Category Archives: Talk To Women

HOW TO GET (AND KEEP) HER ATTENTION

She is amazingly beautiful and you want to do the impossible to get her attention. You have read over and over again on the internet about tips to make a girl be interested in you and keep the flame burning. But sometimes too much information is not helping, right? Therefore, in order to make the mission possible, we have summarized some of the most important steps which you could easily follow and you will definitely get the girl you want.

STEP 1: MASTER THE APPROACH

Stop looking for that ultimate line. Just catch her attention, says Nick Savoy, a dating expert and author of Magic Bullets. “You just want her interested in the next thing you're going to say to her.” Tell her about your trip to Prague or an interesting book you've recently read. Find a way to show her that you're a multi-dimensional guy, without sounding pretentious or self-involved.

STEP 2: AVOID THE LULL

This is where most guys hit a wall. “Never leave a conversation because you've run out of things to talk about,” Savoy says. At the very least, use something like, “that's just like when . . .” to keep things moving. If you're feeling confident, try the “cold read”—tell her something about herself based on her appearance or mannerisms. Point out her striking cheekbones or her cute laugh. You will see afterwards that her reaction will open up a new avenue in the conversation.

STEP 3: THE REEL-IN

“Confidence and humor are your biggest assets,” Savoy says. Make her laugh and take control of the conversation. Just don't overdo it—too often, guys fall into the habit of trying to be comedians or hogging the conversation. Be interesting and fun but make sure she's part of the discussion as well. “You don't want to yank on the line as soon as there's a nibble,” he explains. “Women value what they have to work for.”

STEP 4: TAKE IT OUTSIDE

Now think from the logistics point of view. Ditch loud, crowded surroundings for something more intimate. “That's where you'll discover your shared interests,” Savoy says. “It's where you build a connection.” You will never really get to know someone deeply when you have loud bass pumping in your ears. Ask her if she wants to go somewhere for coffee so you can talk. Then find a nice, quaint cafe—she'll will fall in love seeing this side of you.

STEP 5: KEEP THE NIGHT ALIVE

Obviously, you'll want to avoid sudden separations, like an hour-long drive to your place in two cars. Give her a reason to come over—watching an old movie, for instance. But be careful and don't try to trick her: At this point, you should both know what you want. And always make sure that she feels comfortable. Your expectations should be to simply hang out with her and get to know her better—that's when other things are most likely to happen.

 


The Gentleman’s Guide to Seduction

Probably you don't know this yet, but from the first steps you make in approaching a woman, talking with her, you are making the first steps in seducing her. Yes, you heard it right, seduction is not synonym to bedroom. Actually it happens all the time, everywhere you are around the woman you feel attracted to.

And guess what?! Women are getting your messages exactly how you send them, verbal or non-verbal. Even though sometimes you try to hide it, you are in fact sending these messages to them exactly through the words you use and body-language, and subliminally through your conversation.

This thing is called verbal foreplay, meaning the art of lubricating her mind in a way that evokes sexual desire. And here’s a road map for talking your way right to her heart.

“You want to show her you’re the kind of guy who embraces his sexual desires and is comfortable with his sexuality, as this will open her up to that part of herself as well.”

1. Be confident and self-assured
Theory: If you’re slouching, not looking her in the eye, and your voice is quivering, she is going to know you’re nervous and she is going to be turned off. You have to be be confident, at ease in your own skin, like walking up to a woman and starting a conversation with her is no big deal (which it shouldn’t be).

Practice: When you see a girl you want to talk to, establish eye contact and then immediately walk over and engage her. Even if she’s with a group, don’t wait until she’s off on her own because that moment might never arrive. Be confident, stand up straight, make eye contact and speak in a clear, using a strong tone.

2. Start asking open-ended questions
Theory: So many guys get nervous and begin peppering the girl they’re speaking to with compliments and drudgy questions, which spikes the logical side of her brain; she quickly loses interest and counts down the seconds until you leave her alone. Instead, ask questions that excite her and bring her back to past places of pleasure. It's not even necessary to ask anything sexual at all. Questions that simply appeal to her emotions and stimulate her imagination will make her excited to engage with you.

Practice: If you ask her, “So what do you do for a living” you’re going to hit a roadblock right away. Why? Because it’s a very logical question that will spike a very standard response—she’s at a party to have fun, not talk about her job. But go with something like, “So tell me about the last awesome vacation you went on,” she is going to re-visit the memories of that past vacation in her mind. The images emotions she felt at that moment are going to be positive and invigorating.

3. Tell a story
Theory: Every guy has things he wishes he could tell a girl about himself immediately—that he’s really successful and has a high-paying job, the car he drives, the Ivy League college he graduated from, or the fact that he’s traveled to every continent. While some guys will fire off their “highlight reel” right out of the gate, a quality guy knows how to subtly portray who he is without throwing it in her face. To wit: telling a story that demonstrates your value and places you in a position that actively portrays you as the bolded version of yourself. The way you tell it is also key. Relate the details like you’re confessing your wildest sexual fantasy. Change the inflection in your voice to captivate her and draw her in. Step into her when you whisper something, or make eye contact at critical points, which can create a hyper-sensual feeling.

Practice: Say you just recently went travelling in Central America with a friend and took up surfing for the first time. You could use the first big wave you caught as an opportunity to tell a story from your trip. Draw her in by talking about the exact emotions you were feeling, the intensity and adrenaline that was streaming through your veins, and finally, that rush of euphoria when you got on top of the wave. This is the recipe for how you appeal to her emotions, create excitement and develop intimacy.

seduction-redheadWhen you’ve reached this point, you can probably stop referring to the guide.

4. Tease like a kid
Theory: When we were in grade school we would always make fun of the girl we liked. While our methods have advanced slightly, that approach is strangely legit. I call this the “playground method,” and it’s quite effective for creating sexual attraction. Done right, it conveys a few things: her beauty doesn’t intimidate you, you won’t bend over backwards to please her, and you’re sharp, witty and have a good sense of humor. By finding little quirks to tease her about, you’re putting yourself on an even playing field, as well as subliminally offering her an invitation to engage with you in a verbal dance that creates excitement, play and sexual tension.

Practice: If you picked up that she has a humorous way of moving or walking, you could mimic her walk. Or, if you get the feeling through your conversation that she’s the “keener” type you could go with something like:

You: “I bet you were a front-of-the-classroom kind of girl.”

Her: (Laughs) What do you mean?

You: Yeah…you were probably up at the front with your hair in pigtails, perfect posture, with your hands folded on top of each other.”

Her: You think so, do you?

You: Yup, apple in your pocket, the whole deal. If I ever gave a teacher an apple, I would make sure to take a giant bite out of it first.

Her: I’m actually a lot of fun. I bet I would surprise you.

You: I don’t believe you, but I do like surprises. 

5. Weave in sexual innuendo
Theory: This step isn’t always necessary, because if you did the previous steps astutely enough, the conversation will have built to a place of intimacy already. However, it’s final spike that cements you as a viable sexual counterpart. You want to show her that you’re the kind of guy who embraces his sexual desires and is comfortable with his sexuality, as this will potentially open her up to that part of herself as well. You can do this by actually talking about sex and sharing stories if the conversation goes there, but you can also do this by making subtle, suggestive references. The idea here is that she will know exactly what you’re implying—she will be able to read into the subtext of your jokes—but it’s then up to her whether she accepts or rejects your advances.

Practice: Here’s an opportunity to build on the earlier conversation…

You: OK, maybe you weren’t the teacher’s pet. Maybe you were the bad girl. Sitting in the back of class, passing notes, sneaking out to smoke cigarettes.

Her: (Laughs) Well, I wouldn’t say that!

You: If I were your teacher, I might have to put you in detention…

Her: Oh really?

Seduction is not really about manipulation or deception but rather about packaging your strengths and showcasing them in the best way possible. You want to bring forward your best self in a way that makes you shine and makes your interaction with her exciting and memorable. You want to stick out in her mind because she remembers how she felt when she was around you. It’s all about eliciting a positive emotional response and creating a fun, exciting atmosphere that she wants to be a part of and play around in. So don’t hesitate. So go ahead guys, try this today and thank us tomorrow.


How to Talk to Really Hot Girls

While I like to sculpt my game so it works on all women, when it comes to the upper tier of girls-I’m talking 9’s and 10’s- there are a few things I feel are inherently different when compared to speaking to your average girl. I’m going to focus on the most important one…

When you’re speaking with a really sexy girl you’re dealing with a girl gets hit on all the time. I’m talking like a few times a day at the very minimum. Men are savages when they see something they like we won’t wait around. While some women are going out trying to meet the man of the dreams, these girls might not have that on their mind because they can just sit back and let men come to them. Why work if you don’t have to?

So what do you do?

Consider it a challenge, a prime-time moment, and bring you A game out.

In these scenarios, we have to treat the situation like the ball is in our court at all times. No sitting around and waiting for something to come to you, go get it boy. Initiate the conversation, move forward as quickly as you can and make the most of your first night together because if you don’t give her a reason to hang out with your again- she won’t.

And while this is happening, you have to stick to every thing that you know about women and not let her get the upper hand on. It’s so tempting to immediately buy her a drink and tell her how’d you love to eat her ass with a spoon, but you can’t. Even if you have to actually sit there and think about what you’re doing, it’ll be worth it. And remember, it’s better to not say anything at all rather than saying something stupid. Minimize your mistakes, embrace the situation, and use it as a learning experience. Have fun knowing you’re talking to the sexiest chick at the bar, even if it ends there, and hey, if you fuck up, there’s always the swamper in the corner that will fuck you like you’re Johnny Depp.

I’ve made the mistake of settling for a smoke-shows number and being thrilled with that, figuring we would chill as early the next day. And then I say to myself, “Come’on dude, she already has something to do the next day. You know how much free shit hot girls get. You know better than that” The majority of guys are fucking ass kickers and every hot girl has an ex-boyfriend that will meet up with them on demand, and wipe their vag’s after they piss if they want them to.

With attractive women, a number means shit. They probably won’t even remember your name. That’s why you need to take it as far as you can the first night. If the girl says she’s going to leave and go to another bar, tell her you’re going with her. It might not even be in your plans to stay out that late, but you have to make sacrifices. Do everything you possibly can to hook up with her that night, and maybe even sleep with her. This way she will feel as if she has something invested in you, and you’ll be giving yourself a much better chance of seeing them again


How to Hook Up With Hot Waitress

Why is it that every time I finally find a restaurant or bar that I enjoy going to, some sexy waitress comes along and I feel completely obligated to get in her pants just because I’ve been staring at them for two hours straight. One second I’m order a cheeseburger, and the next thing I know I’m smoking weed with this naked Applebee's waitress in my bed figuring out what kind of discounts I’m going to get. I know, I know, you’re not supposed to shit where you eat, but then again sometimes I eat where you shit and I’m not supposed to do that either (think about it for a second).

Getting a waitresses’ number can be quite an easy task because the girl is literally forced into talking to you. There’s no need to worry about coming up with some elaborate opener or pushing the issue when you’re afraid she’s about to walk away. Take your time, you have until the meal is done, and if you can’t get digits by the time you’re done with your main course, there’s always dessert. And when you get really good, you’ll be tasting her for desert. Yeah buddy.

I suggest starting off slow because waitresses have a tendency to get hit on my every horn-ball that sits at their table, so simply ask her how her day is going and say thank you when she gives you her menu. If you plan on ordering some type of alcoholic beverage, ask her what her favorite drink is, perhaps saying something like, “What’s your favorite drink here? And please don’t say something really girly!” You can use the same flirty comment when your order food as well, “What should I get to eat? And please don’t say a salad!” Choose one of the other, there’s no need for both. Don’t get crazy playa.

I like to keep if very polite even when I’m making a joke because the majority of people in this world are straight assholes. They think waiters and waitresses are there to serve them and aren’t people like everyone else, so being polite will immediately be noticed.

Now after your first flirty joke wait until she comes back and try and continue with some standard conversation, asking questions like “So how long have you been working here?”,“Have you been busy today?”, “Are these mozzarella sticks always this good or am I just really high right now?”

When it gets close to the end of your meal is a good time to take that flirting to the next level. What I’ll do is ask them what they are doing after they get out of work very casually, “So do you have any plans after work or are you just going to go home and pass out?” She’ll have some answer and to be polite she respond and say, “What are you doing tonight?” and that’s when you respond in a sarcastic tone and say, “Katie we just met and you already want to hangout with me. I’m not used to moving this fast.” Make sure to call her by her name. By addressing her by her name you’re showing the confidence that you can talk to someone you just met and make it feel natural.

A comment like this takes it from a ‘this guy is just being polite’ to ‘maybe this guy likes me,’ and based on her answer you can get a feel how she feels about you. Worst case scenario she says, “You just asked me!” in a snotty tone and you can say, “I was just kidding,” which is always my bailout.

Since I don’t like imposing on girls when they are work and blatantly asking them for their number, I’ll wait until she’s alone either waiting by the bar for a drink order, or on her way to another table. I’ll time in perfectly like I’m in a mission impossible movie and I’ll get up, walk towards her casually and say “Hey you,” to make sure I have her attention and then I’ll whisper, “I won’t be mad if you leave your number on the check.” I’ll make eye contact and smirk while I keep walking and head to the bathroom or outside to smoke a cigarette.

That how you hook up with the hot waitress boys.

If she wants you to have her number she’ll write it down, and if she doesn’t she’ll pretend like it never happened. It’s the perfect scheme. The only bad thing that can happen is when shit ends poorly because 1). You didn’t answer her texts 2). You only call her after 12pm and 3). You don’t ever bring her around your friends. Then you're stuck watching the football games at your house because you want to avoid seeing her at Miller Ale House, Applebee's, TGIF’s, and McCann’s. Damn, I’m running out of fucking places, but I guess that’s a good problem to have.


Asking An Attractive Cashier For Her Number

I’m sure you’ve all had a time when you were either shopping for some fresh gear, picking up some boars head honey roasted turkey for lunch the next day, or your scooping a fresh pair of Ray bans for summer, and you see a sexy ass girl working the cash register. For years I never could figure out the perfect way to ask them for their number and I always left the store pissed at myself for bitching out, and on top of that I’d look in my shopping bag and realize that I bought a pink pair of Nikes or a Red pair of Ray Bans because I was focused on the girl.

Then, randomly one day after work, I was buying some a fat, juicy, fucking porterhouse for dinner and there happen to be a cute brunette working the register. The swag just happened to be dripping that day, and I unintentionally came across the perfect plan for asking any cashier for her number.

Step 1: 95% Percent of cashiers have some type of name tag, so quickly figure out her name and ask her how her day is going. Simple. You see the majority of people are so rapped up in themselves that they don’t take the time to see how others are doing and just by calling her by her name and asking how her day is going you will immediately grab her attention.

Step 2: You make a joke. She most likely is going to give you the generic “good how about you?” answer, but if she happens to say something like “I’m really tired” jump on it. Say something like “Alright you go home, I’ll take over your shift for that rest of the night. I’ve always wondered what it was like to be a cashier anyway. Give me your shirt.” If she does go with the standard “good how about you?” just have a simple joke planned. Comment on the rainy weather saying something like “My days going good, there’s just freaking monsoon going on outside. I might have to swim home.” If you’re buying clothes say, “Do you even like this shirt?” She’ll say she does and then say, “Okay if one person tells me they don’t like it I’m gunna come back here and be pissed at you,” and give a smile so she knows you’re kidding. Do you best to make her smile, give her a smirk back (nothing to crazy) and let her know what your swag feels like.

Step 3: If you get passed Step 2 and the girl is single, you’re sitting pretty good right here and ya boy Deezy is going to hook you up right quick. At this point you will likely be paying for whatever it is that you’re buying. Use your credit or debit card. This way she’s going to give you two copies of your receipt, and she’ll ask you to sign one of them. Take you copy flip it over and write this on the back:

Your Phone number:____________ 🙂

Give it to her and say “you sign this one while I sign mine.”

BOOM! I fucking love it. It works well because most at most places girls probably aren’t supposed to be giving out there number, but this allows them to be sneaky about it. Wait a day to text her; it will build a little anticipation and then text.


New Year’s Eve Dating Advice

New Year's Eve is a two days away boys, and you know when that clock strikes 12 you would rather have your tongue down some sexy shorties’ throat and with a palm full of ass in one hand and a glass full of champagne in the other rather than having to settle for giving your best friend a homo hug and wishing him the best.

So let’s focus on a few things so we can do to make sure the night goes our way…

First off, if you’re like me then you’re probably used to pre-gaming with your boys until 11 o’clock and then going out, but that doesn’t fly on New Year’s because that ball is dropping at 12 with or without you. That means that you should be out my 9pm, 10pm at the latest to give yourself enough time to scope out the situation so you don’t get stuck making out with some piglet with Tequila breath.

I know I like to use New Years as an opportunity to find an extremely sexy girl, and more often than not someone that I haven’t met yet, so let me help you out with a few openers:

It’s a week after Christmas, so if you see a particular article of clothing that seems very new, like a pair of heels or boots just throw out the comment, “I bet you that those were a Christmas present,” and run away with it.

If you see a girl taking a shot perhaps say something like, “You better not get to drunk, you don’t wanna be passed out by the time the ball drops,” just make sure you say it with a smirk so you don’t come off as a hater and I’m sure she’ll have some type of response.

Once you spark up a conversation, you’re probably going to have about an hour to seal your fate- so get going. Ask her what her New Year's resolution is because in all likelihood it’s going to be about something that she feels self conscious about. Make fun of her, but in a nice way. For instance if she says she’s going to start going to the gym say, “That’s a good one, just don’t be one of those people that buys all these new gym clothes, spandex and the whole nine, works out hard for two weeks and then quits.”

If she says she doesn’t have a New Year’s resolution tell her that everyone has to have a New Year resolution so they can feel a sense of accomplishment- it’ll make your dumbass sound smart. Go on to say that she could pick something simple, and tell her yours is that you want to make sure you put the seat down after you pee.

When you’re finished making her laugh and she’s feeling comfortable and all that good shit, tell her you’re gonna go grab a glass of champagne so you can toast before you kiss- throw it out there casually…

You might get a, “Alright, but no tongue,” but try and slip it in there anyway because it’s fucking New Years!!!!


How to Approach Women? An Expert’s Advice

Every girl is different. Every situation is different. However, the way you go about approaching a girl for the first time will typically be one of three specific ways. It’s important to know which approach to use based on the atmosphere (i.e. nightclub, bar, coffee shop), as well as finding out which technique is best suited for your personality. Let’s take a look at these approach methods I speak of.

When using a direct approach you make it clear to the girl that you’re talking to her because you found her attractive. Perhaps you walk straight up to her, stick out your hand and say, “Hello. I’m Alex. How is your night going so far?” or something witty like, “I’m not going to lie, I walked over here because you are way better looking than the guys I came with.”

There’s absolutely no beating around the bush with a direct approach. It’s the ‘grown-ass man’ way to talk to a girl because you will almost immediately find out if she sees you as potential. The only drawback is that she could quickly dead you if she doesn’t. When you’re approaching a girl during the daytime, maybe in a department store or coffee shop, the direct approach could be your only option because you might not have the time to hang around and wait for a different opportunity.

The indirect approach is when you casually initiate an interaction with a girl, coming across as if you wanted to strike a conversation just for sake of it with no further intentions. Of course that’s bullshit, we always have an ulterior motive–we’re thinking with our dicks half the time. The most common example of an indirect approach is asking a girl for her opinion on something: “Is that drink good, it looks pretty crazy?” or “Is this place always this crowded or did I just come on a good night?” Another example would be overhearing a conversation and then jumping in with your own opinion.

The advantage to the indirect approach is that there is no real chance for rejection as you’re just starting a casual conversation. It’s great for those guys that are terrified at cold-approaching and get all shook up and shit before walking up to a girl. The disadvantage is that is really doesn’t give you a chance to make an impression on the girl and you’re going to have to hope the conversation continues and you have more opportunities to do so later on.

Speaking of impressions, the last way of approaching is what I like to call the homerun swing. It’s basically the direct approach on steroids. It’s when you want to make an immediate impression on a chick in attempt to sweep her right off of her feet. For instance, when I see a girl strolling passed me with two drinks in her hand I’ll take a homerun swing and say, “Oh my God you got me a drink and you don’t even know me! When I first saw you I was like wow she’s pretty, but now I think you’re absolutely awesome!” The second she laughs I stick out my hand and introduce myself. And then I take my homerun trot around the bases because when you successfully pull off one of these expert openers, in all likelihood you can coast to a great night.


Flirting Tips For Men – What If She Refuses You?

Flirting tips for men

A lot of men agree that they look for flirting tips for men only because the fear to be rejected retains them from approaching a beautiful woman or even pushing for a relationship. It happens to every man at some point or another. You see a beautiful woman and you want to approach her. But then, a lot of thoughts invade your mind and prevent you from succeeding. What should you tell her? What if she refuses you? What if she makes you feel embarrassed?

These thoughts are even more intense if you happen to know this woman. Perhaps she works across the street or maybe she lives a few minutes away from you. Knowing that you will see her everyday can make it hard to cope with the embarrassment. All in all, these questions will paralyze you. By the time you get the courage to approach her, she is probably too far away. Then, you keep imagining how you should have approached her. You come up with all kinds of scenarios in your mind and you get ready for the next time.

And when the next time occurs, you go through the exact same scenario. Then what is the best relationship advice? This is by far one of the most common best dating questions, while its answers can serious make the difference.

So what do you do if she refuses you? What is the next move? This is the main fear out there and it paralyzes you. It makes you act stupid and dumb. When it comes to approaching the girl of your dreams, it is not really so hard to find your words. You can easily think about two or three different perspectives to start a conversation. But then it hits you. What if she refuses you? This kind of question requires a brand new perspective. Your old fashioned flirting tips for men will no longer work here. Understanding this phenomenon is the key to overcoming it.

It may seem hard to understand at a first glance, but the general idea is simple – if the girl of your dreams refuses you, she does not actually refuses you. How come? Basically, she does not know you. She has no clue who you are and she knows nothing about you. Therefore, according to most advice for new relationships, she does not refuse you. Instead, she refuses the way you approach her. This attitude reflects your style, so she refuses the man who she thinks you are. This consideration does, indeed, depend on her current mood. If she has a bad day, she probably thinks that she looks terrible and her hair looks like a broom. She does not feel like talking to anyone at all. Therefore, she will not even think about talking to strangers – especially when random people approach her.

Under these circumstances, your flirting tips for men may not work, but there is one thing you need to know – she does not refuse you, but herself. You have probably done your homework. You have a positive energy, but you are also dressed in a way that tells a lot of good things about you. You approach her in a polite manner and she refuses you. Keep in mind that this is not about you, but about herself. Maybe some other time.

Approaching her is a good idea though. As long as you feel alright, go ahead and meet that girl. Statistics claim that 35% of all women are sociable. You will only feel attracted to about 30% of them. In other words, 1 or 2 women out of 10 will fall for you. You will like them, but they will also respond to your approach. The others are irrelevant. Their refuse does not matter because you cannot match values and energy anyway. Your mission is to find those couple of ladies who are attracted by your style and want to know you better.

When looking for flirting tips for men, this is probably the easiest way to overcome this fear. Things can go a lot deeper and more profound. So you find yourself close to a beautiful girl and you want to approach her. Then, the question pops up. What if she refuses you? This is when you need a little ambition to go beyond this moment. Some men can do it, while others cannot. So what if she refuses you? This is the moment when you realize that your fears are related to you only. If you think that you will feel awful for being refused, you should know that no one can make you feel in a particular way. You feel awful because this is the type of feeling you associate fears with.

How about seeing this rejection as a new lesson instead? You failed to get a nice girl, but you learned a new lesson. What worked? What did not? What can you do to make yourself better the next time? Be positive about this new lesson and forget about the rejection. There is plenty of fish in the water. With this type of attitude, you will no longer feel awkward if you ever get refused. It happens to anyone, but at least you try. Move on to the next one.

Once you become aware of this thing and you actually accept it, what you do is create the context of your personal development as a man. It sounds complicated, but it is not. This is why you should train yourself to focus on developing self confidence in your masculinity, rather than in lines and techniques.

As a short final conclusion, overcoming the fear to be rejected is all about your mentality. Train your mentality to focus on yourself and not on your targets. With time, you will learn that a simple rejection is not going to kill you. In fact, you never know what might happen if you fail to even try. Moreover, you should know that such tips apply to the initial contact and approach, while marriage help for men is completely different.


The Underlying Theme of the Best Dating Questions for a First Date

Best dating questionsThere's no doubt that dating can be very stressful, especially the first date. Anxiety is totally normal to experience prior to a first date with someone that you've taken interest in, as the outcome is never really certain. It could end up going very well and be the start of a new great thing, or it could end pretty poorly. One thing is for certain though, if you equip yourself with some solid dating knowledge and tips, the likelihood of success is much higher. Possibly the most daunting part of a first date, much like a job interview, are the questions. What questions do you ask, and when? Are you not sure what to say to a girl for the first time that you date? This article is going to cover a lot of the best dating questions to ask a girl on your first date, so you can proceed confidently and smoothly.

Before getting to the specific questions, it's important that you understand some general conversational guidelines and dating advice for guys. You really want to focus on being a listener. Women like guys who listen, and they want your attention, so don't be overly focused on yourself and your own accomplishments when talking to them on a date. Don't hog the spotlight, but also don't expect them to do most of the work; You should be leading the way, but giving them the opportunity to open themselves up to you. An important part of this is knowing when you're going too fast with your questions. Sure, you want to get to know them, that's really the underlying point of the first date, but let things unfold naturally and slowly. Like most relationship advice for guys will tell you, avoid asking really personal and sensitive questions right off the bat, as they can very easily make your date uncomfortable and spoil the entire vibe right off the bat. Keep things casual and friendly for now.

Lastly, having a genuine interest in the girl you're dating and the things she does in life is a huge plus. Not just for obvious reasons like compatibility, but even from a conversational standpoint. Great conversation hinges on genuine interest, without it, the conversation can easily become stale and shallow. This is a big red flag when it comes to dating. Communication and dating are like two peas in a pod, and being prepared beforehand is the key to successfully dating a beautiful woman.

There is some good news for those of you reading that aren't conversational geniuses and masters of socializing – these things can be learned, and once you've read over and internalized some of the best dating questions to ask a girl on your first date, you'll start to pick up on the general qualities that makeup a good date question, and will be able to formulate your own questions and conversation topics on the fly.

What are some of the things you enjoy about your current place of work?

It's important that the questions you are asking are open ended and overall positive. She might not be entirely comfortable about specifically talking about where or what she does for work yet, but asking her the favourable qualities of her work is a great way to break the ice and start to glean some information about her.

How did you enjoy the place you grew up, and what was it like?

Again, the question is open ended and leaves a lot of room for extra conversational points. Following this type of patterns make creating a relational bond much easier. You're not asking her where she grew up necessarily, but what it was like. This is an important distinction to make.

If shes currently in school studying something, ask her how she took interest in what ever it is she's studying/her major.

A question like this will tell you a lot more about her and give you even more opportunity to establish some common ground, especially if you two are majoring in similar fields.

Where does your passion lie in life? What types of things really interest you?

This one goes a little with the previous question, and can even be used successively to keep the conversation flowing nicely.

So how do you like where you're living now?

When you're asking these types of questions, don't just pay attention to their answer, pay attention to how they're answering. Picking up on some social cues that a woman is likely to give off can give you a lot of clues as to where to take the conversation next. The best dating questions you can ask her during the date hinge on your ability to pick up on these cues. As you can see, we're keeping things very simple and friendly right now; These questions allow the girl a lot of freedom in how much or how little they want to answer, and all of them have the potential to “rabbit trail” in that they can lead to many different conversation points. Once you've spent some time practicing this type of conversational approach and been on a few dates, it will start to make a lot more sense to you, and will come naturally. At that point, coming up with your own specifically tailored questions on the fly will be a cinch, and you'll be able to more confidently and effectively navigate yourself through the potentially awkward first date, and you'll be that much more knowledgeable in knowing how to flirt with a girl.

As you can see, the best dating questions to ask a girl in dating conversations are mostly about understanding the balance between informational probing and keeping things comfortable and casual for the girl. Now that we've spent some time breaking the ice and being casual, you can, based on your own judgement of how the date and conversations have gone so far, start to ease into more personal, revealing questions. As most love advice for men will warn you, don't move ahead too fast and get overly excited and start prying her with really personal questions just yet. Based on how the girl answered a lot of our “starter” questions, we could have picked up a lot of information about who they are and what they're interested in. This is a great base to start from when we want to get a little more personal about things.


Succeed In Dating a Beautiful Woman with These Creative First Date Ideas

Dating a beautiful womanThe key to dating a beautiful woman and winning her over is being a little creative in the planning process. Most men don't go beyond the typical “dinner and a movie” approach to the first date, and while that can be fun and all, if you really want to woo the girl you like, show her something new! You want to separate yourself from all the other guys out there. This list will help you consider some less-common dating ideas that are guaranteed to be a blast for you and your date and will guarantee success in dating a beautiful woman.

The first thing that needs to be considered before planning the actual date itself, is that conversation is key. Most love advice for men will mention this point, and everyone understands this to some degree – the whole point of a date is to have fun and get to know the other person that you're with. That being said, you don't want to be under a constant pressure to strike up conversation. Good dates are ones where fun and conversation flow naturally. Women in particular like this type of thing, because while you may not realize it, they're often very self-conscious about having to talk about themselves, and have the attention constantly on them. Take a little time to think up some good conversational points that you can use during the date. Conversation is everything, and often times, the best dating questions you can ask on a first date are ones that not only show her that you're interested, but also leave the overall “vibe” very casual and friendly. It can be a hard balance to strike!

Go to an Aquarium!

It may seem a little silly, like something that children do on field trips; Aquariums are a great way to appreciate and expose your date to some natural beauty. This type of dating atmosphere is very casual and laid back, it gives you some conversational topics that you can fall back on, like talking about the various fish and organisms found at the aquarium. This doesn't mean you shouldn't be making the effort to communicate on a more personal level, but at least you can approach things in a more convenient manner, conversationally speaking.

Consider going Hiking!

If your date is willing to get a little exercise and the weather forecast permits, hiking is an excellent first date idea. Obviously you need to be aware of the type of girl your date is. If they seem like the kind of person that's into outdoors stuff, then this is an excellent way to hit things off.

Going to the theater.

Not the movie theater that is, but the actual “Theater.” It's very likely that your date rarely, if ever goes to the theater to see a show. This is a great way to introduce them to something new, and is a very classy alternative to seeing a movie. Most shows will have intermission periods where you and your date can converse; Going to the theater is a great idea if you're worried about your lack of conversational skills. While most relationship advice for guys focuses on the actual conversational aspects of dating and interacting with women, like how to flirt with a girl for instance, you have to keep the big picture in mind; Girls want to have fun!

Bowling!

This one is a classic. It's very casual and fun, and you two can enjoy a good drink and some food together while seeing who can score better. A little friendly competition can be the perfect thing to help break the ice for both participants. If she's comfortable, the entire date will be that much easier.

Check out a local art gallery.

Even if the woman you're taking on a date isn't one of those artsy fartsy type girls, you can still enjoy some nice artwork together at a gallery. At the very least, you two could joke about the goofy paintings and sculptures you find. You'll constantly be on the move, which helps to keep the tension low, as attention isn't fully fixated on one another. Just be sure to research the exhibit before you setup the date to make sure it will be somewhat interesting for both of you.

Is she into music?

Who isn't into music, right? Take her to a music show for your first date. Again, this accomplishes a lot of the same things that the previous ideas so – you're keeping things fun and casual, and letting the date itself do most of the heavy lifting. Obviously it depends what kind of music she's into. Certain types of music might not be as conducive for dating, like really heavy or excited genres. Bring up the idea to your date and see what they think.

Ice-Skating can prove to be a very exciting new experience.

Even if you two don't know how to ice-skate, that's all the more reason to give it a try. This is an excellent way to immediately establish a friendly bond with your date. Most ice-skating places will usually have other things going on as well like music and places to hang out and eat some food.

Introduce her to some new cuisine.

You may be starting to pickup on the common theme of these dating ideas by now. Sharing new experiences with someone is great for building a bond. By taking the dive with her into something new, you're showing your confidence and willingness to have fun and be daring at the same time. Try out some ethnic cuisine (avoid anything too crazy of course) that you think you'll both like. This is a big step up from just going to a typical restaurant and eating the same kinds of things you've always had.

Last but not least, a friendly tour of the area!

If none of the above ideas strike up any interest, consider just touring the local area. You'd be surprised how romantic and even exciting it can be to go on a little adventure with your date and exploring the area. Obviously this is a weather sensitive one, so don't plan on taking her out if the weather is questionable or downright poor. Perhaps look into finding some local festivals or exhibits that you can go to. Keep in mind the rules of casual dating; Provide a fun and relaxing time for the girl you're dating, and don't be overly serious. The great thing about touring around is that your options for food and hangout spots are pretty much endless. Successfully dating a beautiful woman and capturing her interest comes down to execution. The ultimate dating advice for guys is to be true to yourself in the process, and you'll naturally exude the confidence that women look for in a man.