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Boost Your Confidence On How To Talk To Girls

There are many guys who are very shy to talk to the girls and are less confident about their looks hence restrict them to interact with the girls. These are the reasons why they can’t get a girlfriend. But it doesn’t mean that they can’t have a girlfriend, they can have their girlfriend. They can also get into the relationship and enjoy dating a girl of their choice.  If you also feel hesitated to ask a girl to be your girlfriend, then you can opt for the latest medium of interaction with the girls. There are plenty of online dating websites that are designed for the people who find it inconvenient to find their partners in the real world. Such websites give you the opportunity to interact with the girls from all over the world so that you can find your soul mate.

Learn the skills of attracting the girls

If you don’t know how to talk to girls you cannot build a healthy relationship with them. Girls are very particular about the manner in which a guy talks. Guys who have poor communication skills which include flirting over words, use of inappropriate and criticizing words, use of abusive language etc. are generally not preferred by the girls as the dating partners. She wants her man to be well versed in communication. She is flaunted by the way he talks and how he embraces her beauty and throb her heart by using the romantic words that she expects from him.

So if you have poor past experiences with your relationships, you can work upon your communication skills. It will help you to know what to say, when to say and how much to say to her so that you can even make your ex want you back with your improved communication skills. You can even sign up for different websites to get in touch with as many girls and start talking to them. By regular talking, you will get the confidence to talk to the girl in real. Once you feel that you are now ready to interact with the girl, you can plan a date with her at some romantic venue.

Things to focus while dating

It is very important to know how to talk to girls when you are dating a girl. Here are some of the points that guys should keep in mind regarding conversation during date:

  • Be gentle and polite. Do not talk in a rough manner. Politeness doesn’t mean you should be shy. You should be confident about what you are saying.
  • Look into her eyes while having conversation with her but do not stare. Shy kind of person avoids looking into the eyes of a girl which makes her feel that a guy is less interested in her.
  • Talk naughty. Of course you can talk on the hot topics like sex even if you have met the girl for the first time, but it should not reflect that you are lusty and have been dating her just for the sake of sex. Take your time to build the conversation and then you can proceed for the sex conversation.
  • Make sure that you do not talks of anything that could hurt her like asking things about her past. You should talk about your date, her sexy body, what you think of her, how you are going to please her tonight, where you want to take her on the next date, discuss about your short term plans etc.

Best way to improve your communication with girls

Online dating websites are the right place where you can improve your communication skills and learn how to talk to girls. For this, you should choose the reputed and reliable dating website and get started with it. When you sign up for such website, you are needed to create an attractive profile that helps you to get the maximum likes from thousands of girls who have also signed up with that dating website for finding their partners. When you join the dating website, you will be able to see the list of the girls who are in search of the guys. You can read out their profile and send request to date with you. Then you will be able to enjoy dating with those girls who will accept your request. When you date online, you are not actually in front of your girlfriend, so you will be able to comfortably talk to her. Those who are not even able to talk can take help from the dating experts to know how to ice break the conversation between you two. You can send messages to them to invite for the cam chat. No matter whether you are dating a Polish girl, interracial girl, Asian girl or any other girl, these types of dating services will always give you the best results.

Free to date any number of girls

You can follow the rules of casual dating at the online dating also. You can date as many girls at the same time. It helps you in getting a unique experience of dating, you will get to know the psychology of many number of girls that will enable you to understand them well. Hence, you won’t have to face much difficultly when you meet your partner for time. As, by that time you must have learnt so much about dating, sex, handling moods of the girls and how to talk to girls. It will also boost your morale and confidence to talk to the girls, interact with them and ask them to be your girlfriend. Even if you are married or in a relationship, you can freely enjoy dating girls online. There is no restriction in dating. You can freely enjoy the best time without letting anyone to know. Online dating is now possible through mobile phones also. You can download the app and continue dating as you do on your laptop or computers. It is a secretive way to enjoy your life to the fullest.


Should You Let Her Do All the Talking?

Talking with women is not as complicated as it seems sometimes. You don't need any special courses or degrees to get to talk to a woman and attract her attention. But could you know if you spent enough time talking with her? Or what if you should shut up and listen to her instead? What is the proportion for all this?

Tough questions, we know that. Therefore, we have prepared some advice to help you get on the right direction.

Aim for 50/50
As a general rule you want to aim for a 50/50 split when you talk with women.  Try to talk about half the time and let her talk the other half.  This is just a way to ensure you are both engaged and given the chance to contribute to in the conversation.  In case she is shy or reserved, you may need to talk a bit more, especially at first dates.  If she is “a talker”, you can sit just sit back and let her go (more details on how to handle these situations below).

Starting the conversation off light
This 50/50 split is especially important when you first talk to a woman – be it on your initial approach or when you first meet her on your date.  Why is that?  Because in these moments the best thing to do is often to relieve any nervous tension and get things started on a positive note by using playful banter.  And at its best, banter is very much a back-and-forth, where both you and the woman are equally engaged.

A lot of guys mess up at this point.  They see the beginning of a meeting as their chance to “put on a show” and let the girl see how funny/clever/awesome they are.  But when you talk to women with banter you want to be less like a “stand-up comedian” putting on a show, and more like an “improve” performer who gets those around him engaged and contributing.  When she is a part of the fun, playful conversation – and not just an observer – she will enjoy it and you that much more.

Create a connection
A common mistake guys make when they talk to women is thinking that just because they had a long, non-stop conversation that the woman is definitely interested.  But more important than length is the level of engagement.  It’s not enough for you both to be talking; you have got to connect on a deeper level.

What can you do to reach that deeper level of connection?  First of all, add emotional content into what you say.  For example don’t just talk to women about what you do for work/fun, tell the woman what you love about the work/activities you do.  Let her know what they mean to you and why you see them as important (Now, if you hate your job and are too busy for anything fun, you can always talk about the work/activities that you wouldwant to do and would enjoy doing.)

Creating emotional connection isn’t just about you opening up emotionally, but having her do the same.  So you want to ask questions that make it easy for her to do so.  For example, rather than just asking “Where are you from?” and then moving on to the next topic, go a bit deeper.  Find out what her life was like growing up, what kind of trouble she got into as a kid, etc.  This kind of conversation will get her more emotionally engaged, and you’ll create a stronger connection than you would by just sharing superficial details of your lives.

What happens if she doesn’t talk…
You might find the women you talk to is hesitant to open up.  If that’s the case here are three things you can do to help get her going:

  1. Switch gears and go back into playful banter.  She may just need a bit more time to feel comfortable with you before she’s willing to share anything emotional with you.
  2. Go first.  Tell her about your own childhood and what you were like as a kid before asking her to do the same.  By going first you show it is safe for her to share this kind of information.  She’ll also feel more compelled to share since it is now “her turn”.
  3. Let her know why you are asking what you are asking.  It can often help her feel more comfortable (it won’t feel like you are “prying”) if you briefly let her know why you are interested in hearing more about her.  (Even if the reason is as simple as you just wanting to learn more about her.)

But what if she’s talking non-stop
If it happens the opposite way and you are on a date with a “talker” who monopolizes the conversation, often the best thing you can do is simply let her talk.  It's easy, let her share as much as she cares to and just be there to listen and validate what she says (you don’t have to agree, just accept her and the feelings/thoughts she has).  Just by keeping your mouth shut and listening she can start to see you as someone who really “gets” her, and she’ll feel that much more connected to you.

If you find yourself in this kind of situation, here are a few things to keep in mind that will help ensure you really are the guy who “gets” her:

  • Don’t interrupt her.  Show you value her and what she has to say by giving her the chance to express herself without interruption.  (Cutting her off to tell a funny story of your own can actually kill the attraction in these situations).
  • Repeat the words she uses back to her.  If she is telling you a story and says how it was a “fulfilling experience”, reflect that back by saying something like “Wow, that does sound like it would be a fulfilling experience”.  Using the same words she uses is a way to understand what she is talking about the same way that she understands it.  It will show that you really do “get” and understand her.

Last but not least, don’t worry about the awesome thing you will say next or how you will respond.  All that does is pull you out of the moment and kill the connection.  So let all that go and just stay engaged, interested, and curious about what she has to say.


5 UNEXPECTED WAYS TO IMPRESS A GIRL ON A DATE

You don't need to read all the books from a library or to stick yourself to TV news in order to convince a girl that you are smart and you have a vaste cultural knowledge. The path is way more easier. Just have a look at the steps below and you will definitely be a winner.

1. Show off your knowledge of celebrity families
She’ll assume topics like Kate Middleton’s baby bump and Suri Cruise’s divorced parents are only allowed when she’s with her girlfriends, so surprise her by knowing what’s up with A-listers and their offspring. Take for example, OK! magazine's guide to Hollywood's cutest kids can help you brush up on the basics.

2. Scan the front page of the Wall Street Journal
Staying on top of what’s going on in the world can be as easy as reading a half-page section of expertly written news blurbs. Make it as a habit every morning while you wait in line for coffee and you’ll bank up enough knowledge to survive a conversation on Syria’s civil war.

3. Do your homework
It’s almost 2013—Google stalking isn’t as creepy as it used to be. You might uncover something you didn’t know about her, like that she blogged about a semester abroad or that she’s finished a few marathons. All you need to do is to find a (natural) way to weave those topics into a conversation, and watch her open up about what she’s passionate about.

4. Download a new app
They don’t call it a smartphone for nothing. If you aren’t up on the latest books, music, movies, eateries or whatever, there’s probably an app that can help you navigate the basics. Don’t know the difference between Malbec or Syrah? Hello Vino(free) helps you select a wine based on your taste preferences and what you’re eating. Heading to a raw bar but don’t know a damn thing about oysters? Oysterpedia (free) may be your best bet. We’re not joking—there really is an app for almost any topic.

5. Don’t ruin a good outfit with bad shoes
Skipping cologne and showing up with frayed shoe laces might not seem like a big deal, but when it comes to your style and grooming habits, girls appreciate the details, like good shoes on a good-smelling guy. These simple things tie your look together and show her that your understanding of style goes beyond an ability to match a shirt and a pair of pants.


5 Ways To Talk To Her Like The Fun, Confident Guy You Really Are

Straight-forward replies may get a woman to pay initial attention in you, but it is not enough. This is just an initial part of the art of conversation with women. So what is the next step to keep the conversation going and get the woman you like to get crazy with you?

First and foremost, you have to identify one very important thing: Why do you want to date that woman you are interested in? If you are only thinking on adding another on your list, then we are sorry to disappoint you but an attitude like this won't lead you to have a huge list, not even to go on many second dates.

If you're stuck in the online dating world and don't know how to get past the first face-to-face, these tips will help you too.

Below are 5 tips on how to talk to women more easily if the fear of approaching one makes you tongue-tied after hello.

Step 1. Focus on her, not you.

Don’t let anxieties of being shot down or approaching a woman turn you off from talking to a woman. If she chooses not to respond to you, it is not about you. It’s about her. She probably isn't looking for anyone, has her own insecurities, or is not interested.

If you are focusing on what you’re going to say next or the thoughts in your head, she will pick up on the fact that she does not have 100% of your attention. Why is that? You’re too focused on yourself and women sense this immediately.

Bottom line, if you’re both listening to your own thoughts or you get distracted by something else, then you aren’t having a conversation with someone else in the first place!

The mere thought of having to initiate conversation with other people, let alone a woman, is draining, intimidating, and daunting for introverts. This isn’t bad; it’s just the way it is. Just remember, half of the population are introverts, so it can be equally hard for women to respond back. It’s doable, and is easiest to do when you are doing things that you enjoy doing.

Step 2. Ask open-ended questions.

The difference between a close-ended question and an open-ended question is that when you ask a close-ended question the answer is either yes or no. An open-ended question uses What, When, Where, How and Why, becomes broader, but the purpose behind asking the questions is to illicit someone else’s opinions, thoughts, and feelings.

Before you head out the door, create a list of 5 or 10 things you can talk about—be it current events, politics, sports, or a hobby—and be open to listening and hearing differing opinions.

Step 3. Be yourself.

We pick up on nonverbal body language faster than we register what you’re saying. This means if you are only interested in getting a number to get a date, we understand this on a visceral level, before we’ve even responded to what you’ve said.

One thing to think about is if you’re only interested in getting a number, then most women are not interested in you. We want to feel and be special. For women, to give you our number or talk to you longer than 2 minutes, we need to feel a connection. Even if we’re physically attracted to you, this doesn’t mean we’re going to give you our contact information. If you’re relaxed, being honest, and genuinely interested in what we think and feel, then we may let our guard down long enough to see who you are as a person too.

Step 4. If you do approach a woman at a bar or club, then bring a friend.

Generally speaking, when women go out to a bar or club, they are going out to have time with friends first, and maybe, just maybe talk to a guy if he shows a genuine interest in her.

We often look to our best girlfriends to give us a thumb up or down on if a guy seems like a good guy or not. Having a friend along with you decreases anxiety on both sides, because there’s more to talk about, and we don’t feel like you’re trapping or bearing down on us.

Remember, a lot of times we’re just getting together to wind down and spend time with our friends. Night life is often loud, and isn’t the best place to have conversations. Sometimes we just want to cut loose and dance, that’s all. Canvassing other people in committed relationships, I’ve found most of them met outside of the night life.

Which gets me to the next point…

Last but not least, step no. 5: Focus on being friends.

If you are focusing on just having a good time in the moment, then this is one way we begin to open up, and have time to decide whether or not we feel like there is chemistry between us. Asking for a friendly game of darts or pool on teams is fun, we all get to relax, and in the meantime get to know one another a little bit.

These tips come from life and professional experience. What it boils down to is whether or not you believe you can find someone compatible with you, and whether or not you have the skill set of active listening. Getting outside of your head, any insecurities, and removing listening blocks is half the battle.

If you’re really interested in finding datable women, your best bet is not a club or bar, but taking up co-ed hobbies and interests where you see the same women over and over again. This gives you time to get to know each other, develop a relationship, and to see if that friendship can turn into something much more intimate.

Ladies if you’re reading this and agree, then please share on your social networks and help the opposite sex. Like this, you may help inform your male friends on what works, and what doesn’t. And in the end, you will benefit from the result as well!


How to Attract Any Girl

Do you like a girl and you don't know how to attract her? What are the best words and tactics to choose to get a girl become interested in you and curious about your person? You don't have to search too much and read all the guides for this. Follow the tips below that will help you to go on the right path.

Project confidence
Being confident is the one irresistible trait you must have if you want to attract women.  And women can tell right away whether or not you’re confident just by looking at your body language.  For example, if you’re fidgeting or making yourself “small” in your environment, women will see you as lacking confidence.

So the first step in how to attract any girl is to adopt confident body language.  What you need to know is how to keep your body movements calm and controlled.  Make yourself big.  Don’t be afraid to take up room and claim the space immediately around you.  If that’s difficult due to feeling nervous or uncomfortable, take slow, deep breaths while focusing on the sensations in your body (can you feel your feet?).  This will help you relax and allow that confident body language to come out naturally.

Get her laughing
Every girl likes a guy who can make her laugh.  And there’s no better time to prove you have that ability than at the beginning of the conversation.  Get a girl to smile early on and it’ll help her relax and feel comfortable talking to you.  All while sparking that interest and attraction.

One technique you can use to start a conversation and get a girl laughing is playful teasing.  This is particularly effective because most guys are too insecure to playfully tease a girl right off the bat.  By starting your conversations this way you show you’re not intimidated by attractive women.  You can get her laughing and show tremendous confidence at the same time.

Here are just two examples of how to start a conversation with playful teasing: (1) “You know you’d look cute in a purple Mohawk” (2) “Excuse me, I’m trying to have a guy’s night out and you totally ruined it.  You’re too damn cute”.  Lines like these can get a conversation started on a fun, playful note.

Make her win you over
Projecting confidence and making a girl laugh are common tips for how to attract any girl.  But there’s another tip that’s equally important that doesn’t get nearly as much discussion.  It’s called qualification.

Qualification is all about getting the woman to prove that she’s a cool, interesting girl. It shows you’re a guy with standards who doesn’t invest his time and attention in just any attractive girl.  When you actively filter women like this they see you as a high-value guy.  They will then put more effort into keeping your interest and attention.

After bantering with a girl you can start qualifying by asking questions like “So what’s your deal?” or “What are three things I wouldn’t know about you by looking?”  These questions are great because they’re open-ended and allow the girl to share as much information as she feels comfortable.  They also give you a great chance to get to know her.  You can then find out if she truly is a cool, interesting girl.

Create an emotional connection
In order to know how to attract any girl it’s important to know how to connect with any girl.  That is, how to build an emotional connection so that she feels close to you, and you feel close to her.

One way to build that emotional connection with a girl is to use the “I” perspective when speaking.  Express your thoughts, opinions – and most importantly your emotions – directly.  For example, saying “I love Game of Thrones” gives her a glimpse into your emotional world.  But if you said “Game of Thrones is a great show” then that emotional component is taken out of the picture completely.   Talking about your personal experiences, rather than objective facts, is going to get her feeling more deeply connected to you.

Build sexual tension
No article on how to attract any girl would be complete without a tip on how to build sexual tension.  After all this is what keeps guys out of the friend-zone.

One of the most effective ways to build sexual tension with women is through touch.  Start touching the girl early on in your conversation by lightly tapping the back of your hand against her elbow.  If she’s okay with that contact, you can gradually move on to touch her for longer periods of time in more intimate areas (shoulder, back, thigh, face).

The key to knowing when you should touch more – or less – is to check for compliance.  If she allows you to touch her, or starts touching you in response, then you can take things a step further with your touch.  If however she recoils or moves away when you touch her, then give her space.  Build more comfort through banter and creating an emotional connection.  When she’s a bit more comfortable, try to build that sexual tension once again.

Be unattached to the outcome
One thing that is will help you tremendously when learning how to attract any woman is being unattached to the outcome.  That is, don’t get hung up on whether or not you get a phone number, a date, or even get the girl to like you.  Just enjoy the process of meeting women and focus on having fun.  If you’re not looking to get anything from your interactions with women then you’ll have no trouble being confident, fun, open, and sexual with women.

The best way to make this your natural way of being is to get lots of experience talking and flirting with women.  Make a point to talk to at least three women a day and practice the techniques mentioned in this article and elsewhere on the site.  The more experience you get the less you’ll care about each individual interaction.


6 Best Topics To Talk About With A Girl

There's an old saying that men come from Mars and women from Venus, meaning more or less that they usually speak totally different languages. But is it really true? How can men overcome the awkward moments when they don't find their words and they seem completely lost in front of a woman? Well, you just came to the right place reading the article below.

Usually, most men feel anxious before approaching a woman, because they are afraid of an awkward silence, even more than of a potential rejection. When you’re trying to attract a woman you are interested in, any conversations that you have with her are like little games of poker. Your goal is to get her to invest an equal or greater amount of effort into the conversation, because the more invested she is in your conversation the more invested she is going to be in your interaction.

All great seducers understand this. They know that sharing a great conversation with a woman isn’t just about what they say to her. They understand that it’s as much about what they can get a woman saying back to them.

It’s this conversational effort that a woman commits that will help you find commonalities between the two of you to create rapport, and help you discover unique things about her that you can show genuine attraction towards; both crucial ingredients if you are to escalate the interaction towards a romantic or sexual outcome.

So in this article you will find six conversational topics that seem to have effect on women when it comes to interacting and attracting them.

1. Books, Movies, Music and Art

Let’s be honest! You’re not going to have a woman bearing her soul to you and sharing her hopes, dreams and deepest fears with you from the get go. You’ll need to build a whole lot of comfort and rapport before you get there. This is why you need a few conversational topics that are low effort and still engaging to get things started. Getting a woman talking about her favorite books, movies, music or art is a great way to do so.

The trick here, however, is to not ask for too little. For example, if a woman tells you that she loves music, don’t just ask her what her favorite band is. Ask her for two songs from her favorite band that she thinks you should listen to and ask her what those two songs mean to her. Or if a woman tells you that she loves to read, instead of just asking her who her favorite author is ask her to recommend a book to you and get her to tell you what it’s about.

Not only will this allow you to coax her into putting more conversational effort into your interaction, but it’ll also help you find out things that you both are into.

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2. Relationships

I swear to God, relationship related topics are like conversational crack for most women. And if there’s one thing that women love more than hearing relationship stories, it’s coming up with solutions to relationship problems.

So the next time you hear about your little cousin’s problems with her boyfriend, or hear about your roommate complain about his overly possessive girlfriend, make a mental note of the story and use it in conversation. You’ll be surprised with just how into these topics women can get.

3. The People Around You

Sometimes I hear a lot of guys complain saying that they run out of topics to talk about when they’re with a girl that they’re interested in. But don't get discouraged. Here’s the thing: if you pay close attention to your surroundings the chances are that you’ll find more than enough conversational ammunition to last a whole day.

For example, there’s a fun little game that I love playing with girls that I’m out on dates on. I call it the “what’s their story” game. When you’re out on a date with a girl, pick a stranger at random and talk about what you imagine what their story must be like. And then ask your date to tell you her version. Once she gets the hang of it start getting more and more imaginative and ridiculous with your stories. I guarantee that you’ll both have a blast.

4. Travel

Whenever I’m interacting with a woman I always try to direct the conversation in a direction that’s fun and imaginative. I hate conversations that drab and uninteresting. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned through my experiences with women is that talking about travel always gets them feeling happy and excited.

You see, all people love to travel, even though some love to travel daydream as they lack either the time or the money to do it. The key here, again, is to ask for more than just an impersonal list of travel destinations.

Ask her where the most exciting place she’s travelled to was and what she loved about it. Or ask her where she would go if she could disappear for an entire month without having to worry about her work or any other responsibilities. These types of conversations will get her imagination firing on overdrive and put her in an uplifted emotional state; both feelings which she will start associating with you.

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5. Observations About Her

There’s a school of thought among some men who teach attraction skills that a guy should never compliment or show interest in a woman. I disagree. I believe that to truly attract and seduce a woman you need to make her feel as if she’s won you over. To do this you need to find out things about her that are unique and appreciate them. Listen to this advice my friend: being curious about women can significantly improve your dating life!

You see, a woman’s observational skills are often much more keenly tuned than a man, and being with a man who notices things that other men usually don’t will have a powerful effect on her.

Does she have a fashion sense that you hardly ever get to see on other women? Does she circle words that she thinks sound cute when she’s reading? Let her know that you notice these things and ask her about them. And when she tells you these stories let her know that you find these things attractive about her.

6. Her Passions, Her Dreams and Her Goals

Do you remember the last time someone showed genuine interest in your dreams and goals? It’s always such a nice feeling to talk about things that you are passionate about with a person who’s genuinely interested in these things. And here’s the cool thing. Once you’ve built up a certain level of trust and rapport with a woman, all you need to do to find out these things about her is to ask.

You see, sometimes being a great conversationalist is like learning to become a mirror. The point isn’t to grope about blindly in search of things that your conversational partner to talk about.

The point is to learn to develop a feel for what topics get them excited and to learn to steer the conversation towards those topics.Women will feel refreshed by the genuine interest that you show in their lives and they will remember how you made them feel when talking about these things that they’re passionate about.

All in all, keep these conversational topics in mind and make a conscious effort to practice your conversational skills, and I guarantee that you’ll see a marked difference in the quality of the conversations you share with women.


THE NEW RULES OF DATING

If you just started the dating game, first of all you need to know that things have changed quite drastically. However, if you are up to date with the new rules and you know how to play according to them, the results will be always in your benefit.

9 Get-The-Girl Guarantees EVERY Guy Needs To Know

We are facing a period with extremely fast changes. Everything is affected by these, even dating and getting a girl to feel attracted by you. How to adapt more rapidly to these changes? Below you will find the answer.

In the past, when women were not independent as nowadays, the rules were extremely clear. Even the roles of men and women were very clearing defined while dating. Things were pretty simple, the man was courting the woman and both of them knew that if everything went smoothly the next was marriage.

But now, when the society has evolved, dating has become more complicated. What is to be done in this case? 

“Hanging out” and “hooking up” have replaced traditional courtship. Sex is no longer sacred and potential partners are far quicker to jump in the sack.

Some would consider this new direction advantageous for both sides. Yet despite this, many men and women seek dating advice that helps them find the meaningful connection they still yearn for (and haven't found despite these “advancements” in modern dating).

Having that  meaningful connection, one that's more than skin-deep, takes effort but is immensely rewarding. The real difference with men and women is that each goes about looking for this connection in different ways.

In a moment, we'll look at what you can do to date successfully. But first, let's look at some seriously outdated dating approaches that just DON'T work for you anymore, men. If you're doing one or more of these things, you're unknowingly repelling women of worth.

  • Focusing mainly on your job and not making dating a priority.
  • Misrepresenting yourself in your online profile. (Examples include not being truthful about your height, appearance, age, interests, etc.)
  • Being closed off to women who aren't in your desired age range.
  • Getting overly caught up in a woman's appearance and measurements.
  • Sending boring messages, one-size-fits-all messages or cheesy pick up lines to women online.
  • Texting and emailing for weeks, instead of talking on the phone and asking her out.
  • Saying what you think she wants to hear and not meaning what you say.
  • Taking advantage of a woman's money, generosity, sex, fragile state, etc.
  • Dragging things out with the wrong woman because there's no one else you're interested in.
  • Leading a woman on by making her think you're dating exclusively when you’re also seeing other women.
  • Trying too hard and giving off the energy of desperation.
  • Focusing on sex too much. (Examples include making sexual innuendos, saying what you think she wants to hear so that she'll have sex with you, and rushing/pressuring a woman to have sex.)
  • Dating women who deplete your energy. (Examples include women who take advantage of you, are drama queens, selfish, too critical or hypersensitive.)

Guys, now let's leave aside the history and are some tips for how to date women and enjoy more dates that lead to meaningful connection.

1. Be your true self
Present yourself as the same person online and offline. Women are pleasantly surprised to meet a man who portrays himself accurately. Trust is necessary and starts with being honest about the superficial things (i.e. height, appearance, age, interests, etc.).

Communicate openly about who you are, your beliefs, your views on life and love, etc., so that your dates gets to know who you truly are. Let her make an honest choice if the real you is right for her.

2. Be a gentleman
No matter the times you are facing, you have to be a gentleman. Treat a woman the way you'd like a man to treat your sister, daughter or someone you care about; this means dating responsibly. Take care of your appearance and hygiene. Be a man of your word. Be well-mannered, courteous and respectful in your words, behaviors and actions.

Take the time to learn who she is and what she's about, and share who you are with her. Let things unfold as they're meant to instead of trying to rush having sex with her. When you are a gentleman, having sex will not be difficult to happen.

3. Have integrity 
Be honest. If at the end of a date, you don't wish to see her again, don’t say, “I'll call you and let's do this again.” Empty words and empty promises create false hope and end up being more hurtful. In this situation, kind honesty is best.

Say something like, “Thank you for meeting me. I really enjoyed talking with you, though I didn't feel a romantic connection. I wish you well in life and love.”

4. Ask her out first
Though women lead every day in their professional lives, many of us prefer men to still make the first move romantically. If you're interested in her, ask her out.

Contact her based on what you read in her dating profile (i.e. referencing common interests, asking her a question about something that sparked your attention) before the window of opportunity passes.

The caveat is: Don't make mention of her appearance in a creepy way (i.e. “Hey sexy, love your body.”). A woman of worth doesn't respond positively to this kind of messages.

5. Be open to who she is
Be open to more than a woman's physical appearance, measurements and age.

Wonderful women come in all packages. Instead of making physical appearance your main criteria, focus 80 percent of your opinion on a woman's inner appearance and 20 percent on her outward appearance.

This also means dating women who are closer to you in age. You'll increase your odds of meeting and dating more women.

6. Be thoughtful
Show consideration and caring to a woman's feelings. A woman of worth must feel connected to a man to keep a positive momentum going. When a woman doesn't hear from you between dates, a space of negative energy builds up.

A woman likes to know you're thinking of her in between the times you see each other. So let her know this with a text, a quick phone call, etc. It's the little things that matter and add up to make a big difference.

7. Be patient
When it comes to dating, patience is a virtue. Don't sacrifice short-term urges for your long-term happiness. When you rush things, you sabotage your chances for dating to turn into a meaningful connection with a wonderful woman.

Instead of approaching dating as the destination, approach dating as the journey to finding a meaningful connection.

8. Balance your life
What you place your attention on becomes prominent in your life. Assess the amount of time and energy you spend working, with the amount of time you are with you your friends, dating, etc.

If you tend to work a lot or spend most of your free time with friends, your dating life won't fall into place by itself.

Dating takes time, effort and energy. Balance your life so that you're able to work well, date well and spend time with friends. When your life is in balance, life flows better.

9. Get out of your own way
When it comes to dating, the most important thing you can do is take responsibility for your side of the dating equation. This means understanding how you're getting in your own way and what's stopping you from having a great dating life.

To put it in a nutshell, identify the common tendencies that show up in your dating life. Then work on changing yourself so these tendencies don't show up.


HOW TO GET (AND KEEP) HER ATTENTION

She is amazingly beautiful and you want to do the impossible to get her attention. You have read over and over again on the internet about tips to make a girl be interested in you and keep the flame burning. But sometimes too much information is not helping, right? Therefore, in order to make the mission possible, we have summarized some of the most important steps which you could easily follow and you will definitely get the girl you want.

STEP 1: MASTER THE APPROACH

Stop looking for that ultimate line. Just catch her attention, says Nick Savoy, a dating expert and author of Magic Bullets. “You just want her interested in the next thing you're going to say to her.” Tell her about your trip to Prague or an interesting book you've recently read. Find a way to show her that you're a multi-dimensional guy, without sounding pretentious or self-involved.

STEP 2: AVOID THE LULL

This is where most guys hit a wall. “Never leave a conversation because you've run out of things to talk about,” Savoy says. At the very least, use something like, “that's just like when . . .” to keep things moving. If you're feeling confident, try the “cold read”—tell her something about herself based on her appearance or mannerisms. Point out her striking cheekbones or her cute laugh. You will see afterwards that her reaction will open up a new avenue in the conversation.

STEP 3: THE REEL-IN

“Confidence and humor are your biggest assets,” Savoy says. Make her laugh and take control of the conversation. Just don't overdo it—too often, guys fall into the habit of trying to be comedians or hogging the conversation. Be interesting and fun but make sure she's part of the discussion as well. “You don't want to yank on the line as soon as there's a nibble,” he explains. “Women value what they have to work for.”

STEP 4: TAKE IT OUTSIDE

Now think from the logistics point of view. Ditch loud, crowded surroundings for something more intimate. “That's where you'll discover your shared interests,” Savoy says. “It's where you build a connection.” You will never really get to know someone deeply when you have loud bass pumping in your ears. Ask her if she wants to go somewhere for coffee so you can talk. Then find a nice, quaint cafe—she'll will fall in love seeing this side of you.

STEP 5: KEEP THE NIGHT ALIVE

Obviously, you'll want to avoid sudden separations, like an hour-long drive to your place in two cars. Give her a reason to come over—watching an old movie, for instance. But be careful and don't try to trick her: At this point, you should both know what you want. And always make sure that she feels comfortable. Your expectations should be to simply hang out with her and get to know her better—that's when other things are most likely to happen.

 


The Gentleman’s Guide to Seduction

Probably you don't know this yet, but from the first steps you make in approaching a woman, talking with her, you are making the first steps in seducing her. Yes, you heard it right, seduction is not synonym to bedroom. Actually it happens all the time, everywhere you are around the woman you feel attracted to.

And guess what?! Women are getting your messages exactly how you send them, verbal or non-verbal. Even though sometimes you try to hide it, you are in fact sending these messages to them exactly through the words you use and body-language, and subliminally through your conversation.

This thing is called verbal foreplay, meaning the art of lubricating her mind in a way that evokes sexual desire. And here’s a road map for talking your way right to her heart.

“You want to show her you’re the kind of guy who embraces his sexual desires and is comfortable with his sexuality, as this will open her up to that part of herself as well.”

1. Be confident and self-assured
Theory: If you’re slouching, not looking her in the eye, and your voice is quivering, she is going to know you’re nervous and she is going to be turned off. You have to be be confident, at ease in your own skin, like walking up to a woman and starting a conversation with her is no big deal (which it shouldn’t be).

Practice: When you see a girl you want to talk to, establish eye contact and then immediately walk over and engage her. Even if she’s with a group, don’t wait until she’s off on her own because that moment might never arrive. Be confident, stand up straight, make eye contact and speak in a clear, using a strong tone.

2. Start asking open-ended questions
Theory: So many guys get nervous and begin peppering the girl they’re speaking to with compliments and drudgy questions, which spikes the logical side of her brain; she quickly loses interest and counts down the seconds until you leave her alone. Instead, ask questions that excite her and bring her back to past places of pleasure. It's not even necessary to ask anything sexual at all. Questions that simply appeal to her emotions and stimulate her imagination will make her excited to engage with you.

Practice: If you ask her, “So what do you do for a living” you’re going to hit a roadblock right away. Why? Because it’s a very logical question that will spike a very standard response—she’s at a party to have fun, not talk about her job. But go with something like, “So tell me about the last awesome vacation you went on,” she is going to re-visit the memories of that past vacation in her mind. The images emotions she felt at that moment are going to be positive and invigorating.

3. Tell a story
Theory: Every guy has things he wishes he could tell a girl about himself immediately—that he’s really successful and has a high-paying job, the car he drives, the Ivy League college he graduated from, or the fact that he’s traveled to every continent. While some guys will fire off their “highlight reel” right out of the gate, a quality guy knows how to subtly portray who he is without throwing it in her face. To wit: telling a story that demonstrates your value and places you in a position that actively portrays you as the bolded version of yourself. The way you tell it is also key. Relate the details like you’re confessing your wildest sexual fantasy. Change the inflection in your voice to captivate her and draw her in. Step into her when you whisper something, or make eye contact at critical points, which can create a hyper-sensual feeling.

Practice: Say you just recently went travelling in Central America with a friend and took up surfing for the first time. You could use the first big wave you caught as an opportunity to tell a story from your trip. Draw her in by talking about the exact emotions you were feeling, the intensity and adrenaline that was streaming through your veins, and finally, that rush of euphoria when you got on top of the wave. This is the recipe for how you appeal to her emotions, create excitement and develop intimacy.

seduction-redheadWhen you’ve reached this point, you can probably stop referring to the guide.

4. Tease like a kid
Theory: When we were in grade school we would always make fun of the girl we liked. While our methods have advanced slightly, that approach is strangely legit. I call this the “playground method,” and it’s quite effective for creating sexual attraction. Done right, it conveys a few things: her beauty doesn’t intimidate you, you won’t bend over backwards to please her, and you’re sharp, witty and have a good sense of humor. By finding little quirks to tease her about, you’re putting yourself on an even playing field, as well as subliminally offering her an invitation to engage with you in a verbal dance that creates excitement, play and sexual tension.

Practice: If you picked up that she has a humorous way of moving or walking, you could mimic her walk. Or, if you get the feeling through your conversation that she’s the “keener” type you could go with something like:

You: “I bet you were a front-of-the-classroom kind of girl.”

Her: (Laughs) What do you mean?

You: Yeah…you were probably up at the front with your hair in pigtails, perfect posture, with your hands folded on top of each other.”

Her: You think so, do you?

You: Yup, apple in your pocket, the whole deal. If I ever gave a teacher an apple, I would make sure to take a giant bite out of it first.

Her: I’m actually a lot of fun. I bet I would surprise you.

You: I don’t believe you, but I do like surprises. 

5. Weave in sexual innuendo
Theory: This step isn’t always necessary, because if you did the previous steps astutely enough, the conversation will have built to a place of intimacy already. However, it’s final spike that cements you as a viable sexual counterpart. You want to show her that you’re the kind of guy who embraces his sexual desires and is comfortable with his sexuality, as this will potentially open her up to that part of herself as well. You can do this by actually talking about sex and sharing stories if the conversation goes there, but you can also do this by making subtle, suggestive references. The idea here is that she will know exactly what you’re implying—she will be able to read into the subtext of your jokes—but it’s then up to her whether she accepts or rejects your advances.

Practice: Here’s an opportunity to build on the earlier conversation…

You: OK, maybe you weren’t the teacher’s pet. Maybe you were the bad girl. Sitting in the back of class, passing notes, sneaking out to smoke cigarettes.

Her: (Laughs) Well, I wouldn’t say that!

You: If I were your teacher, I might have to put you in detention…

Her: Oh really?

Seduction is not really about manipulation or deception but rather about packaging your strengths and showcasing them in the best way possible. You want to bring forward your best self in a way that makes you shine and makes your interaction with her exciting and memorable. You want to stick out in her mind because she remembers how she felt when she was around you. It’s all about eliciting a positive emotional response and creating a fun, exciting atmosphere that she wants to be a part of and play around in. So don’t hesitate. So go ahead guys, try this today and thank us tomorrow.