Category Archives: Talk To Women

5 UNEXPECTED WAYS TO IMPRESS A GIRL ON A DATE

You don't need to read all the books from a library or to stick yourself to TV news in order to convince a girl that you are smart and you have a vaste cultural knowledge. The path is way more easier. Just have a look at the steps below and you will definitely be a winner.

1. Show off your knowledge of celebrity families
She’ll assume topics like Kate Middleton’s baby bump and Suri Cruise’s divorced parents are only allowed when she’s with her girlfriends, so surprise her by knowing what’s up with A-listers and their offspring. Take for example, OK! magazine's guide to Hollywood's cutest kids can help you brush up on the basics.

2. Scan the front page of the Wall Street Journal
Staying on top of what’s going on in the world can be as easy as reading a half-page section of expertly written news blurbs. Make it as a habit every morning while you wait in line for coffee and you’ll bank up enough knowledge to survive a conversation on Syria’s civil war.

3. Do your homework
It’s almost 2013—Google stalking isn’t as creepy as it used to be. You might uncover something you didn’t know about her, like that she blogged about a semester abroad or that she’s finished a few marathons. All you need to do is to find a (natural) way to weave those topics into a conversation, and watch her open up about what she’s passionate about.

4. Download a new app
They don’t call it a smartphone for nothing. If you aren’t up on the latest books, music, movies, eateries or whatever, there’s probably an app that can help you navigate the basics. Don’t know the difference between Malbec or Syrah? Hello Vino(free) helps you select a wine based on your taste preferences and what you’re eating. Heading to a raw bar but don’t know a damn thing about oysters? Oysterpedia (free) may be your best bet. We’re not joking—there really is an app for almost any topic.

5. Don’t ruin a good outfit with bad shoes
Skipping cologne and showing up with frayed shoe laces might not seem like a big deal, but when it comes to your style and grooming habits, girls appreciate the details, like good shoes on a good-smelling guy. These simple things tie your look together and show her that your understanding of style goes beyond an ability to match a shirt and a pair of pants.


5 Ways To Talk To Her Like The Fun, Confident Guy You Really Are

Straight-forward replies may get a woman to pay initial attention in you, but it is not enough. This is just an initial part of the art of conversation with women. So what is the next step to keep the conversation going and get the woman you like to get crazy with you?

First and foremost, you have to identify one very important thing: Why do you want to date that woman you are interested in? If you are only thinking on adding another on your list, then we are sorry to disappoint you but an attitude like this won't lead you to have a huge list, not even to go on many second dates.

If you're stuck in the online dating world and don't know how to get past the first face-to-face, these tips will help you too.

Below are 5 tips on how to talk to women more easily if the fear of approaching one makes you tongue-tied after hello.

Step 1. Focus on her, not you.

Don’t let anxieties of being shot down or approaching a woman turn you off from talking to a woman. If she chooses not to respond to you, it is not about you. It’s about her. She probably isn't looking for anyone, has her own insecurities, or is not interested.

If you are focusing on what you’re going to say next or the thoughts in your head, she will pick up on the fact that she does not have 100% of your attention. Why is that? You’re too focused on yourself and women sense this immediately.

Bottom line, if you’re both listening to your own thoughts or you get distracted by something else, then you aren’t having a conversation with someone else in the first place!

The mere thought of having to initiate conversation with other people, let alone a woman, is draining, intimidating, and daunting for introverts. This isn’t bad; it’s just the way it is. Just remember, half of the population are introverts, so it can be equally hard for women to respond back. It’s doable, and is easiest to do when you are doing things that you enjoy doing.

Step 2. Ask open-ended questions.

The difference between a close-ended question and an open-ended question is that when you ask a close-ended question the answer is either yes or no. An open-ended question uses What, When, Where, How and Why, becomes broader, but the purpose behind asking the questions is to illicit someone else’s opinions, thoughts, and feelings.

Before you head out the door, create a list of 5 or 10 things you can talk about—be it current events, politics, sports, or a hobby—and be open to listening and hearing differing opinions.

Step 3. Be yourself.

We pick up on nonverbal body language faster than we register what you’re saying. This means if you are only interested in getting a number to get a date, we understand this on a visceral level, before we’ve even responded to what you’ve said.

One thing to think about is if you’re only interested in getting a number, then most women are not interested in you. We want to feel and be special. For women, to give you our number or talk to you longer than 2 minutes, we need to feel a connection. Even if we’re physically attracted to you, this doesn’t mean we’re going to give you our contact information. If you’re relaxed, being honest, and genuinely interested in what we think and feel, then we may let our guard down long enough to see who you are as a person too.

Step 4. If you do approach a woman at a bar or club, then bring a friend.

Generally speaking, when women go out to a bar or club, they are going out to have time with friends first, and maybe, just maybe talk to a guy if he shows a genuine interest in her.

We often look to our best girlfriends to give us a thumb up or down on if a guy seems like a good guy or not. Having a friend along with you decreases anxiety on both sides, because there’s more to talk about, and we don’t feel like you’re trapping or bearing down on us.

Remember, a lot of times we’re just getting together to wind down and spend time with our friends. Night life is often loud, and isn’t the best place to have conversations. Sometimes we just want to cut loose and dance, that’s all. Canvassing other people in committed relationships, I’ve found most of them met outside of the night life.

Which gets me to the next point…

Last but not least, step no. 5: Focus on being friends.

If you are focusing on just having a good time in the moment, then this is one way we begin to open up, and have time to decide whether or not we feel like there is chemistry between us. Asking for a friendly game of darts or pool on teams is fun, we all get to relax, and in the meantime get to know one another a little bit.

These tips come from life and professional experience. What it boils down to is whether or not you believe you can find someone compatible with you, and whether or not you have the skill set of active listening. Getting outside of your head, any insecurities, and removing listening blocks is half the battle.

If you’re really interested in finding datable women, your best bet is not a club or bar, but taking up co-ed hobbies and interests where you see the same women over and over again. This gives you time to get to know each other, develop a relationship, and to see if that friendship can turn into something much more intimate.

Ladies if you’re reading this and agree, then please share on your social networks and help the opposite sex. Like this, you may help inform your male friends on what works, and what doesn’t. And in the end, you will benefit from the result as well!


How to Attract Any Girl

Do you like a girl and you don't know how to attract her? What are the best words and tactics to choose to get a girl become interested in you and curious about your person? You don't have to search too much and read all the guides for this. Follow the tips below that will help you to go on the right path.

Project confidence
Being confident is the one irresistible trait you must have if you want to attract women.  And women can tell right away whether or not you’re confident just by looking at your body language.  For example, if you’re fidgeting or making yourself “small” in your environment, women will see you as lacking confidence.

So the first step in how to attract any girl is to adopt confident body language.  What you need to know is how to keep your body movements calm and controlled.  Make yourself big.  Don’t be afraid to take up room and claim the space immediately around you.  If that’s difficult due to feeling nervous or uncomfortable, take slow, deep breaths while focusing on the sensations in your body (can you feel your feet?).  This will help you relax and allow that confident body language to come out naturally.

Get her laughing
Every girl likes a guy who can make her laugh.  And there’s no better time to prove you have that ability than at the beginning of the conversation.  Get a girl to smile early on and it’ll help her relax and feel comfortable talking to you.  All while sparking that interest and attraction.

One technique you can use to start a conversation and get a girl laughing is playful teasing.  This is particularly effective because most guys are too insecure to playfully tease a girl right off the bat.  By starting your conversations this way you show you’re not intimidated by attractive women.  You can get her laughing and show tremendous confidence at the same time.

Here are just two examples of how to start a conversation with playful teasing: (1) “You know you’d look cute in a purple Mohawk” (2) “Excuse me, I’m trying to have a guy’s night out and you totally ruined it.  You’re too damn cute”.  Lines like these can get a conversation started on a fun, playful note.

Make her win you over
Projecting confidence and making a girl laugh are common tips for how to attract any girl.  But there’s another tip that’s equally important that doesn’t get nearly as much discussion.  It’s called qualification.

Qualification is all about getting the woman to prove that she’s a cool, interesting girl. It shows you’re a guy with standards who doesn’t invest his time and attention in just any attractive girl.  When you actively filter women like this they see you as a high-value guy.  They will then put more effort into keeping your interest and attention.

After bantering with a girl you can start qualifying by asking questions like “So what’s your deal?” or “What are three things I wouldn’t know about you by looking?”  These questions are great because they’re open-ended and allow the girl to share as much information as she feels comfortable.  They also give you a great chance to get to know her.  You can then find out if she truly is a cool, interesting girl.

Create an emotional connection
In order to know how to attract any girl it’s important to know how to connect with any girl.  That is, how to build an emotional connection so that she feels close to you, and you feel close to her.

One way to build that emotional connection with a girl is to use the “I” perspective when speaking.  Express your thoughts, opinions – and most importantly your emotions – directly.  For example, saying “I love Game of Thrones” gives her a glimpse into your emotional world.  But if you said “Game of Thrones is a great show” then that emotional component is taken out of the picture completely.   Talking about your personal experiences, rather than objective facts, is going to get her feeling more deeply connected to you.

Build sexual tension
No article on how to attract any girl would be complete without a tip on how to build sexual tension.  After all this is what keeps guys out of the friend-zone.

One of the most effective ways to build sexual tension with women is through touch.  Start touching the girl early on in your conversation by lightly tapping the back of your hand against her elbow.  If she’s okay with that contact, you can gradually move on to touch her for longer periods of time in more intimate areas (shoulder, back, thigh, face).

The key to knowing when you should touch more – or less – is to check for compliance.  If she allows you to touch her, or starts touching you in response, then you can take things a step further with your touch.  If however she recoils or moves away when you touch her, then give her space.  Build more comfort through banter and creating an emotional connection.  When she’s a bit more comfortable, try to build that sexual tension once again.

Be unattached to the outcome
One thing that is will help you tremendously when learning how to attract any woman is being unattached to the outcome.  That is, don’t get hung up on whether or not you get a phone number, a date, or even get the girl to like you.  Just enjoy the process of meeting women and focus on having fun.  If you’re not looking to get anything from your interactions with women then you’ll have no trouble being confident, fun, open, and sexual with women.

The best way to make this your natural way of being is to get lots of experience talking and flirting with women.  Make a point to talk to at least three women a day and practice the techniques mentioned in this article and elsewhere on the site.  The more experience you get the less you’ll care about each individual interaction.


6 Best Topics To Talk About With A Girl

There's an old saying that men come from Mars and women from Venus, meaning more or less that they usually speak totally different languages. But is it really true? How can men overcome the awkward moments when they don't find their words and they seem completely lost in front of a woman? Well, you just came to the right place reading the article below.

Usually, most men feel anxious before approaching a woman, because they are afraid of an awkward silence, even more than of a potential rejection. When you’re trying to attract a woman you are interested in, any conversations that you have with her are like little games of poker. Your goal is to get her to invest an equal or greater amount of effort into the conversation, because the more invested she is in your conversation the more invested she is going to be in your interaction.

All great seducers understand this. They know that sharing a great conversation with a woman isn’t just about what they say to her. They understand that it’s as much about what they can get a woman saying back to them.

It’s this conversational effort that a woman commits that will help you find commonalities between the two of you to create rapport, and help you discover unique things about her that you can show genuine attraction towards; both crucial ingredients if you are to escalate the interaction towards a romantic or sexual outcome.

So in this article you will find six conversational topics that seem to have effect on women when it comes to interacting and attracting them.

1. Books, Movies, Music and Art

Let’s be honest! You’re not going to have a woman bearing her soul to you and sharing her hopes, dreams and deepest fears with you from the get go. You’ll need to build a whole lot of comfort and rapport before you get there. This is why you need a few conversational topics that are low effort and still engaging to get things started. Getting a woman talking about her favorite books, movies, music or art is a great way to do so.

The trick here, however, is to not ask for too little. For example, if a woman tells you that she loves music, don’t just ask her what her favorite band is. Ask her for two songs from her favorite band that she thinks you should listen to and ask her what those two songs mean to her. Or if a woman tells you that she loves to read, instead of just asking her who her favorite author is ask her to recommend a book to you and get her to tell you what it’s about.

Not only will this allow you to coax her into putting more conversational effort into your interaction, but it’ll also help you find out things that you both are into.

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2. Relationships

I swear to God, relationship related topics are like conversational crack for most women. And if there’s one thing that women love more than hearing relationship stories, it’s coming up with solutions to relationship problems.

So the next time you hear about your little cousin’s problems with her boyfriend, or hear about your roommate complain about his overly possessive girlfriend, make a mental note of the story and use it in conversation. You’ll be surprised with just how into these topics women can get.

3. The People Around You

Sometimes I hear a lot of guys complain saying that they run out of topics to talk about when they’re with a girl that they’re interested in. But don't get discouraged. Here’s the thing: if you pay close attention to your surroundings the chances are that you’ll find more than enough conversational ammunition to last a whole day.

For example, there’s a fun little game that I love playing with girls that I’m out on dates on. I call it the “what’s their story” game. When you’re out on a date with a girl, pick a stranger at random and talk about what you imagine what their story must be like. And then ask your date to tell you her version. Once she gets the hang of it start getting more and more imaginative and ridiculous with your stories. I guarantee that you’ll both have a blast.

4. Travel

Whenever I’m interacting with a woman I always try to direct the conversation in a direction that’s fun and imaginative. I hate conversations that drab and uninteresting. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned through my experiences with women is that talking about travel always gets them feeling happy and excited.

You see, all people love to travel, even though some love to travel daydream as they lack either the time or the money to do it. The key here, again, is to ask for more than just an impersonal list of travel destinations.

Ask her where the most exciting place she’s travelled to was and what she loved about it. Or ask her where she would go if she could disappear for an entire month without having to worry about her work or any other responsibilities. These types of conversations will get her imagination firing on overdrive and put her in an uplifted emotional state; both feelings which she will start associating with you.

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5. Observations About Her

There’s a school of thought among some men who teach attraction skills that a guy should never compliment or show interest in a woman. I disagree. I believe that to truly attract and seduce a woman you need to make her feel as if she’s won you over. To do this you need to find out things about her that are unique and appreciate them. Listen to this advice my friend: being curious about women can significantly improve your dating life!

You see, a woman’s observational skills are often much more keenly tuned than a man, and being with a man who notices things that other men usually don’t will have a powerful effect on her.

Does she have a fashion sense that you hardly ever get to see on other women? Does she circle words that she thinks sound cute when she’s reading? Let her know that you notice these things and ask her about them. And when she tells you these stories let her know that you find these things attractive about her.

6. Her Passions, Her Dreams and Her Goals

Do you remember the last time someone showed genuine interest in your dreams and goals? It’s always such a nice feeling to talk about things that you are passionate about with a person who’s genuinely interested in these things. And here’s the cool thing. Once you’ve built up a certain level of trust and rapport with a woman, all you need to do to find out these things about her is to ask.

You see, sometimes being a great conversationalist is like learning to become a mirror. The point isn’t to grope about blindly in search of things that your conversational partner to talk about.

The point is to learn to develop a feel for what topics get them excited and to learn to steer the conversation towards those topics.Women will feel refreshed by the genuine interest that you show in their lives and they will remember how you made them feel when talking about these things that they’re passionate about.

All in all, keep these conversational topics in mind and make a conscious effort to practice your conversational skills, and I guarantee that you’ll see a marked difference in the quality of the conversations you share with women.


THE NEW RULES OF DATING

If you just started the dating game, first of all you need to know that things have changed quite drastically. However, if you are up to date with the new rules and you know how to play according to them, the results will be always in your benefit.

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We are facing a period with extremely fast changes. Everything is affected by these, even dating and getting a girl to feel attracted by you. How to adapt more rapidly to these changes? Below you will find the answer.

In the past, when women were not independent as nowadays, the rules were extremely clear. Even the roles of men and women were very clearing defined while dating. Things were pretty simple, the man was courting the woman and both of them knew that if everything went smoothly the next was marriage.

But now, when the society has evolved, dating has become more complicated. What is to be done in this case? 

“Hanging out” and “hooking up” have replaced traditional courtship. Sex is no longer sacred and potential partners are far quicker to jump in the sack.

Some would consider this new direction advantageous for both sides. Yet despite this, many men and women seek dating advice that helps them find the meaningful connection they still yearn for (and haven't found despite these “advancements” in modern dating).

Having that  meaningful connection, one that's more than skin-deep, takes effort but is immensely rewarding. The real difference with men and women is that each goes about looking for this connection in different ways.

In a moment, we'll look at what you can do to date successfully. But first, let's look at some seriously outdated dating approaches that just DON'T work for you anymore, men. If you're doing one or more of these things, you're unknowingly repelling women of worth.

  • Focusing mainly on your job and not making dating a priority.
  • Misrepresenting yourself in your online profile. (Examples include not being truthful about your height, appearance, age, interests, etc.)
  • Being closed off to women who aren't in your desired age range.
  • Getting overly caught up in a woman's appearance and measurements.
  • Sending boring messages, one-size-fits-all messages or cheesy pick up lines to women online.
  • Texting and emailing for weeks, instead of talking on the phone and asking her out.
  • Saying what you think she wants to hear and not meaning what you say.
  • Taking advantage of a woman's money, generosity, sex, fragile state, etc.
  • Dragging things out with the wrong woman because there's no one else you're interested in.
  • Leading a woman on by making her think you're dating exclusively when you’re also seeing other women.
  • Trying too hard and giving off the energy of desperation.
  • Focusing on sex too much. (Examples include making sexual innuendos, saying what you think she wants to hear so that she'll have sex with you, and rushing/pressuring a woman to have sex.)
  • Dating women who deplete your energy. (Examples include women who take advantage of you, are drama queens, selfish, too critical or hypersensitive.)

Guys, now let's leave aside the history and are some tips for how to date women and enjoy more dates that lead to meaningful connection.

1. Be your true self
Present yourself as the same person online and offline. Women are pleasantly surprised to meet a man who portrays himself accurately. Trust is necessary and starts with being honest about the superficial things (i.e. height, appearance, age, interests, etc.).

Communicate openly about who you are, your beliefs, your views on life and love, etc., so that your dates gets to know who you truly are. Let her make an honest choice if the real you is right for her.

2. Be a gentleman
No matter the times you are facing, you have to be a gentleman. Treat a woman the way you'd like a man to treat your sister, daughter or someone you care about; this means dating responsibly. Take care of your appearance and hygiene. Be a man of your word. Be well-mannered, courteous and respectful in your words, behaviors and actions.

Take the time to learn who she is and what she's about, and share who you are with her. Let things unfold as they're meant to instead of trying to rush having sex with her. When you are a gentleman, having sex will not be difficult to happen.

3. Have integrity 
Be honest. If at the end of a date, you don't wish to see her again, don’t say, “I'll call you and let's do this again.” Empty words and empty promises create false hope and end up being more hurtful. In this situation, kind honesty is best.

Say something like, “Thank you for meeting me. I really enjoyed talking with you, though I didn't feel a romantic connection. I wish you well in life and love.”

4. Ask her out first
Though women lead every day in their professional lives, many of us prefer men to still make the first move romantically. If you're interested in her, ask her out.

Contact her based on what you read in her dating profile (i.e. referencing common interests, asking her a question about something that sparked your attention) before the window of opportunity passes.

The caveat is: Don't make mention of her appearance in a creepy way (i.e. “Hey sexy, love your body.”). A woman of worth doesn't respond positively to this kind of messages.

5. Be open to who she is
Be open to more than a woman's physical appearance, measurements and age.

Wonderful women come in all packages. Instead of making physical appearance your main criteria, focus 80 percent of your opinion on a woman's inner appearance and 20 percent on her outward appearance.

This also means dating women who are closer to you in age. You'll increase your odds of meeting and dating more women.

6. Be thoughtful
Show consideration and caring to a woman's feelings. A woman of worth must feel connected to a man to keep a positive momentum going. When a woman doesn't hear from you between dates, a space of negative energy builds up.

A woman likes to know you're thinking of her in between the times you see each other. So let her know this with a text, a quick phone call, etc. It's the little things that matter and add up to make a big difference.

7. Be patient
When it comes to dating, patience is a virtue. Don't sacrifice short-term urges for your long-term happiness. When you rush things, you sabotage your chances for dating to turn into a meaningful connection with a wonderful woman.

Instead of approaching dating as the destination, approach dating as the journey to finding a meaningful connection.

8. Balance your life
What you place your attention on becomes prominent in your life. Assess the amount of time and energy you spend working, with the amount of time you are with you your friends, dating, etc.

If you tend to work a lot or spend most of your free time with friends, your dating life won't fall into place by itself.

Dating takes time, effort and energy. Balance your life so that you're able to work well, date well and spend time with friends. When your life is in balance, life flows better.

9. Get out of your own way
When it comes to dating, the most important thing you can do is take responsibility for your side of the dating equation. This means understanding how you're getting in your own way and what's stopping you from having a great dating life.

To put it in a nutshell, identify the common tendencies that show up in your dating life. Then work on changing yourself so these tendencies don't show up.


HOW TO GET (AND KEEP) HER ATTENTION

She is amazingly beautiful and you want to do the impossible to get her attention. You have read over and over again on the internet about tips to make a girl be interested in you and keep the flame burning. But sometimes too much information is not helping, right? Therefore, in order to make the mission possible, we have summarized some of the most important steps which you could easily follow and you will definitely get the girl you want.

STEP 1: MASTER THE APPROACH

Stop looking for that ultimate line. Just catch her attention, says Nick Savoy, a dating expert and author of Magic Bullets. “You just want her interested in the next thing you're going to say to her.” Tell her about your trip to Prague or an interesting book you've recently read. Find a way to show her that you're a multi-dimensional guy, without sounding pretentious or self-involved.

STEP 2: AVOID THE LULL

This is where most guys hit a wall. “Never leave a conversation because you've run out of things to talk about,” Savoy says. At the very least, use something like, “that's just like when . . .” to keep things moving. If you're feeling confident, try the “cold read”—tell her something about herself based on her appearance or mannerisms. Point out her striking cheekbones or her cute laugh. You will see afterwards that her reaction will open up a new avenue in the conversation.

STEP 3: THE REEL-IN

“Confidence and humor are your biggest assets,” Savoy says. Make her laugh and take control of the conversation. Just don't overdo it—too often, guys fall into the habit of trying to be comedians or hogging the conversation. Be interesting and fun but make sure she's part of the discussion as well. “You don't want to yank on the line as soon as there's a nibble,” he explains. “Women value what they have to work for.”

STEP 4: TAKE IT OUTSIDE

Now think from the logistics point of view. Ditch loud, crowded surroundings for something more intimate. “That's where you'll discover your shared interests,” Savoy says. “It's where you build a connection.” You will never really get to know someone deeply when you have loud bass pumping in your ears. Ask her if she wants to go somewhere for coffee so you can talk. Then find a nice, quaint cafe—she'll will fall in love seeing this side of you.

STEP 5: KEEP THE NIGHT ALIVE

Obviously, you'll want to avoid sudden separations, like an hour-long drive to your place in two cars. Give her a reason to come over—watching an old movie, for instance. But be careful and don't try to trick her: At this point, you should both know what you want. And always make sure that she feels comfortable. Your expectations should be to simply hang out with her and get to know her better—that's when other things are most likely to happen.

 


The Gentleman’s Guide to Seduction

Probably you don't know this yet, but from the first steps you make in approaching a woman, talking with her, you are making the first steps in seducing her. Yes, you heard it right, seduction is not synonym to bedroom. Actually it happens all the time, everywhere you are around the woman you feel attracted to.

And guess what?! Women are getting your messages exactly how you send them, verbal or non-verbal. Even though sometimes you try to hide it, you are in fact sending these messages to them exactly through the words you use and body-language, and subliminally through your conversation.

This thing is called verbal foreplay, meaning the art of lubricating her mind in a way that evokes sexual desire. And here’s a road map for talking your way right to her heart.

“You want to show her you’re the kind of guy who embraces his sexual desires and is comfortable with his sexuality, as this will open her up to that part of herself as well.”

1. Be confident and self-assured
Theory: If you’re slouching, not looking her in the eye, and your voice is quivering, she is going to know you’re nervous and she is going to be turned off. You have to be be confident, at ease in your own skin, like walking up to a woman and starting a conversation with her is no big deal (which it shouldn’t be).

Practice: When you see a girl you want to talk to, establish eye contact and then immediately walk over and engage her. Even if she’s with a group, don’t wait until she’s off on her own because that moment might never arrive. Be confident, stand up straight, make eye contact and speak in a clear, using a strong tone.

2. Start asking open-ended questions
Theory: So many guys get nervous and begin peppering the girl they’re speaking to with compliments and drudgy questions, which spikes the logical side of her brain; she quickly loses interest and counts down the seconds until you leave her alone. Instead, ask questions that excite her and bring her back to past places of pleasure. It's not even necessary to ask anything sexual at all. Questions that simply appeal to her emotions and stimulate her imagination will make her excited to engage with you.

Practice: If you ask her, “So what do you do for a living” you’re going to hit a roadblock right away. Why? Because it’s a very logical question that will spike a very standard response—she’s at a party to have fun, not talk about her job. But go with something like, “So tell me about the last awesome vacation you went on,” she is going to re-visit the memories of that past vacation in her mind. The images emotions she felt at that moment are going to be positive and invigorating.

3. Tell a story
Theory: Every guy has things he wishes he could tell a girl about himself immediately—that he’s really successful and has a high-paying job, the car he drives, the Ivy League college he graduated from, or the fact that he’s traveled to every continent. While some guys will fire off their “highlight reel” right out of the gate, a quality guy knows how to subtly portray who he is without throwing it in her face. To wit: telling a story that demonstrates your value and places you in a position that actively portrays you as the bolded version of yourself. The way you tell it is also key. Relate the details like you’re confessing your wildest sexual fantasy. Change the inflection in your voice to captivate her and draw her in. Step into her when you whisper something, or make eye contact at critical points, which can create a hyper-sensual feeling.

Practice: Say you just recently went travelling in Central America with a friend and took up surfing for the first time. You could use the first big wave you caught as an opportunity to tell a story from your trip. Draw her in by talking about the exact emotions you were feeling, the intensity and adrenaline that was streaming through your veins, and finally, that rush of euphoria when you got on top of the wave. This is the recipe for how you appeal to her emotions, create excitement and develop intimacy.

seduction-redheadWhen you’ve reached this point, you can probably stop referring to the guide.

4. Tease like a kid
Theory: When we were in grade school we would always make fun of the girl we liked. While our methods have advanced slightly, that approach is strangely legit. I call this the “playground method,” and it’s quite effective for creating sexual attraction. Done right, it conveys a few things: her beauty doesn’t intimidate you, you won’t bend over backwards to please her, and you’re sharp, witty and have a good sense of humor. By finding little quirks to tease her about, you’re putting yourself on an even playing field, as well as subliminally offering her an invitation to engage with you in a verbal dance that creates excitement, play and sexual tension.

Practice: If you picked up that she has a humorous way of moving or walking, you could mimic her walk. Or, if you get the feeling through your conversation that she’s the “keener” type you could go with something like:

You: “I bet you were a front-of-the-classroom kind of girl.”

Her: (Laughs) What do you mean?

You: Yeah…you were probably up at the front with your hair in pigtails, perfect posture, with your hands folded on top of each other.”

Her: You think so, do you?

You: Yup, apple in your pocket, the whole deal. If I ever gave a teacher an apple, I would make sure to take a giant bite out of it first.

Her: I’m actually a lot of fun. I bet I would surprise you.

You: I don’t believe you, but I do like surprises. 

5. Weave in sexual innuendo
Theory: This step isn’t always necessary, because if you did the previous steps astutely enough, the conversation will have built to a place of intimacy already. However, it’s final spike that cements you as a viable sexual counterpart. You want to show her that you’re the kind of guy who embraces his sexual desires and is comfortable with his sexuality, as this will potentially open her up to that part of herself as well. You can do this by actually talking about sex and sharing stories if the conversation goes there, but you can also do this by making subtle, suggestive references. The idea here is that she will know exactly what you’re implying—she will be able to read into the subtext of your jokes—but it’s then up to her whether she accepts or rejects your advances.

Practice: Here’s an opportunity to build on the earlier conversation…

You: OK, maybe you weren’t the teacher’s pet. Maybe you were the bad girl. Sitting in the back of class, passing notes, sneaking out to smoke cigarettes.

Her: (Laughs) Well, I wouldn’t say that!

You: If I were your teacher, I might have to put you in detention…

Her: Oh really?

Seduction is not really about manipulation or deception but rather about packaging your strengths and showcasing them in the best way possible. You want to bring forward your best self in a way that makes you shine and makes your interaction with her exciting and memorable. You want to stick out in her mind because she remembers how she felt when she was around you. It’s all about eliciting a positive emotional response and creating a fun, exciting atmosphere that she wants to be a part of and play around in. So don’t hesitate. So go ahead guys, try this today and thank us tomorrow.


How to Talk to Really Hot Girls

While I like to sculpt my game so it works on all women, when it comes to the upper tier of girls-I’m talking 9’s and 10’s- there are a few things I feel are inherently different when compared to speaking to your average girl. I’m going to focus on the most important one…

When you’re speaking with a really sexy girl you’re dealing with a girl gets hit on all the time. I’m talking like a few times a day at the very minimum. Men are savages when they see something they like we won’t wait around. While some women are going out trying to meet the man of the dreams, these girls might not have that on their mind because they can just sit back and let men come to them. Why work if you don’t have to?

So what do you do?

Consider it a challenge, a prime-time moment, and bring you A game out.

In these scenarios, we have to treat the situation like the ball is in our court at all times. No sitting around and waiting for something to come to you, go get it boy. Initiate the conversation, move forward as quickly as you can and make the most of your first night together because if you don’t give her a reason to hang out with your again- she won’t.

And while this is happening, you have to stick to every thing that you know about women and not let her get the upper hand on. It’s so tempting to immediately buy her a drink and tell her how’d you love to eat her ass with a spoon, but you can’t. Even if you have to actually sit there and think about what you’re doing, it’ll be worth it. And remember, it’s better to not say anything at all rather than saying something stupid. Minimize your mistakes, embrace the situation, and use it as a learning experience. Have fun knowing you’re talking to the sexiest chick at the bar, even if it ends there, and hey, if you fuck up, there’s always the swamper in the corner that will fuck you like you’re Johnny Depp.

I’ve made the mistake of settling for a smoke-shows number and being thrilled with that, figuring we would chill as early the next day. And then I say to myself, “Come’on dude, she already has something to do the next day. You know how much free shit hot girls get. You know better than that” The majority of guys are fucking ass kickers and every hot girl has an ex-boyfriend that will meet up with them on demand, and wipe their vag’s after they piss if they want them to.

With attractive women, a number means shit. They probably won’t even remember your name. That’s why you need to take it as far as you can the first night. If the girl says she’s going to leave and go to another bar, tell her you’re going with her. It might not even be in your plans to stay out that late, but you have to make sacrifices. Do everything you possibly can to hook up with her that night, and maybe even sleep with her. This way she will feel as if she has something invested in you, and you’ll be giving yourself a much better chance of seeing them again


How to Hook Up With Hot Waitress

Why is it that every time I finally find a restaurant or bar that I enjoy going to, some sexy waitress comes along and I feel completely obligated to get in her pants just because I’ve been staring at them for two hours straight. One second I’m order a cheeseburger, and the next thing I know I’m smoking weed with this naked Applebee's waitress in my bed figuring out what kind of discounts I’m going to get. I know, I know, you’re not supposed to shit where you eat, but then again sometimes I eat where you shit and I’m not supposed to do that either (think about it for a second).

Getting a waitresses’ number can be quite an easy task because the girl is literally forced into talking to you. There’s no need to worry about coming up with some elaborate opener or pushing the issue when you’re afraid she’s about to walk away. Take your time, you have until the meal is done, and if you can’t get digits by the time you’re done with your main course, there’s always dessert. And when you get really good, you’ll be tasting her for desert. Yeah buddy.

I suggest starting off slow because waitresses have a tendency to get hit on my every horn-ball that sits at their table, so simply ask her how her day is going and say thank you when she gives you her menu. If you plan on ordering some type of alcoholic beverage, ask her what her favorite drink is, perhaps saying something like, “What’s your favorite drink here? And please don’t say something really girly!” You can use the same flirty comment when your order food as well, “What should I get to eat? And please don’t say a salad!” Choose one of the other, there’s no need for both. Don’t get crazy playa.

I like to keep if very polite even when I’m making a joke because the majority of people in this world are straight assholes. They think waiters and waitresses are there to serve them and aren’t people like everyone else, so being polite will immediately be noticed.

Now after your first flirty joke wait until she comes back and try and continue with some standard conversation, asking questions like “So how long have you been working here?”,“Have you been busy today?”, “Are these mozzarella sticks always this good or am I just really high right now?”

When it gets close to the end of your meal is a good time to take that flirting to the next level. What I’ll do is ask them what they are doing after they get out of work very casually, “So do you have any plans after work or are you just going to go home and pass out?” She’ll have some answer and to be polite she respond and say, “What are you doing tonight?” and that’s when you respond in a sarcastic tone and say, “Katie we just met and you already want to hangout with me. I’m not used to moving this fast.” Make sure to call her by her name. By addressing her by her name you’re showing the confidence that you can talk to someone you just met and make it feel natural.

A comment like this takes it from a ‘this guy is just being polite’ to ‘maybe this guy likes me,’ and based on her answer you can get a feel how she feels about you. Worst case scenario she says, “You just asked me!” in a snotty tone and you can say, “I was just kidding,” which is always my bailout.

Since I don’t like imposing on girls when they are work and blatantly asking them for their number, I’ll wait until she’s alone either waiting by the bar for a drink order, or on her way to another table. I’ll time in perfectly like I’m in a mission impossible movie and I’ll get up, walk towards her casually and say “Hey you,” to make sure I have her attention and then I’ll whisper, “I won’t be mad if you leave your number on the check.” I’ll make eye contact and smirk while I keep walking and head to the bathroom or outside to smoke a cigarette.

That how you hook up with the hot waitress boys.

If she wants you to have her number she’ll write it down, and if she doesn’t she’ll pretend like it never happened. It’s the perfect scheme. The only bad thing that can happen is when shit ends poorly because 1). You didn’t answer her texts 2). You only call her after 12pm and 3). You don’t ever bring her around your friends. Then you're stuck watching the football games at your house because you want to avoid seeing her at Miller Ale House, Applebee's, TGIF’s, and McCann’s. Damn, I’m running out of fucking places, but I guess that’s a good problem to have.