The real reason you haven’t found the man you wanted isn’t that you behaved bad or said something hurtful on a date. It isn’t because you forgot to text him after the date. The truth is you’ve picked someone who had already decided not to date you even before you asked him to meet you.
So, why do we pick someone wrong for us?
We all have a subconscious part of us that make us feel attracted to specific individuals who may relate to us in some way. Most men and women believe its chemistry when the sparks keep flying. But, what’s really taking place that your inner drama queen is having its best day. You get disinterested with nice guys and desire attention from a man who feels bored with you. Most people admit that they will never have any chemistry or be excited with someone, who is “nice” or “good,” and in some case, it might be true. Now, if you don’t change your selection process while choosing a partner, it’s very likely you’ll always be dating guys who aren’t a match. You’ll keep missing or neglecting all the obvious red flags in your new partner and keep hoping that the relationship will be better this time, but nothing happens.
So, what are you going to do about it? There are few ways that you can follow to make some changes to your partner selection process. The truth is your subconscious mind is always giving you hints how to improve it, but always making you fail to find a good partner when you’re dating someone new.
1. Break bad patterns. Analyze all the common things in your relationship and try to find the bad patterns. Try to figure out the underlying fear you experience when you’re getting close to someone. Confront the fears so that you can get rid of the bad pattern.
2. Be attentive to your hopes and dreams. Your hopes and dreams work as a spiritual force that guides you to be successful to be in a loving and fulfilling relationship. When you feel that power deep within yourself, note in down in a journal and follow it.
3. Manifest an inner dialogue. You can make changes to your partner selection mechanism by working with your subconscious inner self and visualizing and facing the part where you pick your dates. Ask questions to yourself and trust the answers that come in your mind.
4. Hire a coach. Take help from a professional who has experience when it comes to working with the subconscious mind. This will help you get adjusted with love.
The bottom line is when you make an effort to shift your subconscious mind, even slightly, you’ll notice a tremendous difference with who you’re attracted to and who is attracted to you. You might even see yourself in a situation where you’re meeting a lot of nice guys and who know eventually, you may be interested with one of them and start a relationship. The point is you don’t need to keep worrying about saying the right things or dating right. If you trust your guts that you’ll pick the right partner, it’s very likely that you’ll find one.