Category Archives: Dating

A Game For Falling In Love: The Love Game

Can a game help us fall in love? You’d be shocked by the results people are getting by playing The Love Game. Initially designed to help people fall in love, it is also a pretty good way to get to know someone on an intimate level that would normally take years to do. Turn your clumsy, exhausting conversation into a life-changing discussion. Get the other person you're playing with to start to fall in love with you, deeper & faster. Find out on the off chance that somebody is or isn't your perfect partner. With this game you can even fall deeper in love with your current partner in ways that you never even imagined.

The idea started out as an app which had an enormous amount of popularity. Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg even downloaded the App! But let’s be frank with ourselves, how much of an emotional connection can an app really provide for two people looking to get to know each other better? Only so much. So the creator of the game, Anthony David Adams, put the best 36 questions you could possibly ask onto cards and The Love Game officially started.

The trick to the game is of course how the questions are structured. Couples are forced to answer questions they normally wouldn’t feel comfortable answering, thus becoming more vulnerable. Vulnerability allows individuals to open up, greatly increasing the chances of falling in love. The Love Game Is the perfect catalyst. Need more proof. How about this, the first two people ever to test the game out were co-workers and guess where they are today? They’re married and claim “they have the most intimate relationship you can ask for.”


Don’t be alarmed if you think the game isn’t for you. It has been tested by a variety of couples all in different stages of their relationships. Whether its the first date, or you’re just friends looking to know each other better, or maybe you’ve been in a relationship and you’re just stuck in a rut, The Love Game can only help.


Dating Advice for Men

It doesn’t matter if you are new to dating, have been out of the dating scene for a while, or are just hoping to up your game, pretty much ALL men could use some dating advice. In fact, the men who need dating advice the most are usually the ones who are successfully dating. They get too comfortable with their dating style and fall into ruts of boringness and predictability (which leads to some pretty lackluster relationships!). So, here are some vital pieces of dating advice for men from women.

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The BAD Advice

Before we get into all of the dating advice which will improve your love life, it is absolutely essential to get all of the bad advice out of the way. And there is a LOT of bad advice out there for men!

Bad Dating Advice #1: Sleep with as Many Women as Possible

Apparently, this advice is so you can “get it out of your system” before you settle down with the right girl. Let’s be honest: it is never going to get out of your system (why do you think Viagra is so popular?). All sleeping around will do is increase your chances of getting a venereal disease (condoms don’t protect against everything genital warts and other forms of HPV).

By the way, sleeping around will NOT help you get better in bed. Men improve their lovemaking skills by being with one woman for long enough to learn things like where her g-spot is located and to get comfortable experimenting with new sexual positions.

Bad Dating Advice #2: Wait 3 Days before Calling

I blame the 90s movie Swingers for popularizing the stupid notion that you’ve got to wait a set amount of time before calling a girl. Supposedly, the 3 day rule will make her want you more because it shows you aren’t all that interested. Really, it will just piss her off.

Bad Dating Advice #3: Act Like You Aren’t That Into Her

The “3 Day Rule” for calling falls into this advice. Supposedly, women want what they can’t get. So, if you do things like wait to call her, blow off dates, or insult her (the infamous “neg” used by pickup artists), then she will be more into you.

Actually, this advice does have some truth to it. By acting like you aren’t so into her or insulting her, you prey on her low self esteem, so she might jump into bed with you. I guess that is fine if your goal is to have a one-night stand (read our guide on how to pick up girls). But, if you want to date a woman, this advice is going to hurt you more than help. You’ll just end up with girls who have serious confidence and self-esteem issues!

Bad Dating Advice #4: She’s Out of Your League

When you think about it, this dating advice is either ridiculously sexist or pathetic. It is sexist because it comes from the 1950s-era idea that a man has to be the breadwinner. He would feel emasculated by a woman who makes more money than him! Get over it or you will only be with losers instead of smart, confident and successful women.

Or, maybe you follow this advice because you have terrible self esteem and think that a super hot girl would never be into you. In the unlikely situation that she is interested in you, you’ll always have to worry about other guys hitting on her. Well, this is pretty pathetic! Don’t let your insecurities stop you from dating beautiful women!!!

Bad Dating Advice #5: Don’t Compliment Her

Apparently, you shouldn’t compliment beautiful women because attractive women are so used to getting compliments that it is verboten. The advice goes on to say that, if you do compliment a woman, then you should do it for something which she normally doesn’t get complimented on – like her shoulders or earlobes or something else stupid.

I agree with this advice, but only in the sense that you should never compliment a woman just to get into her pants. If the compliment is genuine (unlike complimenting her earlobes would probably be!), then it will have a positive effect. Oh, and don’t assume that pretty women know how attractive they are! They often don’t realize it and it will make them happy to hear a compliment.

 

 

The Best Dating Advice for Men

Now that we’ve got the bad dating advice out of the way, let’s get into the good advice that every man should be following if he wants to get and keep a woman.

Be the Best Version of Yourself

Too often we hear the advice “be yourself.” This is supposed to mean that you shouldn’t act like a phony, lie, or try to emulate Harrison Ford or some other douche.   But, somewhere along the lines, men translated “be yourself” into “don’t bother putting in any effort.”

Instead of being yourself, you should be the best version of yourself. This means getting out of those sweat pants you wear around the house and putting on a nice suit, taking the time to really groom yourself properly, and being on your best manners.

Also, it is okay to show you care about the date! Acting “nonchalant” by showing up to the date unshaved and without a plan for the evening will not do you any favors.

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GROOMING!

Dousing yourself in cologne does not count as grooming! Neither does taking a shower before your date (though this is part of it). Grooming means that all of your body is going to be appealing for a sexual encounter with a woman. Let me give you an example. A friend of mine was dating a guy and they ended up back at his place. He hadn’t bothered to cut his fingernails, which completely destroyed the foreplay. Obviously it was a big deal since my friend told me about it.

Guys, pay attention to the details. If you expect (or hope) that the date will end sexually, make sure to:

  • Brush and floss
  • Shave (a trimmed beard is okay, but a few days of stubble is going to feel like a porcupine when you kiss a girl!)
  • Shower and use a loofa or other brush to really scrub your body
  • Trim your pubic hair (not absolutely necessary but most women appreciate this)
  • Cut your fingernails and toenails
  • Avoid going overboard with the cologne; one squirt will do it
  • Use lip balm if your lips are chapped
  • Fix your out-of-control eyebrows, and trim nose hair if that’s a problem
  • WASH YOUR HANDS before foreplay begins!!!

 

Work on Your Confidence

Forget about rock hard abs or a bankroll the size of Montana. What women are really attracted to is confidence. Women are even attracted to ugly men, unsuccessful men, and overweight men, so long as they have confidence.

Do whatever it takes to get your confidence up! This can be as simple as talking to more women in social situations (see our post about how to meet women). It can mean joining a gym to get in shape. Consider getting a hobby. Even something as trivial as a joining a weekly hiking group will make your life more interesting and give you something to talk about.

While on the issue of confidence, ALWAYS ASSUME THAT SHE LIKES YOU! If you are in the middle of the date and start having doubts about how things are going, give yourself a pep talk, reminding yourself that she is into you. This will get your confidence up and that confidence will get her interest in you up!

 

Do Your Research before the Date

It might seem okay to “wing it” and see where the evening takes you but, without proper planning, the date will probably take you to a dead end. For example, if fail to make reservations at the nightclub and get turned away by the bouncer.

For first dates, find out some vital information before you plan the date. You wouldn’t want to take her to a steak house only to learn she is a vegetarian! You can straight-out ask her what types of things she likes to do, or which food she likes to eat. Or you can scout for clues on her Facebook profile or by asking her friends.

Always make sure to scout out a venue before you take a girl there on a date. That “cool hipster bar” might actually be a tavern frequented by aging drunks, or the “little bistro” might actually be an upscale restaurant.

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Don’t Go Anywhere Where You’ll Feel Uncomfortable

You want to impress her by taking her to a poetry reading, but you actually don’t know jack about poetry and being amongst all those turtleneck-wearing poets makes you feel awkward. You want to take her to a fancy restaurant, but you still don’t know how to properly knot a tie.

If you feel uncomfortable in a situation, you will have a hard time relaxing and focusing on your date. When you just start dating, it is generally best to stick to familiar ground for your dates. Forget the swanky new place which opened up. Take her to your local hangout. She will be impressed when the bartender greets you by name and you sit at “your” table.

 

Don’t Ever Talk about Your Ex

The absolute WORST thing you can do on a date is talk about your ex.   Yet, this somehow almost always ends up being a topic of conversation. Talking about your ex is a sign that you aren’t over her yet, and no girl wants to feel like she is in competition with another woman. Plus, I doubt you have a lot of good things to say about your ex, so the conversation will probably be bitter, depressing, creepy, or all of the above.

 

No “Nights In” Until Date 4

A night in can be a great date – like cooking dinner together and then watching a movie. But you probably shouldn’t have an at-home date until you’ve been dating for a while (after the 3rd or 4th date seems like a good standard). When women hear “night in,” they know it is code for a hookup. So, if you ask her to your place before the 4th date, she will think you are only interested in sex.

 

Call Her!

As I mentioned earlier in the bad dating advice, you should never follow some stupid 3-day rule for calling women. Just do what feels natural, whether it means calling her right after the date to say what a good time you had or waiting a few days to call and check in.

But remember, you should ALWAYS CALL HER AFTER A DATE– even if the date went bad and you don’t want to see her again. This is common courtesy and she will respect you more for this. If you really lack balls, then I guess it is okay to send a text instead, something along the lines of, “Thank you for a nice night out yesterday. I think you are great, but didn’t really feel much chemistry between us so I’d rather not go out again. All the best!”

 

Be Cautious about the Declarations of Love

I once went out with a Mexican guy who told me “te amo” after the first date. I burst out laughing when I heard this. Needless to say, he was shocked by my reaction, even after I explained that there was no possible way he could love me after 4 hours together. I’m pretty open-minded and I also chocked his declaration of love up to cultural differences. However, most girls probably aren’t as tolerant as me and get freaked out when they hear things like “I love you” or “you are the girl I’ve been searching for” after just a few dates.

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28 Ideas for What to Do on a First Date

Not sure what to do on a first date? A movie and dinner is always a safe bet for a first date. But this isn’t exactly going to help you stand out and make a memorable impression. So, if you have a really special girl, then you will want to make sure your first date is something special.

Here are 28 ideas for what to do on a first date which aren’t your typical movie and dinner. I’ve broken them down into outdoor first date ideas, indoor first date ideas, and daytime first date ideas.

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What Makes a Good First Date?

Before we get into the first date ideas, we need to establish what makes for a good first. According to Art Markman, author of Smart Thinking, a first date needs to have:

  1. A chance to get to know each other
  2. Some energy

By “chance to get to know each other,” we are talking about conversation and chatting. But you’ve also got to have some sort of energy on the date. Otherwise, you end up with too much attention on yourselves and feel pressured to talk incessantly. So, a good first date will have the right balance of conversation and distracting energy.

This is why the movie/dinner date idea is so popular. You go to the movie first so you have something to talk about during dinner. The process of going from place to place, ordering, waiting for food, etc. provides just the right amount of distraction so you don’t need to constantly talk. You would NOT, however, just take a girl to a movie because there is no chance for conversation.

dinner movie first date idea

All of these first date ideas provide a chance to get to know each other, such as by putting you into situations where you need to exchange your opinions (like at a museum). They also have the perfect balance of energy so you both have a memorable experience.

 

Outdoor Date Ideas

outdoor first date ideas

1. Hiking

It shows that you are a capable leader, that you are adventurous, and that you are trustworthy. Just make sure that you don’t get lost in the wilderness somewhere. Bring a compass and a map! Of course, you wouldn’t want to take a high maintenance girl hiking. Be on the lookout for signs like long fingernails and excessive makeup.

2. Miniature Golf

If you want a really relaxed, fun date, then miniature golf is a sure bet. The friendly competition is a great way to get to know each other. If you are actually good at mini golf, then use it as a chance to put your arms around her and “show her how to put.”

3. Ice Skating

I honestly have no clue how to ice skate and always wanted to learn, so I’d be really happy if someone took me ice skating for a first date. It would be so romantic to hold hands while gliding and falling all over the ice – and each other!

4. Go Canoeing or Paddle Boating

I’ve got to warn you: canoeing is hard work. So make sure you are up to the challenge if you want to take her out on the water in a canoe or paddle boat. If you are up for this challenge, then you will impress her. She will never forget the intimacy and romance of your first date on the water.

5. Nighttime Walk on the Beach

You know the cliché line about “likes to take long walks on the beach.” Well, there’s a good reason for it – walks on the beach are romantic! Going for a walk on the beach at night is going to have a very different mood than in the day. It is quieter, more intimate, and cooler so you aren’t unattractively sweating up a storm. Remember to be a gentleman. If she is cold, offer her your jacket.

6. Playground

A lot of magazines recommend going to a playground for your first date. If a guy took me to a playground, I’d probably think he was cheap and/or way too quirky. However, there is nothing wrong with going for a nice walk in a park and “happening on” the playground, where the two of you teasingly bump into each other on the swings.

 

Indoor Date Ideas

indoor first date ideas

7. Bowling

If you are stressed about the date, then bowling is a good option. There is always something to do (keep score, take your swing, refill the beer pitcher…), so you have an excuse to duck out if there is a lag in the conversation. Oh, and this is a pretty cheap date too.

8. Roller Skating Rink

Just like with ice skating, roller skating provides all sorts of opportunities for intimate moments. You two can hold hands while whipping around the rink, act silly dancing to the music, or pretend to fall so you can get your arms around her.

9. Theatre

This is a classy version of the movie/dinner date idea. When you go to the theatre though, it is a lot more memorable and there is generally an intermission where you can chat.

10. Dinner Cabaret

If a classy theatre date isn’t your style, then go to a local dinner cabaret instead.   Cabaret tends to be a bit lewd, which will give you a reading about how sexually open your date is. As another bonus, you don’t have to worry about taking her two places because dinner is served while you watch the show.

11. Stand-Up Comedy

Stand-up comedy shows don’t give you as much room for conversation, but they will get both of your laughing and in a really good mood – which will help open you up for conversation after the show.

12. Live Music at a Small Venue

You wouldn’t want to take a first date to a big concert. The atmosphere is too chaotic and not at all intimate. However, seeing live music at a smaller venue where you can sit down and have a drink is a good choice. You will be able to chat, and there is so much energy at a live show that she will think you are a fun, outgoing type of guy.

13. Museums, Aquariums, or the Zoo

If you are a good conversationalist and already have your flirting skills down (download our free flirting guide), then one of these places is a good bet. The atmosphere is very relaxed, you will have plenty to talk about thanks to all the exhibits, and it will also be memorable since she probably hasn’t gone to any of these places recently. *Note that this might not be the best first date for a single mom. She probably does this all the time with the kids!

14. Trivia Night

This is an especially good first date idea for people who are bad conversationalists. The trivia will fill in for the lack of chatting.

15. Exotic Food

If you want to take her out to dinner, then choose some sort of exotic cuisine. You will come across as worldly and adventurous, it will be more memorable, and you’ll have more to talk about over dinner.

16. Arcade

A bit of friendly competition is a great way to get to know each other. Make sure you scout out the 2-player games at the arcade before you go, or try playing some more active games like having a Dance Dance Revolution face off.

17. Take a Class Together

If you both share an interest in something like cooking, dancing, yoga, or ceramics, then sign up for a class together. If you really like the girl, you might even be able to hire a private instructor for just the two of you.

18. Karaoke

Karaoke dates are generally best when there are more people involved, so this is a good choice if you are going out on a double date or in a group. You will be able to see how inhibited – or wildly outgoing – by how she takes to the stage.

19. Go Dancing

You know how some birds do mating dances? Well, the same applies to humans. Women find it irresistibly sexy when a man knows how to dance (it is a sign he is good in bed). So, show off your moves by taking her dancing. Be on the lookout for themed nights at bars and clubs, like Salsa, Swing, or Tango.

20. Poetry or Book Reading

It you want to impress her by showing off how much of an intellectual you are, then take her to a poetry or book reading. Make sure that this is something she actually enjoys though. Otherwise, the date might be a bit boring. Of course, you will want to go to a bistro afterwards for espresso and to talk about the reading.

 

Day time Date Ideas

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A lot of the above dates could be done during the daytime. But, because daytime dates are generally a bit harder (more conversation required and usually alcohol isn’t involved for social lubrication), I decided that daytime dates needed its own section.

21. Local Flea Market or Farmer’s Market

You will have fun while looking over all of the items, and you’ll get a sense of her personality by which items she likes – like whether she is drawn to the expensive Victorian chandelier or the cheap Crack Jack box toys. Make sure there is a good place nearby where you can stop for a bite to eat. Buy her a souvenir so she won’t ever forget your first date!

22. Go Shopping Together

Tell her that you’ve got to buy a present for your mom/sister/etc. Then take her to some interesting places. You’ll be able to get to know each other well when talking over the present ideas. Or, if you want to spoil her, take HER shopping for a new outfit. She will feel like a princess trying on the outfits for you!

23. Picnic

Stroll to a nice spot together and have a picnic. If there aren’t any sites to walk to in the area (like a pond where you two can feed the ducks), then bring along a board game to play so you’ll have something energetic to do.

24. Be Tourists

When was the last time you visited the tourist hot spots in your town? Go there to check out the sites. Some of them are probably actually really romantic. For example, I used to live in Philadelphia, which has a Clock Tower that you can go to the top of and get an amazing view of the city. I think I was the only local who ever went there! For a goofy fun time, make up characters for yourself to play while at the tourist spot. You can be Boris from Russia and she can be Monique, a Parisian artist visiting for the first time.

25. Beach

If you are lucky enough to live near the beach, take her there for some swim and sun. You can have fun splashing each other and build up sexual attraction while you rub sunscreen all over her shoulders.

26. Go Photographing

Pretend to be all artsy and sophisticated by taking her for a walk somewhere beautiful (like a botanical garden or a really nice park) to take photographs. Have her pose in the photographs and she will feel flattered by your attention!

27. Geo Caching

Geo Caching is a scavenger hunt game for adults. You go online to the website, type in your location, and it will show you the coordinates of where “caches” are hidden. Then you go and find them. Your date will think that you are adventurous and that you are in-the-know with cool underground things to do.

28. Fly a Kite

I wouldn’t take a girl on a first date which was just flying a kite. However, you two could go on a walk to a park together (with a bottle of wine, of course) and bring a kite along to fly. The kite will give you something to do so you don’t have to chat as much. Plus, you’ll get points for originality.

 

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The Truth about Interracial Dating (whether you like it or not)

So you want to date a black girl? Or, depending on your race, a white girl, Asian girl, Latina girl… Dating is hard enough without stepping outside what is considered “normal” by society’s standards of what couples should look like. And, sorry to break it to you, interracial dating does not fit that standard of normal!

In today’s melting-pot society, you could easily argue (i.e. lie to yourself) that interracial dating isn't a problem. But let us not forget that just 50 years ago interracial marriage was illegal in many states. It was only in 1967 that laws banning interracial marriage were deemed unconstitutional. Long after this ruling, interracial couples were still harassed and discriminated against.   And, yes, it still happens to interracial couples today. The fact that the term “interracial dating” exists just proves that it is an issue to date outside your race.

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There is no reason why you should let society’s biased views keep you from dating the man or woman of your dreams just because he/she is outside of your race. However, you should enter the relationship with eyes open to what problems and challenges you might face. If you are willing to deal with these hurdles, you might also find that there are many benefits to interracial dating too.

Race Does Make a Difference

Our society likes to promote some sort of colorblind model as a cure for racism. In its effort to show we are all equal, it has done its best to ignore the fact that we are all different.

Equality does NOT mean the same!

This can also be seen in feminism, in which some feminists are so gung-ho about proving that they can do anything a man can do (there are even devices which let women pee standing up) that they ignore significant differences like that women’s bodies are built for childbearing, hormonal differences, and body structure differences.

If you are entering into an interracial dating relationship for the first time, you might be surprised at just how different your life experiences can be (if you need tips finding a girlfriend, read this post). Two people of different races, even when they grew up in the same town, can have completely different cultures. For example, it is a reality that black men in New York are a lot more likely to be stopped by the police for a random search than white men. If you are a white woman dating an Arabic man, be prepared for the security checks at the airport.

As people of different races,

  • We have different histories
  • We have different cultures
  • We may have different languages
  • We have different accepted norms
  • We have different dance traditions
  • We even have different ways of doing our hair!

If you try to ignore all of these differences and say that “race doesn’t matter”, then you are setting yourself up for a big shock. However, if you can embrace these differences, then your romance can flourish. You might even learn something too by stepping outside your cultural norms. This is one of the benefits of interracial dating.

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People Will Assume It is a Fetish

You’ve heard the phrases before.

Asian girl fetish.
Jungle fever (also: vanilla fever, curry fever, yellow fever, desert fever…)
Once you go black, you never go back!

When you date outside your race, people will assume it is some sort of fetish thing. Now, there is a big difference between attraction and fetish. Fetish assumes that you are turned on by certain characteristics or things, such as people with a fetish for pantyhose or scat or whatever. Yeah, there are a lot of fetishes out there!

It is a bit difficult to define the difference between a fetish and attraction. We can’t help it if we have a preference for one type of look, such as one guy being attracted to skinny women with blond hair whereas another prefers curvy women with darker tones.

How can you tell when it is a fetish and not just attraction? A fetish is purely sexual and the person will be attracted to ALL people of that race/appearance regardless of the person.

By comparison, attraction is often just the spark which initiates a romance. Real love isn’t based on attraction!

If Not a Fetish, then a Status Thing

If they don’t think your interracial relationship is based on a fetish, they might think it is a status thing, or a “come up.”

This is most seen in interracial relationships with white women and black men. As Ernest Baker points out at Gawker, it is based on years of white dominance in society.

Whites are privileged in this society and having what they have serves as validation for a lot of people. Successful minorities love to say, “You're privileged but I'm so smart and awesome and financially secure that I have the same, if not better, house, car, and woman as you.”

Need evidence that some black men see dating a white woman as a sign of their success? Just listen to the lyrics of rap music from the likes of Kanye West, Chris Brown, We Dem Boyz, or Wiz Khalif. You will hear lyrics about “white bitches” and how successful black men will “leave your ass for a white girl.”  Kanye West then went and married a white girl…

Kanye West and wife

Yes, women are seen as trophies and markers of success. This is a huge problem and you need to be aware of it before you enter into an interracial dating relationship with a white woman, especially if you are black.

Love May Be Blind – But Society Isn’t

You might not have a bit of racism in you, and your reasons for dating the man/woman of your dreams has nothing to do with race at all. But don’t ever forget that racism still exists. Be prepared for the stares, stupid comments, and maybe even violence (thankfully, this doesn’t occur often anymore in Western countries).

You two will have to do your best not to let the racism of other people interfere with your relationship.   The typical advice about interracial dating says to “just ignore it.” In reality, it won’t be so easy. You might have to adjust your relationship to avoid the discomfort and general displeasure of society.

Yes, it sucks to let bigots dictate your life, but it is really, really difficult not to let racism ruin your evening. For example, one interracial couple in Houston said they stopped going to country music concerts together. They just got tired of the stares and comments so decided to go on dates elsewhere.

Women Will Shun Your Girlfriend

Or, if you are the woman in the interracial relationship, the women in your boyfriend’s life will probably shun you.  Of course, this isn’t always the case – but you should be prepared for it.

You remember that move Save the Last Dance? When the white protagonist in the movie starts a relationship with a black guy, the guy’s female friend responds with:

“White girls like you, creeping up, taking our men — the whole world ain't enough, you've got to conquer ours too.”

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Sarah James talks about this in her article for the Huffington Post. She puts the comment in the context by pointing out that there are fewer black men than white men, black men are more likely to be incarcerated, and black men are less likely to be monogamous. Other stats show that 42% of black women are unmarried – which leads you to understand why black women might feel like a white woman is “creeping up” on their men.

Once again, this is really sad as it just reinforces a society in which women are pitted against each other.   This can also be a problem with men, such as you getting shunned by your girlfriend’s male friends. We stick to our “tribes” and people feel rejected or jealous when they see someone from “their tribe” dating someone who looks different.

You Will Both Be Scared to Meet Each Other’s Families

Meeting your partner’s family is always difficult. It can be downright terrifying when you two are of a different race.   As liberal as your partner and community are, there is much to be said about the decades of internalized racism that his/her parents might harvest.

In this article about meeting the parents when you are in an interracial relationship, David Schiller gives some good tips, like pretending that you like all the food and refraining from mentioning race at all.   Another good piece of advice is to tell your family beforehand. Even if you think your family is totally cool and not the least bit racist, it might still come as a surprise when you show up for dinner with a person from ___ race.

And remember, even if the meeting does end up being terrible, family is never a reason to stop seeing a person you love!

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You will Get Stupid Questions

You are in an interracial relationship? Brace yourself for the stupid questions! Some of these questions might be well intentioned, but ignorant and painful nonetheless.   Here are just some of the questions/comments you can expect to hear when dating interracially.

  • Aren’t your worried your children will be bullied?
  • Do you only date ___ people?
  • Wouldn’t it be easier to date someone of your own race?
  • What does your family think of you dating a ____ person?
  • I dated a ___ person once.
  • You are so brave!
  • Inappropriate questions about his “member”
  • What is sex like with a ____ person?
  • Mixed kids are so cute!

 

The Stares Might Be Coming from a GOOD Place

As annoying, frustrating, and painful as getting stares can be, remember that they might not all be coming from a bad place. A story from The Root is a good example of this.

Clay told me the story of a department store employee who was obsessing over Clay’s family and its racial makeup. “He was a white guy who was 19, and he would not let it go!” Clay said. Instead of shunning the curious stranger, they talked to him, and “it turned out that he had just started dating a black woman and was excited to see [our relationship] was working. It was goofy, awkward, immature, but it came from a genuine place.” You never know. People who you think are only seeing your skin might actually be seeing themselves.

 

Hardships Help Your Love Grow

Sad as it is, dealing with the racist idiots in the world might actually help you grow as a couple. Couples often face hurdles or “rough spots,” such as money problems, disease, employment troubles, and so forth. If the relationship isn’t strong, then the problems can break a relationship. However, if the relationship is strong, then the hardships can actually make the couple grow closer together.

Couples in an interracial relationship face hurdles right from the get-go. If they can overcome these hurdles, they will be much more equipped for dealing with whatever life throws at them.

If the two of you can’t withstand some negative associations with interracial dating and racism, then your love probably wasn’t that strong to begin with. Or, you or your partner lack self-confidence – which is absolutely necessary for a healthy relationship (read confidence tips in our dating manual!). Again, it is pretty sad, but those racist idiots might actually help your love flourish.

Okay – it doesn’t always end this way. Recent statistics show that interracial married couples have a higher rate of divorce: 41% of interracial couples will divorce by their 10th year compared to 31% for same-race couples. The study found the biggest divorce risk in couples involving white females with non-white males compared to white/white couples. Note that interracial couples which involved white men with non-white females showed no or little difference in divorce rates. White men with black women had a substantially lower divorce risk than white/white couples!

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The study researchers point out that other factors aside from race might be at work – including the lack of support from family and friends that interracial couples often experience. This just goes to show how important it is for people entering into interracial dating relationships to be aware of the hardships they might face.

In the End, Love Has Nothing to Do with Race

While it is important to be aware of the hardships you might face when dating interracially, ultimately it all comes down to the couple. You can’t help who you fall in love with, and love has nothing to do with race. If you two share the same interests, goals in life, and are committed to building a life together, then race won’t matter more than any of the many other obstacles which couples must overcome.

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The Magic of Making Up Review – Updated 2014

First off, I want to say that I’ve been there and understand what you are going through. Maybe you cheated on your ex. Maybe it was a stupid fight. Or maybe you simply took your ex for granted. No matter what the reason was, breakups suck. But here is the good news: you can get your ex back. With the ground-breaking system laid out in the e-guide “The Magic of Making Up” by T.W. Jackson, you can cut through all that drama and emotional baggage and not only get your ex back, but have an even better, stronger relationship than before.

What is The Magic of Making Up?

The Magic of Making Up Review - Updated 2014

The Magic of Making Up is an e-guide which gives you a foolproof way of getting your ex back. The system works for both men and women, and it works whether you broke up yesterday, last week, or last year. It even can work if your ex is already in a new relationship.

I should point out that The Magic of Making Up was written in 2007, which seems like a lifetime ago. However, it is still considered the leading guide for getting your ex back. Many influential dating coaches even use T.W. Jackson’s strategies in their practices.

The guide lays out a simple technique which can be used to get your ex back. Because the technique is based in psychology, it almost always works and it works with both men and women. Just as importantly, the eBook helps you understand the reason why your relationship ended and helps you stay in control of your emotions after the fact. For these reasons, The Magic of Making Up is a must-read for anyone in a relationship because it can help you avoid breaking up by teaching you how to keep your emotions in check and avoid doing things you will regret.Magic of Making Up Review

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Magnetic Messaging Review – Updated 2014

Whether you like it or not, text messaging has completely changed the way we date. Phone calls are becoming increasingly rare and men are expected to charm women into dating them with witty, cute, or decisive texts. Used the wrong way, text messaging can make you seem desperate, creepy, or flat-out boring. But, when used the right way, texting won’t just help you get a date with a girl, but will make the girl dripping wet in anticipation of your date.

Given the importance of texting in the dating game, it is fantastic that there is finally a book out on the topic. “Patented” Pick Up Artists Bobby Rio and Rob Judge spent two years researching the text game. The result is their landmark eBook Magnetic Messaging. The book guides you through the principles of the text game and lays out the “Key-Lock Sequence” – a tested system which allows you to captivate any woman with just three simple texts.

What is Magnetic Messaging?

Magnetic Messaging Review - Updated 2014

Magnetic Messaging is an e-guide which covers everything you need to know about using text messages to get a girl and keep her interested. Unlike other text messaging guides which give you a script to follow, Magnetic Messaging gives you a system called the “Key-Lock sequence” which you can use to “unlock the phone and text game”. The guide defines each step of the sequence, supplies plenty of examples and templates, and explains when and how much to use each. With this knowledge, you will never lose another girl because of bad follow-ups.Magnetic Messaging Review

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Tao of Badass Review – Updated 2016

What is Tao of Badass?

You may be saying, “What in the world is Tao of Badass?”

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The Ultimate Solution To All Your Dating Problems

In this review we’ll break it down for you. We’ll tell you about this program, designed by Joshua Pellicer, and we’ll provide you with the information to decide whether or not Tao of Badass is the key to transforming your relationships with women–and your entire life.

First, ask yourself these two simple questions:

Are you the kind of guy who doesn't seem to have that magic charm with women?

Do you find yourself constantly searching for the right girl, only to be rejected or end up with the wrong ones?

Tao of Badass is the quintessential guide to becoming a more confident man–the kind of man who can not only attract women but also build fulfilling relationships.

Yes, this guide is about meeting women and being more confident in social situations, but it offers a unique approach in that it also focuses on creating a real relationship with the right girl.

The key premise of Tao of Badass is that attracting women is something to be learned. Frequently, men see it as something that comes naturally, as a skill you’re either born with or not, but Joshua Pellicer disproves this fallacy based on extensive research as well as personal experience.Tao of Badass Review

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How To Read A Man Review (2014 Updated Review)

How To Read A Man In-Depth Review – Updated for 2014

Bottom line: This is a great guide. I definitely recommend picking it up. Get the current best for How To Read A Man by clicking here…

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How to Read a Man is a book that aims to help women in understanding a man. Understanding a man is an important factor in building a long lasting relationship, especially in married couples. Continue reading


Drama Method Review – Great Guide Or Waste Of Time? (2014 Update)

Bottom line: This is a really good guide but it does require a dramatic (!!) approach which might not suit everyone. Read the review below to learn more or click here to see latest pricing for the Drama Method…

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Men hate it when women throw their emotions around without much, if any control. At least that is what most of us believe as it relates to long lasting relationships…

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