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How To Get Your Power After Your Girlfriend Cheats On You

Let’s face it, like breakups; infidelity is incredibly painful. The pain from infidelity manifests like a weed. If you don't address it and allow it to grow, it will consume you. It will continue to spread its roots deep within your mind and heart, engulf you and make you incapable of falling in love again. It will make you think all men or women are like that and will treat you this way. You will have thoughts telling you that it’s your fault that your girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you. And what’s worse is that the more you have these thoughts and feelings, the more it will lead you to a darker place.

So, how can you get out of this rut, regain yourself, and find love again? Sure, it will take some time, and you’ll need some time to mourn before you can move on. But, you can allow your mourning kill your future to find new love. You’ll also have to reassure yourself that, when it comes to infidelity, none of it was your fault. If your girlfriend cheated on you, she’ll try to shift the blame on you and will remain adamant that it’s because of your fault that compelled her to be unfaithful in the first place. Once you realize this, surviving infidelity and healing will become much easier for you.

Here the four rules that will show how to be happy after being cheated on:

  1. Don't believe everything you hear.

Don’t pay any heed to the voices in your head that are always telling you if you’ve been more attentive to your partner; she wouldn’t have cheated on you. This is simply the voice telling you it was your fault that your girlfriend wasn’t loyal to you. It wasn’t and was never your fault. You didn’t push her to commit infidelity.  She did that by herself. Your problems are yours only.

  1. Distance yourself from the problem

Just because you’re distancing from the issue, doesn’t always mean that you’re avoiding or ignoring it. If you find yourself thinking about the signs that you should have noticed of your partner cheating on you and act on it immediately, then stop thinking about it. Don’t dwell on the past. Instead, reflect on the signs for a moment and learn from it. So, the next time, something like this happen, you can take necessary actions.

  1. Just let yourself go, and it’s fine

When you’re dealing with infidelity, you’ve to recall what it was like being single. Remind yourself you’re still as adventurous, fun, and attractive as the first time you both met. One of the biggest reasons most men and women cheat is because they want to feel and relive the excitement that they experienced during the “honeymoon” phase of a new relationship. So, if you let yourself free and attempt to regain that spark again, you’ll find happiness.

  1. Take a break

While coping with infidelity and in the process of regaining yourself, you’ll see yourself on an emotional roller coaster getting confused which ride you’re hoping to go on next. Sometimes, you won’t have all the answers to your questions and don’t beat yourself up for it. Just let things as they, allow them to settle and don’t make excuses. Keep in mind, healing from cheating can take several months or even years and that is okay.

You’ll Be Sorry Losing The Woman Who Waited For You To Get Yourself Together, Why?

Let’s face it; love is beautiful. It’s complicated too. Sometimes, we have problems in our relationships, and some of these originated from our personal issues. If you want to have a happy and healthy relationship each partner to acknowledge that he or she has personal problems that need to be taken care of and be willing to work.

If your girlfriend tells you about some annoying traits you have or has problems with your lifestyle, or you’re just having some personal or emotional problems, she’ll give you 2000 chances to get your shit together. That’s the thing with women. We believe if you’re willing to spare some time and effort, you can be the best version of yourself.  And we all want to witness that when that occurs. This also one of the main reasons why some women decide to stay in romantic relationships or marriages not perfect or are riddled with problems, or can’t break up with their boyfriends despite they aren’t treating them well. Your girlfriend really wants to believe you, when you say her, you'll do better. She keeps hoping that you'll actually do it this time.

But, bear in mind. Everything has its limits. When a woman says she is done, she's done. When a lady realizes that she’s happier and her life is much better with you in her life, she’ll stop wasting her time and energy in the relationship. She’ll cut you lose, dismiss all connection with you and will distance herself from you. When that happens, then no amount of transforming your body, career, habits, lifestyle, is going to make her return to you from her new found freedom in life and your influence. It’s common to think that you blew your chances and encountered her some awful and lame clichés like, “if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best.” The truth is statements like these don’t have much effect on the person who isn’t obligated to stick around for anyone else's nonsense. Nobody deserves to have a drama-filled, stressful life because his or her significant other can't take responsibility for their destructive roles or decisions. If your partner rejected you because you can’t get your stuff together, her act of rejection as an indication of self-care can hurt your feelings and disappoint you. But, she had come to make this decision probably because of your actions.

By the way, it’s true; you’ll have no problem finding someone new when you made some life-altering actions to get your life together. It’s a fact that individuals usually get attracted to people who seem more stable and aligned with their life goals and purpose. Nonetheless, you should be willing to date someone who is attracted to you and stands ready to continue being in a relationship with you when life’s various hardships and challenges get in the way. After all, you’re 100% sure that the woman who stayed with you through all of your ridiculous bullshit would stand by your side during the bad moments in your life.

9 Brutally Heartbreaking Reasons of Why People Breakup

Let’s be honest, love hurts. We all have experiences about times when we feel like we're going to burst if we don’t let something out. It might be something about your ex, or it might be something you dislike or find annoying about your relationship. You’ve been open and honest while expressing your thoughts and feelings. You also learned the hard way that when you say something to someone at the wrong time, there will be consequences, it doesn't matter if they're right or wrong people.

Some of these consequences can be extremely harsh and painful such as a breakup or a divorce. Healing or getting over a breakup or a divorce can take a long time, and some men and women never can cope.  The heartbreak the received from the demise of their relationship was so severe that they’ve decided not to be in a relationship or date anyone else anymore.

So, what are the reasons couples decided to end their relationships? Here are some brutal and heartbreaking ones:

  1. Relationships can end if one of the partners has a passive approach to relationships. It means these men and women don’t date someone who thrives in chaos. Meanwhile, the other person thinks that he or she doesn’t like to fight or argue, is boring and is okay with a lot of things.
  1. Breakups occur because of trust issues. Some people just can handle trust or regain trust in their partners when they break it. This is evident when a spouse commits adultery.
  1. Relationships don’t last because of deflecting insecurities. In some relationships, two people aren’t just compatible with each other. They’re manipulative, selfish, super jealous and have low self-esteem, all of which are detrimental to a long-term relationship. These men and women aren’t necessarily bad; they aren’t just the right person for a relationship.
  1. Believe it or not, breakups can happen if couples detach from social media. We have heard about relationships ending because one of the partners weren’t on Facebook for a week or wished them on their birthdays! Ridiculous, right?
  1. Sometimes relationships end because one of the partners was too old. So, if you think that you can find love at any age, think again.
  1. Couples break up because they can’t handle the disadvantages of being in an open relationship. Some couples get into an open relationship without understanding the consequences or the awkwardness of an open relationship such one partner having sex with the person while dating someone else.
  1. Relationships end because one or both of the partners in the relationships aren’t over their exes or their past relationships. People, who didn’t move on from their previous relationships aren’t just ready for a new relationship.
  1. Differing religious beliefs can be a reason for a relationship. You can’t have a happy and healthy relationship if you don’t agree or compromise on each other religious values. Some things are just non-negotiable.
  2. If one of the partners is depressed or has some significant emotional problems, it can drive a wedge between the relationship. You aren’t fully ready to be in a committed relationship if can't handle someone you love at their worst or yourself for the matter.

9 Kinds Of People Most Likely To Cheat On Their Partners

Let’s make one thing clear; no one on earth actually wants to date a cheater. But, often, there are times we fail to see the signs that our beloved boyfriend or girlfriend was lying to us and having an affair secretly with someone else that will ruin your life and your relationship.  Stop worrying whether she’s hiding a second cell phone in the closet, her being less affectionate or having less sex with you. Instead, what you should be asking yourself is; whether your girlfriend is addicted to Twitter? Is your girlfriend blonde? Is your boyfriend turning 29? Is your boyfriend tall or not? etc.

Here’s a list of nine types of people who have a higher tendency to cheat:

  1. People Whose Age Has The Number “9.”

Looking forward to going on a date with a guy who's about to turn 29? It might be better if you wait a year or so. Why? Because science said so! A new study published in the Proceedings of the Natural Academy of Sciences reported that men and women turning to an age that has the number “9” are highly likely to be unfaithful on their spouses.  Why? People who are turning 29, 39, 49, and so on, tend to make major life-altering choices as they reach those ages.

  1. Tall Men

This doesn’t necessarily mean that short guys make great boyfriends. According to, a study from an extra-marital dating website, men over 5'10” are twice more likely to cheat on their girlfriends than their shorter counterparts.

  1. IT Guys

Don’t get fooled by their patience, hoodies, or hipster glasses. When it comes updating your iPhone, these guys are sneaky and cheating hubbies.

  1. Rock And Roll Fans

According to another survey on, an extra-marital dating website, 41 percent of all cheaters prefer rock and roll music than all other genres. So, who are the most loyal partners? This might surprise you: rap lovers.

  1. Female Teachers

So, what professions are highly likely to lead ashtray? According to, an extra-marital dating website reported that its typical cheating wife is likely to be a teacher.

  1. Blonde Women

Do blonde women have more fun than other women? Well, if you consider cheating a fun activity than you got it. A survey by found that among all the women who have been unfaithful to their partners 42 percent of them have blonde hair. So, what a better girlfriend? Date brunettes or girls with black hair as only 11 percent of women are cheaters.

  1. Twitter Users

We all know social media can be detrimental to your romantic relationship. Apparently, this statement gets even more validated by a University of Missouri study that shows people who tweet are more likely to commit infidelity. The more a person uses Twitter, the more he or she is likely to have relationship problems such as extramarital affairs.

  1. Shopaholics

A survey by revealed that their usual, cheating female user is a diehard shopper. Over a third of the women who participated in the study admitted that they spend more on looking good since they started cheating. And an unfaithful shopaholic's most preferred brand? The Banana Republic.

So, there you go, if you’re looking for a date, and don’t want to get your heart burnt, be careful while dating these kinds of men and women.

6 Small Things Guys Do When Getting Ready To Break Up

It’s impossible to know beforehand if someone is about to break up with you, unless, the person tells you. With that made clear, how many of you were be able to predict some of your past breakups? It’s true we can’t 100 percent be sure when our boyfriends are ready to dump us, but there are some signs you can tell that a man might be about to end the relationship with you.

Here are few signs that will let you know if a man wants to break up with you:

1. He Suddenly Becomes More Interested In Himself
We aren’t telling you your partner’s whole life should be centered on you. In fact, it’s healthy for your boyfriend to have an independent life outside of the relationship. But, all of a sudden if you see that he emphasizes all of his free time into things that don’t include you, or don’t want to add you, then we may have a problem. It’s highly likely that he’s prepping himself to become single again.

2. He’s Not Interested In Sex
Physical intimacy is an important part of a romantic relationship. So, if your partner doesn’t get turned on by you, be aware. There could be many reasons. Either he is stressed out or depressed, he is pulling away from you, or he is cheating. It can also be that he's become increasingly cranky. Nonetheless, it is a bad sign.

3. He's Started Working Late
Working late doesn’t necessarily mean that your boyfriend is done with the relationship. Working late at the office can be an indication that he’s ready to dump you or is having an affair. On the other hand, working late can also be a positive thing. Maybe, he’s working late to get the best engagement ring you wanted, save for the wedding, buy a home, get a promotion, and so on and so forth. So, just make sure if he’s working late is leading to other bad signs.

4. He's Meeting Up With His Old Friends
We all have friends we didn’t meet for a long time. Does your boyfriend suddenly have to meet up with an old girlfriend or just an old friend? Does he keep doing that? If he’s running on to them now and again, it’s not good. There is no harm if he’s reconnecting with platonic buddies, but if all those old or long lost friends are old girlfriends, then you need to have a serious conversation about it with your partner.

5. He's Seem Less Concerned To See You
Nowadays, if you see your significant other doesn’t want or need to see you in person or wants to spend time with you, it’s not because you both have become comfortable with other. It’s just that seeing you or spending quality time with you is not as much of a priority to him anymore.

6. He's always on his phone
Does your boyfriend spend too much time on his phone that makes you wonder whether he’s having a relationship with it or with you? This sad and disrespectful behavior not only puts a barrier between the two of you, but it could also probably that he’s hiding something serious from you, or hiding another relationship.

6 Heartbreaking Reasons Why Men Broke Up With Their Long-term Girlfriends

Apart from all the clichés that most relationships end because of infidelity or constant fighting, the reality is that all varieties of romantic relationships fall apart for some reasons. Things get infinitely harder while trying to end a long-term relationship whose romance burned out slowly. It’s very rare to hear long romances to collapse, but nonetheless, it’s baffling and shocking to many.

Here are a few reasons men explain why they had to end relationships they have been for the long haul:

1. I Was Much Close To My Co-Worker Than My Girlfriend
Some men end their long-term relationships when they realize that they were closer to someone at work than he was with his partner. They think that it’s wrong, even after they didn't cheat or anything. They had to end the relationship because they were looking forward to seeing this co-worker than seeing their girlfriends, and that was a problem.

2. My Girlfriend Was Too Boring
Some men end their long-term relationships because they felt bored, or their girlfriends were boring, or they failed to make their relationships interesting. These guys also told that they tried to ask their girlfriends to make their relationships interesting, but their effort just wasn't there, and their partners wanted to be comfortable. They key here is you can’t change anybody.

3. I Just Hated Her Parents
Like it or not, our parents play a major role in and out when it comes to dating and relationships. They can control and influence the decisions that we make in our relationships. We aren’t telling that it’s all bad, but things can become messy if it's getting out of control. Men end their long-term relationships with their girlfriends after they discover they have to deal with their partners for everything and how they controlled her all the time.

4. I Just Wanted To Be Single, Honestly!
Sometimes guys end their long-term relationships with their girlfriends when they have an epiphany that they aren’t full ready to be committed relationship, get married, have kids, and so on and so forth. They still love their partners very, but their souls are yearning to be single again. They feel like they needed to get out and figure out who they really are as an adult as they started to think that being a couple have robbed them of their identity.

5. I Am A Serial Cheater
Some men are just cheaters. They can’t be in a monogamous relationship, end their long-term relationships with their girlfriends because they feel guilty about it. Whenever they are left alone, or their girlfriends are out-of-town for something or visiting their family and friends, they stupidly wanted to have sex with someone else.

6. The Romance Fizzles Out, And Their Girlfriends Don’t Love Them Anymore
Sometimes, when you’re dating someone or in a long-term relationship, the romance and the intimacy just fizzles out, and he or she doesn’t love each other anymore. Some men end their long-term relationships with their girlfriends, as their significant other thought; the relationship has no future, despite both doing their best to save the relationship.

Top Questions You Should Ask Yourself After A Breakup

The breakup is one of the saddest parts of someone’s life that can change an entire world of happiness to frustration and bleakness.

However, clearing up the confusions that are killing you is probably the best way to bring you some inner peace. Ask questions to yourself and think about them to find out the appropriate answers. Here are 6 questions that you should ask yourself when things are jamming up in your head and causing extreme mental disruptions-

1. Why did this breakup happen?
Finding the right answer to this question might weight off from your shoulder which had been pressed for a long. If you remain shocked thinking of why this happened to you, it will do nothing but stop you start a new life. Use your conscience to get the most rational answers. In this way, you can get a clear answer to this question.

2. Did I fully understand him/her properly?
Mutual understanding breeds mutual respect which keeps your relationship alive and going. Misunderstanding and complaining are certainly going to end up in a bad break up sooner or later. So, ask yourself if you understood your partner correctly. If the answer is negative, don’t hold onto your regrets. It was inevitable.

3. What did I expect out of that relationship?
The real life is no movie where the hero and heroine live happily ever after. Life goes through a lot of ups and downs. When someone lives in a romantic relationship, his/her expectations might go beyond reality. They daydream and expect to fulfill all of their wishes. Analyzing your expectations and the possibilities towards their fulfillment can hold a logical explanation of your breakup.

4. Did I give my 100% to my partner?
Maintaining a healthy relationship requires full dedication from both you and your partner. So, even if it’s true that your partner did not put enough efforts to save the relationship, don’t forget to turn the question mark to yourself. Be honest with the truth and admit your lacking that could have led it to the breakup!

5. Who changed and why?
You probably remember those early days of your relationship when everything seemed heavenly with your partner. If the charm that used to make you spellbound doesn’t attract you anymore, there must have been something wrong. Find out why things are not as they used to be. Why you or your partner have changed that aided the breakup.

If the toll is on you, you must suffer the consequences. But if it’s your partner’s fault, you should be happy that you’ve lost someone who was not right for you.

6. What are my plans for myself?

Since you’ve gone through a lot to endure the pain of the breakup, you should ask yourself about the next move. Make some realistic plans to restart your life and take corrective actions to turn into a better version of yourself. If you are still unsure about the reasons of Breakup, Why You can’t get a girlfriend blog post will help you get the answer.

The best thing about these questions is not only eliminating your confusions but also ensuring your personal growth. It eventually makes you a better human being with a great maturity level.

4 Scientific Facts About Breakups

Don't you think that science is everywhere? Yes, science does exist in all the occurrences around and within us. The relationship between men and women is a divine thing on earth but when two people decide to walk on different roads, breakup inevitably comes in their way.

Going through the consequences of a breakup is like living in the hell. Though time heals everything, the healing process doesn't end in a day. Here are four scientific facts about a breakup that may help you introduce with the reality and heal your wounds faster –

1. Stalking you ex on social platforms makes is tough to forget them
The rule of thumb to follow after a breakup is to create a permanent distance with your partner. Since staying separated is both of your mutual decision, respect it. Scientists have found that staying connected to your ex on Facebook or Instagram interrupts the healing and it becomes tougher to move on with life. Unfriending or unfollowing your ex can be as effective as ripping off your bandage.
2. Enduring a breakup is as hard as stopping a drug addiction

The area of the brain which is sensitive to the feeling of affection is the same area that is engaged with the feeling of drug addiction. A comparison between the brains of people in love and the people in breakup showed significant differences in cells pattern of the brain. They also studied on the brains of drug-addicted people and found similarities with that of the individuals with a breakup. It's logical why breakups are so painful.

3. Men suffer more than women in the long run
A study from the Binghamton University found that women are more hurt than men at the initial stage of a breakup but men struggle more to move on and forget everything. It happens because women are usually more dedicated to maintaining a relationship. When a woman goes through a breakup, she might be very upset, but deep inside she knows that she did her best. On the other hand, a man gradually finds out the things that he overlooked for months or years, and it mentally kills him mentally.

4. Relationships become fragile when women earn more
Though it's the right of every woman to work and earn as much as she deserves, men hardly appreciate this fact. Women are considered as the thread that binds the whole family together. The society still bothered with the fact that maintaining a happy family is the prime duty of a woman. For this reason, when a woman earns more, works extra hours till the night, or attends business parties, she fails to look after the family. It aids her man's extramarital affair, a breakup or even leads to divorce.

Some other scientific facts include suffering from identity crisis, degradation of values or going astray. People also make suicidal attempts when they fail to digest the pain of separation. However, it's found that studying on breakups and their consequences help people get over it soon.

6 Things To Consider Before the Breakup

It’s sad that you’re facing some problems in your relationship. You’ve tried your best to make things turn around, but failed miserably, again and again. Now, you're kind of sure that this relationship isn’t going anywhere. You’ve decided to break up, but before you make a final decision, we suggest you ask yourself the following questions:

1. Am I just angry or resentful?
One major reason why most men and women decide to break up is that they’re exhausted or in the middle of unresolved conflicts in their relationship. Deciding to end your relationship in this way just indicates that it’s an emotional one. Wait until you feel calm and less angry and rethink about all the emotional consequences of a break up before you call it quits.

2. Can the relationship be saved?
Are you sincere in saving this relationship? Is there anything in the relationship that’s worth giving it a second chance? If there is a conflict in the relationship, try a healthy approach to resolving it. Express your concerns, make your voice heard, and be accountable for your actions. Listen to your partner and be sensitive to his or her feelings. Give your best shot in the relationship. Avoid blaming your partner for the demise of your relationship, when you haven’t given your best to the relationship. Don’t let love die without a fight.

3. Did you communicate openly what you need in the relationship?
Did you share your feelings and needs with you partner before the breakup? Always choose communication than dismissing your relationship. Improving communication with your partner will reignite the romance and understanding in your relationship. It will also contribute to an intimate understanding of what’s causing the relationship to end. If you’ve been unsuccessful in resolving the problems in your relationship, don’t jump to conclusions quickly. Don’t automatically assume that you’re unhappy because you’re in a bad relationship. Is there is any guarantee that you’ll be happy if you leave this relationship or remain single?

4. Don’t play breakup games.
If you think that giving threats of a breakup will bring you both closer together, forget about it. Don’t pay to break up games or any other games with either of your hearts. If you want to make your relationship great again, invest your time and energy in the relationship.

5. Is anyone influencing you to end the relationship?
Assess whether your friends or family members are advising or influencing you to end the relationship. Evaluate their motives, and talk with them about it. Maybe these have seen some red flags in the relationship that can’t be fixed or ignored. So, they’re coercing you toward a split. Or maybe they’ve bad, selfish and unhealthy reasons for it.

6. Will I regret leaving the relationship?
Before breaking up, think about your life change after it. Your social life will become complicated, so will your housing situation. Your daily routine will no longer be the same. There is a chance that things will get more stressful and overwhelming that the break up itself. Therefore, ask yourself if ending your relationship is something you’ll regret deep down.

Sometimes things always don’t get better as planned, and ending a romantic relationship is a good example. So, we would suggest you take all possible steps to make improvements and resolve problems in your relationship which not only include the emotional bonding but also needs to take care the physical needs as well. We prefer to hold on rather than ending it.

Is My Partner Lying To Me In The Relationship?

You and your partner know very well that if you both want to enjoy a healthy relationship, you both need to maintain trust in the relationship. If your boyfriend or girlfriend seems suspicious of each other, then it’s high that your relationship is facing some issues regarding faithfulness and fidelity. Or it can be that either has questions about your partner’s financial situation or job or simply it might be that he or she has something to hide in his or her past relationships.

Regardless of what the exact issue is, it feels wrong to suspect that your significant other isn’t fully being honest with you. Therefore if you assume that your fears are real, ask yourself these questions.

Has My Spouse Given Me Any Reason To Doubt Him Or Her In The Past?
If yes, then you’ve every right to be concerned about the relationship. If you see that there is a pattern of dishonesty, instead of getting all defensive and arguing about it, the best and responsible thing to do is to address it in a meaningful way. However, if your spouse has continuously earned your trust in the past, then use your trust to discard these new concerns.

Should I Communicate My Doubts To My Boyfriend Or Girlfriend?
Yes, you should. If not, these questions and fears will consistently keep on nagging you and will hold to connect to your partner in a loving, meaningful and intimate way. After all, it won’t be possible for you to fully emotionally bond with another person and move forward in your relationship, unless you get rid of all shortcomings about that person’s honesty. So, you’ll need to encourage the other person to fully explain him or her to you, find out the truth and put all of fears and insecurities to rest.

Am I Ready to Forgive My Boyfriend Or Girlfriend, and Move Forward?
Of course, there are some trusts that if they’ve been breached that you can’t and shouldn’t move past them. They’ll eventually kill your relationship, even the healthiest ones. On the other hand, there are circumstances that in spite of a tough moment between two lovers, it strengthens the romantic relationship. Having to deal with significant problems in the relationship can bring the couple closer, deepen their understanding of each other, and help them redefine the exact definition of a romantic relationship.

What Kinds Of Changes Are Imperative To Make?
If you’ve determined that you’ll stay with your partner despite everything, then it highly crucial that you communicate your wants, needs, and expectations. Discuss what changes should be made in the relationship. Be clear to your partner that you want things to you and in the relationship be based trust, integrity, and honesty. Meanwhile, if you’ve reached an understanding that there were no breaches of trust and that the whole thing was a misunderstanding, and then you can use this experience in improving the communication and trust between the two of you. The thing is when you’re in a relationship; you should both commit protecting each other and to prioritizing the relationship regardless of what has or hasn’t occurred.