3 Things Extroverts Should Know About Dating Introverts

So you finally managed to land a date with that hot lady from the gym. Congratulations! If you happen to be an introvert, this is a great thing for you. Being an extrovert or an introvert isn't about being shy or speaking out. Rather it’s all about how you get the energy and how you handle life events and situations. Extroverts get their energy while being around others, while introverts need quietness and solitude to recharge. Most people ask about the reasons behind extroverts talking too much. And the easy answer is extroverts need to work things out verbally. Meanwhile, introverts contemplate on thoughts and ideas in their heads before they express their opinion. Every one of us, both extroverts and introverts, are

Every one of us, both extroverts and introverts, are spiritual, cognitively, biologically, and physically wired to love, be loved, be in love and belong. The only major difference is that each one of us has a different approach to love and feel desired.

So, if you are dating an introvert, here are the three things an extrovert should know about dating introverts:

1. Put your energy into listening
Extroverts tend to speak when it’s time to think. Extroverts are also infamous for being interrupters. Whenever someone starts to talk with us, extroverts can hardly wait to chime in their opinions which in most part weren’t well processed in the brain. This makes other people annoyed especially introverts. This behavior of extroverts makes people silenced. Other folks gave their time and attention to listen to your thoughts and feelings, and when to interrupt them in the middle, when they are having a conversation with you; it makes them feel their words are unimportant. It’s vital to allow others their turn and express themselves as it’s beneficial in establishing trust and rapport. So, before going out on a date with an introvert, spend some time to create a list of questions you might ask your introverted date to feel comfortable to open up and talk about herself and her feelings. This is how thoughtful exchanges are supposed to happen.

2. Suggest quite places for dates
Extroverts get their energy from being around others. Big parties, nightclubs, or favorite restaurants make them feel awake and alive. But, it’s the opposite for introverts. Famous places and high-key events drain introverts, and they always want to escape from it. If your girlfriend is an introvert and intends to end the night early in situations like these, it means she feels exhausted and feels drained from all the noise and energy of the crowd. Introverts feel themselves in familiar or lower-key places for a date. I know this might seem dull and boring to you at first, but it gives you both of you the chance to know each other better without distractions from the outside world. And if you feel any hesitation to do this, remember this will create conflicts later in your relationship when you want to go out, but your partner wants to spend the evening indoors.

3. Don’t Rush
Extroverts want to try new experiences. They think fast and move fast. They become impatient when someone they are dating doesn’t keep up with them. If you are dating a woman, who is an introvert, spontaneous enthusiasm can quickly become overwhelming and exhausting to her. So, slow down and be patient. This way you can also become less judgmental about others and patient with yourself.


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