In movies and television romantic relationships always have a happy ending or a scene where the couple lives happily ever after. But, in reality, not so much. There are many stages a relationship passes through over time, but most of us want a loving and long-lasting relationship in the end. Many men and women think relationships are easy, but it’s not. Mature, committed, and lasting relationships need work, and both partners have to chime in equally.
Anyways, when it comes to romantic relationships, there are three stages. These stages will help you to indicate which phase of development your present relationship is.
People idealize their potential partners at this phase. You feel joy, compassion, and excitement with your spouse. This feeling makes you think about your partner all day and night. You visualize all the fun and interesting things you would like to with your newly found romantic interest. You always want to spend all of your time with your partner. However, there is something you need to remember. In this stage of romance, you don’t tend to think about the flaws of your partner. You only focus on their good sides when you’re with him or her. Your brain gets addicted to the happy feelings of being in love. This is romantic love, and the media is obsessed by it. But, it’s not true love or a living relationship for that matter. And buying into this will only create disappointments in real relationships.
This is where the second phase of romantic relationships begins, which is realistic love. This is the stage where most couples get a taste of what a real relationship feels like and it’s only the stage where most couples get stuck. The novelty of romantic love wears off, and people start to realize the real personalities of their partners. The flaws get exposed, and some couple begins to resent each other. It’s here the relationship reaches its defining moment. It is at this phase where couple either make or end their relationships. Some do it instantly, while others keep on bickering and resenting their partners until they can no longer take it anymore. Some men and women get scared and insecure, so they settle with their partners, even after knowing that they aren’t compatible with each other. You start to feel cheated, and you beat yourself up for settling with a person you don’t love. You feel hurt, desperate, upset and keep blaming your partner for not meeting your needs.
This the final stage in the romantic relationship. Both people feel cared and fulfilled for each other, and they feel safe and secure in the relationship. The love is mature and mutual. At this stage, both partners know each other at a fundamental and emotional level. They accept each other’s flaws and perfections, and both try to bring the best of themselves. The only way couple can obtain mature love is to strive through the previous stages of love.
We all make mistakes. Every stage of love is riddled with mistakes. The important thing is both partners should commit themselves to the relationship, navigate through all the flaws, and make the relationship safe and secure.