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Internet Addiction: What To Do When Your Partner Is Addicted To Social Media

Let's be real: We're all obsessed with social media. We love posting quippy remarks on Twitter. We love posting pictures of our outfits (or our meals) on Instagram. We simply must see what our friends are up to on Facebook. The social media cycle is never-ending! With all the social media outlets to check, it's almost impossible to put our phones down. While social media can be fun, it can also be destructive, especially for relationships. It's hard to really connect with your partner and have a good time when they are glued to their phone checking social media. It's difficult to go out somewhere when your partner needs to snap pictures for Instagram every five minutes or constantly “check in” on Facebook. If you feel that your partner is addicted to social media, you need to do something about it. But what can you do?

If you feel like your partner is addicted to social media, talk to them about it! Bring it up in a nice and mature manner. Don't make them feel like you are attacking them or criticizing them. Explain to them that you feel like their attention is focused more on social media than actual interaction. Explain how you feel when they are glued to their phone rather than engaging with you. It might help to start pointing out when you catch them on social media at inappropriate times. This can help to show them that they have become obsessive over their social media accounts.

It can also be helpful to suggest a “social media break.” Suggest that both you and your partner take a break from social media, just for a few days or even weeks. This will help your partner to realize they do not need to constantly be on social media outlets. You can also set aside certain times that it is okay to check social media, such as when they're alone and definitely not when you're on a date!

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Long-Distance Love: Can You Really Date Someone Who Lives In Another Country?

If you've ever seen the show 90 Day Fiancé, you've probably wondered how legitimate international relationships are. The show follows various people who all fell in love with someone who lives in another country. We see some relationships fail, while others succeed, but all of them encounter endless hurdles. The series can't help but make you wonder: Can you really date someone who lives in another country?

In our opinion, it is nearly impossible to date someone who lives in another country. Long-distance relationships are hard enough when you're in the same country. Imagine how hard it is when you're in another country. If you're in a relationship with someone in another state, it is much easier to visit them more often. While these relationships are still hard, it is easier to make them work than making international ones work. When you're in a relationship with someone in another country, it is much harder to visit them often, making it harder to sustain the relationship.

Another obstacle that international couples face are cultural differences. While cultural differences may not be a dealbreaker for some couples, they are difficult for other couples to get past. When someone has been raised in a different country than you, they have an entirely different worldview. They will likely have a poor understand of your country and culture, and you will likely have a poor understanding of theirs.

One of the biggest problems that comes up when dating someone in another country is planning for the future. How do you decide which country to live in? Who will have to quit their job and move away from their family? These are difficult decisions to make and very serious commitments to ask of a person. These decisions ultimately lead to the demise of many long-distancer relationships.

With all that said, as 90 Day Fiance shows, there are many couples who make their long-distance relationship work. At the end of the day, it depends on how committed you are to one another and how much you are willing to sacrifice for the relationship. If you ask us though, we'd still suggest dating someone who lives close to you!

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Male Misconceptions: Do Women Wear Makeup To Impress Men?

When it comes to men and women, both sexes have a lot of misconceptions about one another. A common misconception that men have is that women wear makeup to impress them or get their attention. We'd like to take this idea and toss it aside because guys, it's so not true. There are several reasons women wear makeup, but you're not one of them. So what is the real reason?

While there may be some women out there who wear makeup to impress men or get the attention of a man, the vast majority of women don't wear makeup for this reason. Trust us on this one. When a woman is looking at makeup, purchasing makeup or applying her makeup, she's not thinking about impressing any man. There are a few reasons that women actually wear makeup. The primary reason? They like it. It's that simple. Women like to wear makeup. There's a euphoric rush when you open up a brand new eyeshadow palette or twist up a virgin lipstick. Makeup is interest, enjoyable, and fun to put on! What's not to like?

Another reason that women wear makeup is to express themselves. Makeup can be looked at as a form of art and self expression. The way you do your makeup can reflect who you are or how you're feeling. Just like how your clothes are a reflection of how you are, your makeup is part of that. It is part of your aesthetic and your style.

The final reason that women wear makeup is because it makes them feel good. While we're not saying that women need makeup to look good, makeup does enhance your natural beauty. It can accentuate the features that you're proud of and downplay ones you may be insecure about. Just like the perfect pair of pants or a great haircut, makeup can give you a major boost of confidence.

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Calling It Quits: The Top 5 Reasons Couples Break Up

Why do seemingly great couples break up? Have you ever looked at a couple and thought, “Why would they ever break up?” There are endless reasons a couple might call it quits, but there are a few things that will lead nearly any relationship to its end. Check out the top five reasons couples break up below:

1. Infidelity

Nothing will send a relationship into the trash quicker than infidelity. There are very, very few couples that can bounce back after one or both partners cheats, so most of couples decide to just break things off. For the most part, this is the wisest decision. After infidelity occurs, there is no trust in the relationship. Without trust, there's no relationship left to save.

2. Boredom

Boredom is one of the most common reasons couples break up because it is human nature to grow out of things. Almost every couple eventually encounters the dreaded boredom that comes with being in a long term relationship. In the beginning, everything about your partner was new and exciting. Once you've been with them for a while, you know them so well that you have no interest in them and ultimately decide to go your separate ways.

3. Finances

Finances are a huge problem for many couples and often lead to break ups. This mostly pertains to couples who are married or live together and have to split their bills. If your partner cannot manage their money and you are stuck carrying the weight of all your financial burdens, it's likely that you'll want to get away from them.

4. Different Life Goals

A very common reason for breaking up is that each partner has different life goals. Small goals, like wanting to learn a new hobby, are actually beneficial and healthy for relationships. It's good to have different hobbies. However, when you have larger life goals that differ, such as wanting to have kids versus not having kids, you will not be able to reconcile these differences.

5. Bad Habits

Few things are more toxic for a relationship than bad habits or vices. If you or your partner gambles, smokes compulsively, or drinks excessively, things are going to head South very quickly. It's almost impossible to maintain a healthy relationship with someone who has bad habits like these and for that reason, these relationships burn out very quickly.

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Old Rules: Should Men Still Pay On the First Date?

When it comes to dating, there's always a set of “rules” that people recommend following. While some of these rules are tried and true, other rules seem a little outdated. One old rule that may not apply to the dating scene anymore is that men should always pay on the first date. It used to be seen as chivalrous for men to pay the bill when they took a woman out for first time. Now, for many women, it is important for them to feel equal and independent. This means they may prefer to split the bill on the first date, rather than having the man pay for the whole thing. At the same time, there are still women who prefer the old tradition of men picking up the tab. So, how do you know whether or not you should pay on the first date?

Here's what we say: Pay on the first date, unless she asks/offers to split the bill. Call us old-fashioned, but we still like that old rule of men picking up the bill. With that said, we respect women who want to pay their own way. So we feel the best way to handle this situation is for the man to automatically go to pay, and if the woman wants to split the bill, she needs to offer. At that point, the man should agree to pay half. Don't make it a big back and forth argument at that point. If she mentions it, go ahead and split it. If she doesn't offer, pay the whole thing. Seems simple enough, right?

It also helps if you can try to get a sense of who this girl is before you go on a date with her. If she's very independent, it's likely that she will want to pay for her own meal. If she seems very old-fashioned and likes to be courted, she'll most likely appreciate you picking up the tab. Either way, we wish you the best of luck on your first date!

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Online Attention: 4 Ways To Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out

Online dating is one of the most popular ways to meet someone nowadays, but it isn't always easy! A lot of people find that they get lost amongst the many other profiles on online dating sites. If you find that you've been buried under all the other options online, check out these four tips for making your online dating profile stand out!

1. Put your best face forward.

This tip should go without saying, but we'll say it anyways. Choose your best photo! Put pictures on your profile that are flattering. This doesn't mean to “catfish” anyone and use pictures that look nothing like you actually look. It means choosing your best photos instead of ones that are taken at bad angles or in bad lighting. Your most flattering pictures will get you the most attention!

2. Have a sense of humor.

A sense of humor goes a long way for both men and women. No one wants to bother with someone who is serious all the time. They aren't going to be any fun! If you want to make your online dating profile stand out, incorporate something funny into it. Show people that you have a sense of humor and they will gravitate towards you.

3. Avoid the drama or TMI.

Few things will send someone running faster than drama or TMI. Keep your online dating profile free of your personal drama or info. You don't need to share why your last relationship ended. You don't need to go into crazy family drama. Keep things light and more people will be interested in you!

4. Make yourself exciting!

To really make your online dating profile stand out, make it exciting! Make sure that your profile isn't full of selfies in your bathroom mirror. Change things up a bit. If you've recently gone on a trip somewhere, include some pictures from it! In your bio, include all the fun things you like to do or hobbies you have. This will make you look more interesting!

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How Long Should You Date Before Moving In Together?

Relationships come with numerous milestones and one of the biggest ones is moving in together. Moving in together is a huge step to take as a couple and when it comes to taking this step, timing is essential. If you do it too early, it can ruin the relationship. At the same time, it can be problematic to wait too long to do it also. We’re discussing why timing is essential when it comes to moving in together. Check it out below!

Moving In Together Too Soon

Moving in together too soon is one of the most common mistakes in a relationship. People have a tendency to get overly excited about their new partner and want to spend every second together, so they feel that moving in together is the way to do that. The problem is that you can essentially overdose on one another and the lead the relationship right into the trash can. Spending 24/7 together that soon is just too much. Also, moving in together is just far serious of a step for a new couple. You don’t know this person well enough to know how they handle all the aspects of maintaining a home. You don’t know that they’re reliable enough to help out with the bills or household chores. It’s too much of a gamble!

Moving In Together Too Late

On the flip side, it can be catastrophic for a couple to wait too long to move in together. The truth is that living together is the best way to get to know who someone really is. You learn each and every one of their quirks and idiosyncrasies. You find out what you can tolerate and what you cannot. Say you date someone for five years and then you finally decide to move in together. Once you’re living together, you then realize that this person drives you insane and you cannot tolerate them on a 24/7 basis…and the relationship ends. This means that you just wasted five years of your life! Ultimately, we suggest moving in together after you’ve dated someone at least 8 months to a year.

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Getting To Know You: 30 Questions You Can Ask On the First Date

We all know that first dates can be intimidating. After all, you're hanging out with a total stranger and you're expected to make conversation! What should you talk to them about? While there are some things you should never bring up on a first date, there are tons of things that are totally okay to talk about. Check out 30 great questions you can ask on the first date:

  1. Where are you originally from?
  2. What do you do, and how long have you been doing it?
  3. Where exactly do you live in [insert your city or town here]?
  4. Where did you go to school?
  5. What was your major?
  6. What do you like to do when you’re not working?
  7. What type of music are you into?
  8. Have you read any good books recently?
  9. Are you more of a TV person, or do you prefer movies?
  10. Depending on the above answer, ask what they’re watching, or what they’ve seen lately.
  11. If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  12. Are you a cat person or a dog person?
  13. Do you have any nicknames?
  14. Do you have any siblings?
  15. Coffee or tea?
  16. If you won the lottery tomorrow, what’s the first thing you’d buy?
  17. If you could be any person for a day, who would it be?
  18. Where else would you consider living?
  19. Do your parents still live in the house you grew up in?
  20. What’s your biggest pet peeve?
  21. What’s on your bucket list?
  22. Are you a morning person or a night person?
  23. Do you like your job? What do you want to do next?
  24. Do you ever cook?
  25. What are you most passionate about?
  26. What’s your social life like? Do you have a big group of friends?
  27. Do you consider yourself career-driven?
  28. When’s your birthday?
  29. Did you like this place?
  30. Do you have any fun plans for the rest of the weekend?

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Opposites Don’t Attract: 3 Differences That Are Bad For Relationships

We've all heard the saying “opposites attract,” but how true is that? Can you really make a relationship work with someone who is drastically different from yourself? It turns out there are some differences that are good for relationships and there are some that are really bad for relationships. Read on to find out the three differences that are bad for relationships!

1. Different Political Beliefs

This is one of the biggest differences that are bad for relationships. It's almost impossible to sustain a relationship when the two of you have different political beliefs. Your political beliefs are a reflection of who you are as a person and how you view the world around you. For example, if you're the kind of person who believes that abortion is murder, you're not going to get along with a woman who believes in women's bodily autonomy.

2. Different Long-term Goals

Different long-term goals is probably the difference that most often leads to breakups. When your ideas for the future don't match up, you're just not going to last. For instance, if your partner wants to have children one day and you absolutely never want children, what's the point of staying together? If your partner wants to move to the West coast and you want to stay on the East coast, things aren't going to work out. These are differences no couple can work through.

3. Different Approaches To Family

Dealing with family and different approaches to family is a common problem that couples have. Say your partner is very family-oriented and spends a lot of time with their family members. Say you're someone who believes in limited family involvement and only sees your family members for special occasions. It's highly likely that you're going to get annoyed with your partner constantly having their family around, and they're going to get upset if you try to put a stop to it. This may also become a problem if the two of you start a family of your own. You'll bicker over how involved your parenting should be and it will lead to major issues.

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Opposites Attract: 3 Differences That Are Good For Relationships

Everyone has heard the phrase “opposites attract,” and in many cases, this is totally true. Sometimes there are benefits to being in a relationship with someone is different from you. Dating someone with different tastes or different interests can be a positive thing, not only for the relationship, but for yourself as a person. We're breaking down three differences that are good for relationships. Check them out below!

1. Different Taste In Music/Movies/Television

One of the best differences that occur in a relationship is different taste in entertainment. Sure, you might argue over what movie to watch from time to time, but this is ultimately a good thing. Dating someone with different taste in music, movies or television exposes you to things you may have never watched or listen to otherwise. For example, your partner may get you to delve into the world of foreign films and you might encourage them to listen to more oldies music. Nothing wrong with that!

2. Different Taste In Food

Having different taste in food may cause a few spats over which restaurant to go to, but we're still going to call this a good difference in a relationship. Dating someone who has different taste in food can make you more cultured and force you to step outside of your usual dietary box. For instance, you may have never tried Thai food prior to dating someone who loves Thai food. Or maybe your partner always hated Italian food until you encouraged them to try a certain Italian restaurant.

3. Different Hobbies

One of the best differences in a relationship is having different hobbies. The main reason for this is that it encourages time apart. Yes, we are advocating time apart from your partner. Many relationships have a tendency to get too clingy and both partners lose their identities in one another. When you have different hobbies, it gives you a reason to step away from your partner for just a little while. For example, you might enjoy fishing while your partner hates the outdoors. You can go fishing with your friends while your partner does something else with their friends. It gives you healthy time apart!

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