Effective communication is crucial for a happy, long-lasting relationship. Whether the topic is sex, relationship secrets, money, or something else, you still need to have those difficult conversations. And if you find yourself mulling things over and over again and getting anxious about a conversation you never had yet, then it becomes even more necessary. If you withhold having these difficult conversations for long, because you don’t know how to start, there is a high possibility that it can hurt your relationship or worse.
Below are five things you will help to have those tough conversations in an easier and smoother way:
Timing Is Everything
Always have serious conversations with your partner when you’re focused, rested and attentive to each other. Timing is everything is having a meaningful and fruitful conversation about any topic with your spouse. Don’t talk when your partner when she just comes home from work or when she’s in a 2-hour commute. The best time to talk is when you’re alone at home, and you’re fully focused on her. Another thing that is worth mentioning is to be aware of your mood while talking. Don’t talk or carry on with the conversation if you’re angry, scared, distracted, or confused. This will only send mixed signals and make him or her to get more confused. Find a time to talk that you will work for both of you. Be kind, be supportive, be clear and composed, and think about how much you love or have loved your girlfriend.
Tell Your Lover Everything
The past brings nothing but resentment, pain and it only builds walls between you. Sure, at times you do need to share your previous failed relationships and misunderstandings. However, you bring things from your past; you need to have successful discussions that didn’t result in a huge blowup. When you can have a few conversations without a massive angry outburst, you’ll have the confidence and be able to have more challenging or delicate discussions that have been lingering in your relationship for a while. Small yet successful conversations like these will help you gain confidence and trust for yourself as well as for your spouse. This will pave the way for you and your partner to have a meaningful positive discussion about without blame and hurt that has been bothering you for long. When you begin the conversation, try keeping it current and talk about recent experiences, not something from five years ago.
Focus On Your Body Language
Your facial expressions, your body position, your body language when you talk immediately gets picked up subconsciously by your significant other or anyone so to speak. So, focus on your arms, your posture, and your facial expressions! Keep in mind people can judge your attitude from your body language even before you speak.
Be Truthful And Honest
When you’re in a relationship, honesty and truthfulness can take your relationship a long way. So, while having a conversation with your girlfriend always speak truthfully with kindness. You deserve to hear the truth, right? The same applies to her, too. So, if you’ve something to share, be truthful and honest about it and fast. The more you delay and avoid the issues in your relationship, the more awkward and uncomfortable it will become lately.