Trust is the foundation of any relationship. But once it is broken, either by your boyfriend or husband then it’s hard to gather the guts to trust anyone again. Learning to trust again after a distressing betrayal seems like almost impossible, however by accepting the past and building up a new belief about men will make you bring your life back on track.
So, stop being a man hater and try to adopt the following ways to learn to trust men again.
Stop Blaming Yourself
Come on lady; you haven’t done anything wrong nor did you say something bad, it is just that you have placed your trust in someone who was not worth it. It was a bad experience. Do learn from it but do not stop living because of it. And moreover a person who betrayed you don’t possess good moral values, and of course, you would never like to keep such a person in your life, would you?
Feel your feelings
Do not suppress your feelings. Do not keep your anger, sadness, grief or loss inside. It is important to feel these feelings and let them go in a healthy way otherwise; it will keep on killing you from inside which definitely you do not deserve.
Write it out
It is one of the best ways to just write out about how you feel right now and how you felt with the partner who betrayed you. Then write down the positive facts about the people around you on whom you can trust. Then you can make a list of positive things that you want to your potential partner. By doing all, it will make you change your perspectives about relationships and will also be helpful in narrowing down the relationship prospects.
Surround yourself with the people you trust
Look around you. You may find individuals who are loyal to their partners. Surround yourself with the people you trust. Not everyone is the same. Just because if you chose a rotten egg in the past means that every chap on this planet Earth is the same.
Let go of your past
The past is over now, and you must have learned from it. Now it is the time to let go of all your anger, frustration, sadness, grieves. There are so much new exciting things that are waiting for you. So take a deep breath, move forward and tell yourself that everything is going to be alright.
Seek professional help
If even after trying, things do not seem to settle down then there is nothing wrong with looking into a professional help. Moreover, you feel like that you are set to attract bad men then the experts will help you finding a better one for yourself.
Trust yourself first
Be confident and trust yourself and your instinct first. You have not done anything bad, and it was not your fault. Come on lady! The right guy is waiting for you. If you do not trust your inner guidance, you will never be able to get out of your past. Do not waste your time to give more chances to the one who deserves you.
Dealing with betrayal is not easy at all. It takes time. But considering these pointers will be quite helpful in leaving your past behind and attract a better man in your life.