Category Archives: Dating

6 Subconscious Mistakes That Tells Your Date Isn’t Interested In You

The first dates are always hard to read. Unless you specifically tell your date that, ‘you like him or her.' But, most men and women are looking for subtle and subconscious cues from their dates that tell them whether they’re interested in them or not. Sometimes, you may be sending the wrong signs that will prevent you from having a second date with him or her. So, the next time you go on a date, make sure that you don’t make these subtle and subconscious mistakes.

1. Rigid body language
When creating a positive impression with someone new, your body language is 50 percent responsible for it. So, for making a connection with someone new, be sure to have an open and inviting body language. Looking at your date’s face when you’re talking to them, and make sure your body is leaned towards him or her. It shows that you’re listening to them and interested in him or her. Also, don’t keep your arms closed or folded for too long.

2. Monotone voice
The next thing that plays a crucial role in making a connection with a potential date is the tone of your voice. Adding high and low periods to your conversation makes you sound more interesting and engaged. It means adding variety to your voice and matching with your date’s voice while conversing will make them feel more approachable and at ease.

3. Answering questions in brief
It’s in the details connections are made. When you give one word or short answers to questions, it gives off the impression that you’re not interested. We understand most people don’t like to give or share details about their life, but it’s necessary on dates. Practice answering general dating questions with your friends, coworkers or family members until you feel comfortable.

4. Using absolutes
It’s unwise to use words like “don’t”, “can’t”, “nope”, while having a conversation with your date, mainly when talking about various events in your life, you life goals, etc. Some of these words convey that you aren’t ready to be or commit in a relationship. You might not be conscious of these words, but trust us, these words may be jeopardizing your dates.

5. Not Smiling
We know most of us aren’t in the mood to keep smiling every time we see someone new. But, guess what, if you don’t smile and do nothing to erase that miserable demeanor off your face, you’ll have a hard time having dates. So, keep on smiling. Smiling is inviting. If you can’t smile when it is needed, think of a funny thing that will make you laugh.

6. Setting a negative vibe
You’re bitter because you’ve been dating for a while and failed to find a partner. You seem to lose your confidence while searching for the right person, and your body language and voice shows that in your recent dates. It will lose your chances of finding a date even more. Therefore, self-bashing and complaining about all the dates, including bad dates with new people. Quit your negative attitude and listen what your dates say to you and what you say to yourself.

Finding someone new and right for you isn’t simple, but if you follow the advice above, dating someone new and securing a second date with them will be pretty easy.

Why Aren’t We In An Exclusive Relationship?

A relationship can only become exclusive, only if both partners are ready to make that kind of commitment to each other. You can’t have an exclusive relationship when one partner is in, and another one is out. One of the reasons, why most men and women don’t want to commit to an exclusive relationship is that it’s difficult to know a person with two or three months fully. Some date multiple people at the same time and date casually. They only make their relationship exclusive if they have a lot in common in shared interests and chemistry. And it’s not simple for most people if they date only one person. If you want to be in a serious, long-term relationship, it’s never a good idea to rush.

When you’re dating someone for some time and have expressed your true intentions and feelings honestly to your boyfriend/girlfriend, it’s also imperative that he/she be honest about their real interests. Often, the truth isn’t something you want to hear, but it should be told nonetheless, and you should be prepared for it.

You, boyfriend/girlfriend, enjoys being with you, but he/she isn't interested in having an exclusive relationship with you. Now that you’re aware of your date’s intentions, and acknowledged that he/she doesn’t share the same interests and values with you, but is interested in still seeing you, it’s time that you make a decision if this is something that you can accept. He/she is giving you as much as they can, and has honestly expressed what he/she wants from this relationship. You boyfriend/girlfriend’s feelings might change over time, but he/she has already that they’re looking for a casual relationship.

If your boyfriend/girlfriend is really serious about you, he/she will call or reply to your texts and emails in a warm and personal manner. When you call, send texts or emails to your boyfriend/girlfriend, and find that he/she doesn’t reply or makes delayed responses, and see the content of his/her emails and texts to be very impersonal, it's time you ponder on the issue. It's clear to see that your boyfriend/girlfriend’s feelings for you differ that those you feel for your love interest. It’s fine for your boyfriend/girlfriend to keep on continuing with this kind of casual relationship, as he/she has already made it clear that they don’t want to commit. It’s is entirely acceptable for them, but it’s not okay for you.

We understand ending a relationship so quickly is extremely heartbreaking, but you should think about the future of your relationship. If you’re looking for an exclusive relationship, and the person you’re currently dating isn’t ready for it, it’s best that you let go. We suggest people to date multiple people at the same time as the chances to find someone who want to be in a committed, exclusive relationship will be relatively easy. If he/she comes back to you and is ready to give you what you want, then we think that it is something that you can consider. In such circumstances, we hope that you find all the happiness you expected to find in an exclusive relationship.

The Super Bowl and Valentine’s Day Go Hand-in-Hand. Here’s Why!

Super Bowl Sunday is a sacred day for most American men. Meanwhile, across the hall, we go the Valentine’s Day, which is equally as sacred for women. With both of these two major events only nine days apart, it’s easy to the point that the Super Bowl for men is prized equally as the same way as Valentine’s Day is for the ladies. Whether you’re a lost lover or a crazy football fan, comparing these two events will help you comprehend how crucial these days are for men and women.

So why that is the Super Bowl for men is similar to Valentine’s Day for women? It’s pretty simple. Both men and women, dedicate all their emotional efforts of these larger-than-life events. The ladies would never understand what’s so important of watching two teams score to her boyfriend. And for the guys, they know very well, that if they don’t do anything special or romantic for their girlfriends on Valentine’s Day, they won’t be able to get a date with them on February 15 or later.

Guys patiently wait the whole year for the Super Bowl. Women wait enthusiastically throughout the year hoping that their boyfriends will either propose or make their relationship exclusive. They also hope that their significant others will tell them, “I Love You,” or at least take their online dating profile down or change their Facebook status to, “In A Relationship.”

Men come down prepared for the Super Bowl. They decide with whom and which venue will they like to go to enjoy watching the game. On the other hand, women start giving out clues to their boyfriends about their favorite romantic beaches or restaurants, hoping that their man will understand the hints, and book the place in advance before it gets overbooked.

Meanwhile, when a guy’s team loses the tournament, he will be upset for a while but will get over it pretty fast. He knows that his teams has another chance of clinching the title next year, and will spend the whole football season supporting his team. In contrast, it’s entirely different for women. If a woman’s beau or someone she likes doesn’t ask her out for a date on Valentine’s Day, there is little chance she will get over it. She will think that her man is dating someone else, and she’s not at the top of his list. It’s very likely that she will erase this man from her dating list.

No woman wants to be at the bottom of a guy’s dating list. She will unfriend him from her social media sites, and won’t return his desperate phone calls or respond to his texts or emails. In short, he won’t have a second chance to ask her out, unless he was out of the city or in a long distance relationship.

So, whether you’re a crazy romantic or die hard sports fanatic, when you’re dating someone, talk to your love interest about what these days mean to you. If you’re still looking for someone, use this chance to accept all invitations to both the Super Bowl and Valentine’s Days singles. It doesn’t matter, if your team loses or failed to get a date, you still had fun and met some great people!

4 Things That Make You Attractive Besides Your Physical Appearance

When we talk about the attractiveness of a person, the first thing that comes into our minds is physical attractiveness. Sure, for some people physical looks are important while looking for a partner, but it’s not the main quality to look for in a man or a woman for many others.

Besides, physical appearances, there are many characteristics that make an individual much more attractive and appealing to others. You may have at least one or a few of these qualities, but if you want to make yourself appealing to your future potential partners, you should aim to have as many characteristics as you could.  If you lack some of these characteristics, set a goal to change that. The more attractive traits you possess, the more likely you will someone who will be appealing and attractive to you overall, not simply of the way they look.

Here are four qualities that make you more attractive besides your physical looks:

1. A good listener
We all love to talk about ourselves. And this means someone should be listening to us. So, everyone loves to spend time with a good listener. People, who are good listeners, are amazing because they make you feel important and cared about. If you happen to be a good listener, it’s enough for you to be extremely appealing to everyone, not just to the ladies. You should be proud of yourself of this amazing characteristic you have because it will make you appealing to all of your future dates.

2. Flexible and open to trying new experiences or things
When you start dating someone, you will notice that this person has family, friends, and coworkers, who are different than yours. You also quickly realize that this woman you are dating has her own set of interests, behaviors, and hobbies that they love and have spent a lifetime nurturing them. So, if you want to have a committed relationship with her, you need to be open and flexible to trying new things. If you are a person, who is okay with this, remember that this is a huge advantage.  After all, there are a lot of men and women who refuse to date someone because they feel that their dates are like obligations to them or it takes too much work. If you are a guy, who is flexible and comfortable to try new things of experiences, you will really enjoy being in a relationship and make it thrive.

3. A sense of humor that makes people laugh
Let’s face it; some folks are funnier than others. Some men and women are blessed with a sense of humor that is so wacky, clever or spontaneous that you can’t help but burst into laughter at some of the things they say. If you have a sense of humor that makes people truly laugh, then assure yourself that you have one of the most attractive and sought after qualities any man or woman could have.

4. Pleasant, thoughtful physical affection
We aren’t talking about touch that is overly sexual. We are talking about the way you touch a woman while walking with someone in the park, or having dinner with her. If you know how to make another person feel good emotionally and to connect physically with them without having sex with them, then you’re a very physically affectionate person, which is a great quality to have if you are looking for a great partner.

4 Harsh Truths About Being In Love With An Assertive Woman

So you have met someone who is loud, spunky and spontaneous, and you are in love with her. Or it can be the other situation, you want to be in a committed relationship with her, but for some reason, she intimidates you. It appears that you have met an assertive woman for the first time and don’t know much about loving an assertive woman.

Below are four things what it is like being in love with an assertive woman:

1. She draws attention to herself
Assertive women tend to draw a lot of attention to themselves. It’s not intentional, it just happens, and they can’t help it. When they walk, it looks like they own the place. They are loud and zesty, and even if they say, “Hi or Hello” it appears like they are shouting and asking people to notice them. Your peppy girlfriend is drawing attention to her by her energy and confidence. It doesn’t mean that she wants the spotlight. And if you have any problems with it, guess what it’s not a problem. It’s your problem because you are feeling insecure about yourself.

2. She can command any situation
If you are dating a loud and sassy lady, she can command to any situation very easily, if she is willing to do it. People like her and appreciate her personality. Still, most guys have cold feet when it comes to being in a committed relationship with her at times simply because she is a woman and assertive. The society isn’t that supportive of a woman who is loud and assertive. If you feel insecure, uncomfortable, or threatened because she can work with the crowd and can genuinely get positive responses from other people, then it’s your problem. Instead, be glad for it, and even if you still can’t help it, that's a shame. Why? Because most men want to be with a strong and confident woman.

3. She chose you, but she doesn't need you
If an assertive woman wants to find some quality time with someone, she can find a company anywhere she goes. It’s not a big deal for her. So, if you happen to be in a relationship with a loud and assertive lady, it means that she's chosen to spend time with you. Remember, she wants you, no doubt about it, but she just doesn't need you. Needing and wanting someone else’s company are two different things, and there is a huge difference between them. But, bear in your mind that she decided to spend time with you because she has a good heart and wants to root for you.

4. She will always tell you the truth
When it comes to romantic partners, assertive women are always honest with their partners. When you are in love with a loud and assertive woman, you don’t have to worry whether she’s holding your life back or whether she’s lying about her feelings she has for you. She will tell you exactly what she feels and thinks about you because assertive women are pretty terrible at telling lies, even white lies.

Keep in mind that dating a loud and assertive woman can be a good thing, and you are on your way of having a wild ride in your relationship. And once she is yours, she will be yours for good.

4 Things Good Men Do That Seriously Attracts Women

Let’s put an end on focusing on bad guys and direct our attention to good men. But before that let’s be clear one thing: Good men can be totally irresistible! We often hear women criticizing their boyfriends by saying things like, “He’s so selfish” “He only wants sex from me” and so on. Yes, sometimes, it’s only the bad guys who seem to get all the attention. But let’s focus on the good guys for a moment. What do they have that makes people celebrate it? Can we appreciate all of their positive qualities? Will all these positive behavior make women attracted to them?

Below is a list of some of the behaviors women find attractive in good men:

1. Good men are honest
Good men always tell the truth about where he stands and believe about many things, including their partners. Good guys don’t play with the feelings and emotions of the women they date, and they will let them know what he actually feels and thinks about her. Ladies dating a good man will have a sense of stability and trust in them.

2. Good men are grateful
When it comes to dating and relationships, couples appreciating each other is one of most attractive things to see in a romantic relationship. Good guys are compassionate and grateful for the great things they have in their lives, particularly their spouses. You probably heard the saying that it’s not the happy people who are grateful; in fact, it’s the grateful individuals who are happy. Good men value and appreciate what they have. It increases their peace and happiness within themselves and their relationships. Appreciating and expressing gratitude about oneself also creates positive energy, which also helps good men to attract partners with similar attitude and feelings. And all of this results in more joy, more happiness, more gratitude, and unending mutual attraction.

3. Good men listen
We all know and understand very well that good communication is an important aspect of any relationship. Despite that, we still hear complaints from couples, especially women that their partners don’t listen to them. Good men will listen to their girlfriends, and they know how to do it nicely. They are also open learning how to do it properly, in case they don’t know about it. When their partners are talking to them, they will make eye contact, remain quiet, will show that they are connected to them, and will let them know that what they are saying matters to them. A good man knows that his girlfriend’s perspective and feelings are important to him.

4. Good men have empathy
If you are looking for someone, don’t date a girl who is a narcissist. It’s true that narcissists usually get a lot of attention from people, but they lack empathy. Empathy is an important quality to have if you want to have a happy and long-lasting relationship. Good men have this seriously good quality in abundance and can offer it to other too. And it’s seriously attractive. Men who are empathetic have the ability to share and understand the feelings of their significant other, which is crucial if you want to establish a real emotional and physical connection with your partner.

Guys Get Tattoos Soon As Tattooed Guys Make Good Husbands!

Tattoos have been associated with reckless and rebellious nature for a very long time. They are termed as unprofessional and irresponsible. Even today, some people think that tattoos are still controversial and are not something they like to see in their romantic partners or potential partners. So, these people might feel a little hesitant or uncomfortable to bring a guy or a woman home with noticeable tattoos while meeting each other friends and family.

But, things are a lot different now. They are officially the new normal. In fact, these days more and more people, young and old, are having tattoos. Almost 4 in 10 millennials have a tattoo, and among them, nearly 50% have two or more tattoos. The reason is that now tattoos don’t have any social statement and aren’t considered bold symbols like they were a few decades ago. Tattoos don’t signify a person living an unconventional lifestyle or having controversial values. Believe it or not, when it comes to romantic relationships, tattoos might indicate many positive and wonderful characteristics of a man or a woman.

Here are some reasons that tattoos may actually be a hit with the ladies because science says tattooed guys make great husbands:

1. Men with tattoos have more sex

A study published in Sexual Medicine discovered that people who have tattoos, piercings and other kinds of body modifications have more sex with their partners than people who don’t have tattoos or anybody modifications. Well, this might be a little controversial, but not everyone can be wrong, right? Or you just can get a couple of tattoos and see what the fuss is about by yourself.

2. Men with tattoos are more confident

If you want to have a happy, successful relationship, you need to confident and have a high self-esteem. Some ignorant folks assume that having tattoos means that individual hates his body or feels insecure. But, the reality is quite the opposite. A survey found that people who got a tattoo immediately felt less anxious and had higher self-esteem after three weeks of getting a tattoo. They also said that the sadness and dissatisfaction they had about their bodies disappeared immediately after having a tattoo.

3. Men with tattoos are educated

It’s likely that your parents told you not to bring a woman with tattoos or heard them telling your sister to never bring a guy home with tattoos. Why? Because to them people who have tattoos are drug addicts, criminals, irresponsible, unemployed and what not! But, when you are looking for a romantic partner, it’s important to remind yourself not to judge a book by its cover. A newly released study reported that these days many young, educated and employed students and adults are getting inked. After conducting a survey of 1,753 students, researchers found that 14 percent have tattoos, while 4 percent have four or more tattoos an d seven or more piercings. Among them, some even have piercings in their nipples and genitals. Who thought this would happen?

So, if you are looking for a relationship and think that having tattoos will make you less attractive to women, think again. Because tattoos won't only make you a great boyfriend or husband, it will also make you sexier to women.

Get Over Your Fear Of Commitment By Following These 4 Ways

Dating and relationships are all about commitment, and you are a “commitment-phobe” it will be extremely difficult for you to be in a healthy and happy relationship or marriage. Some people tell that men and women who are not willing commit should even be dating or be in relationships in the first place. Ouch! That’s really hurtful to say, the least, but there are some logical reasons behind it too. But, luckily there are four ways to become more committed in all of your romantic affairs.

These four ways if followed accordingly could assist you, your spouse or your friend to just commit to one person, place, or thing if something like this exists.  Here are four tested ways that can you’re your commitment phobia:

1. Focus on the depth 

Most people have the tendency to focus on novelty and looking for connections between things. Most tend to know about a lot of things, rather than knowing more about something. It makes them restless, bored and anxious. But if you decide to focus on one thing or one person, not only will you be able to consistent in establishing to one thing, you will also be able to connect with yourself more deeply. You will realize that getting to know just one person or one thing is more pleasurable, interesting and fascinating than getting to know many people or things at the same time.

2. Rejecting the alternatives

When you do concentrate on many things, you become overwhelmed and won’t be able to dedicate sufficient time to just one thing. You will begin to reject alternatives consciously and start to say “no” more. In these circumstances, everything you see appears to be perfect and attractive, but when you look closely, you start to see problems everywhere. So, what’s the solution here? The solution here is not to get involved in something that doesn’t have problems but to look out for issues that you love resolving. Therefore, be in a romantic relationship with someone with whom you won’t mind arguing or fighting with, choose a job or a career that you are willing to work extra hard or suffer for, and so on.

3. Get rid of instant gratification

We all love instant gratification. It feels good when we have our desires or needs met instantly when we want them. But, when you are looking for a committed relationship, your aim should be focused on long-term gratification, because to build true intimacy you need time, patience and persistence. It’s the core internal qualities like compassion, integrity, and honesty that build the foundation of a solid relationship or marriage. Stick to these core values and see for yourself how it will guide you to see beyond the external stimuli and make it easy for you to become committed in all of your relationships.

4. Don’t let your fears of missing out overcome you

When it comes to dating and relationships, most people fear that they will miss out on something great by committing to one thing. But, let’s face it, in this world; there always will be something or someone better than what you currently have. The crucial thing here is for you to realize that just because there happens to be someone better than what you currently have, doesn’t take away or add to value to another person.

Is The Person You Are In Love A Big Narcissist? Here Are Some Early Warning Signs

Don’t make the mistake of being in love with a narcissist person. Why? Because they will just cause you pain. You met someone who is pretty, attentive and confident but seems to get lost in your words and feelings. She asks personal questions to get to know you better and pays attention to every word you tell her. She finds you interesting, and she looks to get to know more about you, and it feels fabulous. But, sometimes all that glitters isn’t gold, and your relationship may not turn out as you expected. There will be a lot of pain, confusion, heartbreaks, and tears. You have met a narcissist, and they do is to quickly capture your heart and make you believe that you have found the love of your dreams.

So, the question is there any warning signs that you can detect early in the relationship? So, if you're always asking yourself, “Is she a narcissist?” here are three warning signs that you should look out for before you get into a serious relationship with her.

1. She throws love bombs now and then

The word, “love” gets tossed out as soon as she meets you for the first or second time. She says that she loves you and can’t imagine your life without you. She constantly tells you that her world is complete when you’re in it.  If someone you just met starts talking about love from the start, then it’s not real love. It might seem romantic, but the reality is quite the opposite. To be clear; it’s not love, let alone true love. She’s not talking about love to you it’s all about possessing.
2. She extracts your emotions

Now that she’s has your undivided attention, she wants to spend an hour, a day, or the night with you. It’s a classic manipulation technique she uses to make you feel ashamed and guilty. After all, why should you visit your dad, mom, friend, or the neighbor when she wants to spend the whole day or even the night with you? Isn’t her companionship enough for you? There’s even more. She will cry and frown when you don’t want to spend time with her and will tell you that spending time with you is all she wants to do. You will start to feel hesitated and will compel you to cancel your plans. After all, you might be thinking she loves you and wants to spend time with you, what wrong it that? But, the reality is that she wants to control you, and she will do everything possible to remove all the obstacles to get her way. For example; she also uses sex as a tool to punish shame and hurt you. She will demand, force, or manipulate to get things done her way.

3. She has impossible expectations

You always keep wondering if you can ever meet her expectations, which seems unrealistic to you. She wants you to talk, behave, or dress in a certain way that is not you. When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, every time you give into her demands, wants, and requests, you lose a bit of yourself always. Your self-esteem and confidence also erodes slowly, and you feel powerless and lose full control of yourself.

3 Things Extroverts Should Know About Dating Introverts

So you finally managed to land a date with that hot lady from the gym. Congratulations! If you happen to be an introvert, this is a great thing for you. Being an extrovert or an introvert isn't about being shy or speaking out. Rather it’s all about how you get the energy and how you handle life events and situations. Extroverts get their energy while being around others, while introverts need quietness and solitude to recharge. Most people ask about the reasons behind extroverts talking too much. And the easy answer is extroverts need to work things out verbally. Meanwhile, introverts contemplate on thoughts and ideas in their heads before they express their opinion. Every one of us, both extroverts and introverts, are

Every one of us, both extroverts and introverts, are spiritual, cognitively, biologically, and physically wired to love, be loved, be in love and belong. The only major difference is that each one of us has a different approach to love and feel desired.

So, if you are dating an introvert, here are the three things an extrovert should know about dating introverts:

1. Put your energy into listening
Extroverts tend to speak when it’s time to think. Extroverts are also infamous for being interrupters. Whenever someone starts to talk with us, extroverts can hardly wait to chime in their opinions which in most part weren’t well processed in the brain. This makes other people annoyed especially introverts. This behavior of extroverts makes people silenced. Other folks gave their time and attention to listen to your thoughts and feelings, and when to interrupt them in the middle, when they are having a conversation with you; it makes them feel their words are unimportant. It’s vital to allow others their turn and express themselves as it’s beneficial in establishing trust and rapport. So, before going out on a date with an introvert, spend some time to create a list of questions you might ask your introverted date to feel comfortable to open up and talk about herself and her feelings. This is how thoughtful exchanges are supposed to happen.

2. Suggest quite places for dates
Extroverts get their energy from being around others. Big parties, nightclubs, or favorite restaurants make them feel awake and alive. But, it’s the opposite for introverts. Famous places and high-key events drain introverts, and they always want to escape from it. If your girlfriend is an introvert and intends to end the night early in situations like these, it means she feels exhausted and feels drained from all the noise and energy of the crowd. Introverts feel themselves in familiar or lower-key places for a date. I know this might seem dull and boring to you at first, but it gives you both of you the chance to know each other better without distractions from the outside world. And if you feel any hesitation to do this, remember this will create conflicts later in your relationship when you want to go out, but your partner wants to spend the evening indoors.

3. Don’t Rush
Extroverts want to try new experiences. They think fast and move fast. They become impatient when someone they are dating doesn’t keep up with them. If you are dating a woman, who is an introvert, spontaneous enthusiasm can quickly become overwhelming and exhausting to her. So, slow down and be patient. This way you can also become less judgmental about others and patient with yourself.