydrates that can really give you a helping hand during bulking season. Oats are an amazing source of fibre and complex carbohydrates that are a great aid in digestion but more importantly provide a sustained release of energy. They are just perfect for a pre workout meal. In addition to this oats can add a healthy source of fat and calories to your diet without leaving you feeling too full.
Last but not least- the most well-known sweet sin. If you simply cannot let go of sweets, dark chocolate is the perfect fit. It is a great way to fix your sugar cravings! What’s even more, chocolate with over 75% cocoa content is full of antioxidants and monounsaturated fats! For the ultimate bulking treat- try a banana covered in peanut butter and dark chocolate!
A Take Home Message
If you’re bulking and don't take into consideration at least a few of the above tips for bulking foods in your diet you could be making some serious mass gaining mistakes! Don't worry, you still have time to rethink your diet and enjoy this year’s bulking season and get amazing results!
There's always that guy at the bar that seems to be getting all the women. He's arrogant, rude and marches to the beat of his own drum. But still, women flock to him. This is when you, the decent guy, start wondering how is it possible that many of the sensible and responsible women are attracted to this type of “bad boys”? What do they see in these rebels?
Well, your waiting is over now. Here are eight tips which will enable you to get a little bit of a bad boy characteristics.
Yes, yes, we all know the saying that in order to have a happy life with your better-half you have to reach a compromise with her opinions and beliefs. But this is not the case. If you want to be a bad boy, then trust us! You will be extra attractive to any woman you get in contact to, if you have a decisive opinion on everything. Put your bossy mask on and decide where you would like to dine on a Saturday afternoon and what you want to do in the weekend. Be decisive, know what you like and transmit it.
Be a MAN
With bold, capital letters! It’s already universal knowledge that women are attracted to men who leads them, take control of any situation and go after what they want.
A whole lot self-love is mandatory. A man who values himself knows exactly what he can bring and expect from a relationship. Being aware of his qualities and spreading this feeling through all his pores, it’s a true catch.
Treat Yourself Right
Allow yourself to enjoy the things you appreciate. And don’t worry, you don’t have to be a billionaire to treat yourself right. But, above anything, you should make time for your hobbies and pleasures. Spend time doing things that you like and make you content. Happiness will bring you more confidence in your strengths.
Share Your Experiences
Have you done exceptionally awesome things in your life? Well, now is the time to talk about them. Be self-confident and share with excitement everything you’ve done.
Passion is seductive. Keep your enthusiasm about every part of your life. Of course, you may not love your job, but when you talk about it, picture it eagerly. Your apartment might not be the home you ever wanted, but when you mention it, be zestful about it. Your family could very well be a tad bit nutty. Don’t stress – most families are. Share stories about your family and be animated.
Avoid Being Boring
Banal men aren’t a turn on. Women want to date spicy, self-confident, captivating men. No matter what, avoid being boring, monotonous, or coming off very routine oriented. Be smart and tell funny stories and ask interesting questions.
Activate Your Charms
A man who is charming will win it all, both men and women will feel like he’s genuinely interested in them. You should put accent chatting with others and having an attractive personality. Here’s one easy tip: be engaging! Be so captivating and fascinating that all women would want to meet you.
To put in a nutshell, remember 3 words and you will be a genuine bad boy: be charming, self-confident and uncompromising.
Let's face it, when it comes to meeting the next Ms Right, we could all do with a little help. Here are seven things to keep in mind next time you're out on a date.
1) Don’t forget your manners
A little etiquette never killed nobody. On the contrary, it will raise your level of atractiveness. Do simple gestures like: telling her she looks nice, open the door as she walks through, or offer your arm as she steps down from the curb – but play it natural. Also, make sure you remember particular characteristics like her eye colour (trust us it’s important!) and when you’re comfortable, maybe test the waters by leaning in a little closer as she speaks – if she backs away, well, it’s probably not going well.
2) Be confident
Everyone’s nervous on a first date, but there’s nothing more attractive than a bit of self-confidence. When it comes to conversation, stay in your comfort zone by bringing into discussion a few topics that you can control easily so you’re not out of your depth too early. But it’s a delicate balance on this one – don’t insist too much on the same subject that you feel confident and bang on about it all night. If in doubt, ask your date about themselves and start from there.
It sounds simple at a first look, but choosing someone with similar interests is a big plus. If you like nothing better than watching football over a few beers – and they hate sports with a passion – it’s probably not going to work out in the end. Here’s one quick tip: be yourself and don’t try to force it.
4)Keep it casual
Drinks are fine for a first date. After all, no one wants to sit through the seven-course degustation with someone you’ve only just met – especially if you both realise it’s not going to work after the entrees appear. Also, the location is important to determine the course of your future relationship. For a first outing, it would be better to head to a bar you’ve been to before – you’ll at least know your way there, and it’s one less thing you have to worry about. But avoid just heading to your nearby favorite place – it’s obvious if you’ve chosen somewhere that’s just around the corner from your place. Try for something that’s convenient for both of you to get to.
You wouldn’t imagine but the period of the week that you choose is also important. For the first 2 dates you go for the weeknights, while after the third outing together choose the weekend. Otherwise, they’re going to wonder what you’re doing that’s so much more interesting than them. Or, even worse, who.
5) Be prepared
Firs impressions always count a lot and are decisive, therefore your first date is a great opportunity to show her what you're made of. Be the best version of yourself and show your date that you really care. Get your hair cut, maybe invest in a new outfit, smell good and check your teeth and nails are looking presentable. Plan to arrive a little early, so you’re not flustered when you walk in the door and you’ve got a bit of time to give yourself the quick once-over in the bathroom mirror.
When it comes time to order, play it fairly safe by avoiding anything you’ve never tried before or that’s tricky to eat. Remember that you are what you eat, so pay attention to what type of food you choose and what is the impression that you want to make. First few dates, make the food good, simple and completely forgettable so you can focus on each other. When you choose the wine and you are not a big coneisseur, go for the pinot if you want red, because it suits more food than not.
6) Get a second opinion
If you’re a little clueless or just want to make sure you’re on the right track, don’t be afraid to ask your friends for a few pointers. And if possible, try to have the opinion of a friend-woman. See what they think of the outfit you’re planning to wear, or the venue you want to take your date to. It might save you from some disasters like wearing that shirt everyone hates, or the place which got your friend sick.
7) Eyes in front
When you’re on a date with someone, they should the centre of attention. Ask them about themselves and pay attention to their answers. And remember that women have a 7th feeling which will immediately get activated if you try to get a sneaky look at your watch or phone – and that blonde sitting at the bar who you just checked out. Yes, yes, lift your jaws up because they see everything.
8) It pays to pay
If it’s a first date, it won't do you any harm to pay – or at least offer. Quibbling with who should pick up the bill is a bad look and it’s hardly going to give the best first impression. Also, it’s perfectly fine if your date offers to split the check, as it shows that she is genuine and she is interested in spending time with you as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of who’s she with.
Almost any man wants to make a good impression in front of a woman. But did you know that she can reject you even before saying “Hi”? It’s shocking, right? Well, believe it or not, even before you prepare to say any “magic word” to a woman, she can decide if she is attracted to you or not. Women are first of all attracted by how you look, and not specifically by your physical shape, but by the way you dress to emphasize that shape.
Therefore, we have prepared a video-guide below to show you some tricks which will enable you to practically decide by your looks if you want to attract or reject a woman. Start by thinking about this aspect more seriously and see if it makes sense to you. In the end, if you understand all these, you will see that the results will appear faster than you have ever imagined.
Did we make you curious? Let’s see how you can transform this idea into a super-power.
Why is it important to pay attention to what you wear?
A woman will never fall in love with a man who is wearing a horrible shirt with pants belted halfway down his thighs, or even worse. We can even make a bet that a man like this will never have success with a beautiful, attractive woman and she will never even speak with him. On the other hand, if you decide to show up with ironed, straight cut pants and a fit shirt, you will not have any negative surprises. It may seem weird – but trust us, in the eyes of a woman clothes are important.
What type of clothes to choose depending on your body shape?
Here comes the first video which will show you how to dress for your body type. The fashion consultant from the video will show you how to dress to look flawless and impress. Men don’t look all the same, so we think it’s important that you pay attention to this video and identify your body shape in order to make the right choices.
What clothes should a man have in his wardrobe?
You already started thinking and went to inspect your wardrobe? Check the video below and you will see what pieces a man should own that are considered universal for any outfit. What about shoes? Are they important? And pants? Too many questions, right? You will find your answers here.
How to fold up your shirt sleeves?
You heard your friends or saw on TV that one of the trends is to roll up the sleeves of your shirt? But you don’t know how to do it in order to keep it refined and look nice? In the video below you will find all the tricks and tips to do it.
And if you want to become a master in rolling up your sleeves, check this free guide on how to dress sharper by fixing the most common 7 mistakes.
How to Tuck in Your shirt
Do you think this is too complex or unimportant? Not at all. Think about how many guys you see around you with their shirts tucked in and looking bad. You don’t want to be like them, right? So watch this video and you will find how easy it is to tuck in or untuck your shirt.
You will also find in the video that he speaks about an article which goes into a more advanced way of how to tuck your shirt. Check it here and become a master.
How to improve your wardrobe without spending too much?
Okay, all these videos and tips are nice and give you a lot of ideas. But how to do it in a low budget? We have thought about this also and we have this video for you where you will see that in order to dress well and attract women you don’t have to spend a lot of money and buy expensive clothes.
All in all, if you started to realize how important is for a man to pay attention to what he wears in order to look good and impress any woman around you, then it means we reached our goal. Trust us, women will never resist in front of a well-dressed man.
Dating may appear to be a very complicated business! There are several queries that may swing around your mind before, after or during a date- What must you dress in? Where should the date meet? How often would you call? How much would you speak? So, here some tips will assist you in dating. You can also know how to flirt with girls.
First feelings are always significant
You are possibly thinking to wear the jeans that you consider lucky. However, keep in mind that it can be the foremost impression, which you will create in the mind of your female suitor. That’s why you must not pretend to be a person that you are not in the real world. A girl may want to see that you are proud of your look. Never worry; it does not mean that you have to put on a full formal jacket. However, doing a shave or wearing a smart outfit may help you to impress your date.
Plan for dating in some comfortable place
You may believe that being a gentleman, it is better to allow your date to choose the site for meeting her. However, women sometimes want to see whether you are able to take control. Besides, women also like to get surprises. Moreover, since dating may be an overwhelming experience, you can gain confidence by planning to get together in some familiar area. It will assist you to feel much more comfortable. So, take this dating advice for men, and stay relaxed all the time.
Being self-assured (but not excessively) is essential to women while it is the matter of choosing a gentleman. When you are slightly shy, you can practice in advance by speaking to the strangers, whom you do not recognize. Or, when you are on a date, choose a topic about which you are enthusiastic, for example, a hobby. The woman will find your self-assurance when you speak ardently on it. Some people can be shy also in their look. You are perhaps not much tall but it is more striking to any woman to prove that you are happy with your own figure. On the websites, you can find more dating tips for shy guys.
Don’t make extensive discussion
On your day, when you have to meet the suitor, you need to ensure that you do not do all the chatting. You must attempt to keep your discussions concise and short. You do not like to bore your date. When everything goes well on the particular day, you can get more opportunities for sharing the stories and moments in future. Do not be afraid of pauses. Listening is also essential, because it reveals that you are concerned on her, instead of giving priority only on your own words.
Keep the chat amusing
You must strive to keep the discussion cheerful. On the first date, there is no need to enter a profound conversation. Women often desire a man, who may make them smiling all the time. You may need to be grave at times; however, in the initial phases of dating, you can have fun.
Avoid the conversation about ex-lover
Speaking about your previous lover is very risky. It is better to keep away from that discussion in general. Your desired girl may not be engrossed in this matter and it may make all the things very awkward. If at any time the woman introduces the topic, strive to keep the replies concise (without looking doubtful). Assure that your history is the past and you like to spend time in knowing her more. This dating advice for guys is really very important.
In the past, there was just a single kind of steak in any menu of a restaurant. But, now you may have tofu steak, tuna steak and many more. The same thing may be seen in case of dating. Mobile dating and online dating have enhanced your menu. You may find a huge number of girls in your schedule. It may sound great. But, you have to remain on track, when you like to keep away from the bad reputation. Meet one date on a single night. Do not get in touch with some other women, when you are on the date.
Another major dating advice for men is that you have to show thoughtfulness and compassion to the feelings of a woman. Any worthy woman may feel attached to a guy to maintain a positive impetus. While any woman cannot hear anything from you, a room of adverse energy may grow.
A woman wishes to make out whether you are dreaming her. You may allow her realize it with a message and an instant phone call and so on. These little things can lead to a great difference.
Get advice from female buddy
Dating is such an issue, which we never learn at any school. However, when you are planning to develop your dating abilities, you may speak to your female companions. Talk about your previous date- when and where you have gone or what you have done. Every girl will give you various views, but still, it may enable to have you some helpful feedback about how to act better on the subsequent date. Thus, this will serve as the most excellent dating advice for men.
Be patient as much as possible
This is the last dating advice for men. When you have a plan for dating, you should acquire patience as your virtue. Do not give up short-term longings for the long-term pleasure. While you hurry, you damage your opportunities to have a significant association with a superb woman through the dating without drama. Consider the dating as a trip to get an important relationship. Thus, all the stated tips can help you to understand how to get a girlfriend at any stage of your life. You only have to keep the above points in mind so that you will have no frustration, and can gain the heart of the girl you desire.
It’s so easy to get mad at a girl when she does something stupid and just say “Fuck it, I don’t need this chick anymore. I’m done with her.” Trust me. I know how it feels.
The last chick that forwarded my phone call I immediately hung up and texted, “You forwarding my phone calls is literally telling me to go fuck myself. So next time you even think about hitting my up for a booty call just take your dildo and shove it up your ass!”Needless to say I had a few drinks before, but I was still irate and rightfully so. She could’ve easily answered the phone call and said she was busy and I wouldn’t have given a shit.
But either way it’s never worth it. A week or two after I sent that text message I really didn’t feel like going out and she was the only girl I was dating that smokes and chills, so I had to swallow my pride and hit her up. Luckily, she’s also a little freak so I didn’t have to do much convincing to get her to come over.
If you consciously take an approach to try and maintain a relationship with every girl you have relations with, it pay’s huge dividends in the end. I’m talking dividends like buying Apple stock a few years ago. This summer I went to Miami and met this Brazilian girl really casually. We spoke for a few minutes at the bar, exchanged numbers and that was it. She friend requested me on facebook a few weeks later and a month ago when I was looking for plans for the weekend I get a message that says, “Hey I’m going to be in your state this weekend with a bunch of my Brazilian girlfriends.” The kid I worked with read the message over my shoulder and said, “Man do I fucking hate you.”
And so what if her friends looked more like they were from some South American Jungle and not your standard Brazillian smokeshows, my night still ended well to say this least. I even learned a little Spanish. “Ay Papi” will be stuck in my head for the next few days.
I also find that this strategy works well with flaky girls. Perhaps you get their numbers and they flake on you the first few times you try and hangout with them. But instead of calling it quits, you leave it alone for a few weeks and all of a sudden you get a text, “Heyy! What are you up to tonight?” Next thing you know you’re asking her if she wants to get some breakfast before you drop her off home.
The key to this approach is to keep relationships with everyone. When you start to pick and choose who you might want to meet up with again in the future it never works out because life is so unpredictable. So make an extra effort to keep lasting relationships with all girls because a little work here will do wonders for you in the future…
Why is it that every time I finally find a restaurant or bar that I enjoy going to, some sexy waitress comes along and I feel completely obligated to get in her pants just because I’ve been staring at them for two hours straight. One second I’m order a cheeseburger, and the next thing I know I’m smoking weed with this naked Applebee's waitress in my bed figuring out what kind of discounts I’m going to get. I know, I know, you’re not supposed to shit where you eat, but then again sometimes I eat where you shit and I’m not supposed to do that either (think about it for a second).
Getting a waitresses’ number can be quite an easy task because the girl is literally forced into talking to you. There’s no need to worry about coming up with some elaborate opener or pushing the issue when you’re afraid she’s about to walk away. Take your time, you have until the meal is done, and if you can’t get digits by the time you’re done with your main course, there’s always dessert. And when you get really good, you’ll be tasting her for desert. Yeah buddy.
I suggest starting off slow because waitresses have a tendency to get hit on my every horn-ball that sits at their table, so simply ask her how her day is going and say thank you when she gives you her menu. If you plan on ordering some type of alcoholic beverage, ask her what her favorite drink is, perhaps saying something like, “What’s your favorite drink here? And please don’t say something really girly!” You can use the same flirty comment when your order food as well, “What should I get to eat? And please don’t say a salad!” Choose one of the other, there’s no need for both. Don’t get crazy playa.
I like to keep if very polite even when I’m making a joke because the majority of people in this world are straight assholes. They think waiters and waitresses are there to serve them and aren’t people like everyone else, so being polite will immediately be noticed.
Now after your first flirty joke wait until she comes back and try and continue with some standard conversation, asking questions like “So how long have you been working here?”,“Have you been busy today?”, “Are these mozzarella sticks always this good or am I just really high right now?”
When it gets close to the end of your meal is a good time to take that flirting to the next level. What I’ll do is ask them what they are doing after they get out of work very casually, “So do you have any plans after work or are you just going to go home and pass out?” She’ll have some answer and to be polite she respond and say, “What are you doing tonight?” and that’s when you respond in a sarcastic tone and say, “Katie we just met and you already want to hangout with me. I’m not used to moving this fast.” Make sure to call her by her name. By addressing her by her name you’re showing the confidence that you can talk to someone you just met and make it feel natural.
A comment like this takes it from a ‘this guy is just being polite’ to ‘maybe this guy likes me,’ and based on her answer you can get a feel how she feels about you. Worst case scenario she says, “You just asked me!” in a snotty tone and you can say, “I was just kidding,” which is always my bailout.
Since I don’t like imposing on girls when they are work and blatantly asking them for their number, I’ll wait until she’s alone either waiting by the bar for a drink order, or on her way to another table. I’ll time in perfectly like I’m in a mission impossible movie and I’ll get up, walk towards her casually and say “Hey you,” to make sure I have her attention and then I’ll whisper, “I won’t be mad if you leave your number on the check.” I’ll make eye contact and smirk while I keep walking and head to the bathroom or outside to smoke a cigarette.
That how you hook up with the hot waitress boys.
If she wants you to have her number she’ll write it down, and if she doesn’t she’ll pretend like it never happened. It’s the perfect scheme. The only bad thing that can happen is when shit ends poorly because 1). You didn’t answer her texts 2). You only call her after 12pm and 3). You don’t ever bring her around your friends. Then you're stuck watching the football games at your house because you want to avoid seeing her at Miller Ale House, Applebee's, TGIF’s, and McCann’s. Damn, I’m running out of fucking places, but I guess that’s a good problem to have.