Work is a part of everyone's life – well, almost everyone. Most people spend much of their adult life working. You have to work so that you can take care of yourself and support yourself, right? While work is a major part of life, it can take a major toll on your relationship. Depending on your job, you may spend hours away from home working overtime. You may have to go on frequent business trips. Maybe you work a regular 9 to 5 job but it's become so mentally taxing that you don't have the energy to focus on your love life at all. Whatever the case may be, if you have found that work is affecting your relationship, you need to find balance.
So how exactly can you balance work and your relationship? There are several things you can do that will help you find time for your relationship without sacrificing your work. The first thing you need to do is look at your schedule. Are you working overtime every single week? Are you sticking around work for a little while after clocking out, just to help out with a few things? If either of these is the case, you have to realize that your relationship is just as important as your job is. Actually, it's more important. You can replace your job; You can't replace your partner. It could be time for you to prioritize your partner over your work and this could require taking a stand. If you've been working too much overtime, have a discussion with your employer and see if you can take turns with another employee staying after and doing the extra work that needs to be done.
Another way that work interferes with a relationship is the mental exhaustion and burnout that many jobs can cause. Even if you're working the standard forty hours, you may come home too exhausted to even function, let alone spend time with your partner. Your job may be occupying the entirety of your mind, making it impossible to give your relationship the attention it needs. If this is the problem, you have to find a way to simultaneously de-stress and spend time with your partner at once. This could involve finding a hobby to do together that brings you closer together and further away from work. This may be practicing yoga, painting, playing music, going for walks. These are all activities that will calm your mind and help you re-connect with your partner at the same time.
When it comes to relationships, there are so many problems that can come up. Sure, we know that sounds pessimistic, but it's true! One of the most common problems in a relationship is your partner's parents not approving of you. For most people, it's important that their boyfriend or girlfriend's family likes them. So it's pretty painful to find out their parents can't stand you. It can also take a huge toll on the relationship, especially if your partner really values their family's opinion. So what should you do if you find yourself in this predicament? Check out three things you can do when your partner's parents don't like you:
1. Talk To Your Partner About It
If you feel like your partner's parents don't like you, the first step is to bring it up with your partner. Ask them how their parents really feel about you. Find out if there's something you did wrong. If you're really bold, you can even go right to the source and ask their parents if you did something to offend them. This will get things right out on the table and help everyone involved move forward.
2. Do Some Self-Reflection
If your boyfriend or girlfriend's parents don't like you, it could be time to do some self-reflection. Try stepping outside of yourself and seeing things from their point of view. Do they have a valid reason to not like you? Were you rude or offensive to them? Do you mistreat their son or daughter? If so, you'll realize that you need to make some major changes and hopefully these improvements will change the way that they see you. On the other hand, if you cannot identify a valid reason for them to dislike you, then you should just brush it off and ignore them. If this can't be done, it's time to move on to your last option…
3. Consider Breaking Up
The last option when your partner's parents do not like you is to end the relationship. This is the best choice when you have a partner who really values their parent's opinion. If the fact that their parents dislike you has caused your partner to become distant or push you away, it's time to just call it quits. This is especially true if their parents dislike you for no good reason or for something you cannot change. If their parents have judged you unfairly and decided they don't like you and your partner goes along with this, then you are probably better off moving on.
Divorce can be the hardest thing a person has gone through in their life. It's agonizing to see your marriage end. After all, you marry someone because you think you're going to be with them forever, right? Well, as awful as divorce may be, it doesn't mean your romantic life is over. Most people find love again after divorce, even if it's not easy. If you've just gone through a divorce and you're feeling down about ever finding love again, take a look at these twenty helpful tips about dating after divorce:
- It's okay to take some time before re-entering the dating scene. Don't dive in if you're not ready.
- Don't do anything you're not comfortable with – even if friends and family are pushing you to “get out there,” always do what feels right.
- Know exactly what you want. The only thing worse than getting divorced is getting divorced again. So know in advance what you want in a future partner.
- It's okay to feel insecure and be unsure of yourself.
- Don't let your past relationship weigh you down.
- Never settle for less than what you deserve.
- Don't take yourself too seriously. The past may have made you jaded, but remember that dating should be fun!
- The people you meet won't be perfect. Don't have unrealistic expectations of someone.
- Don't go into anything trying to make your ex jealous. Leave the past in the past.
- If you have children, be open with them about what is happening. Make sure they are comfortable with any changes that may occur in your life or theirs.
- Be aware of your own shortcomings. If there were mistakes you made in your marriage, own up to them and don't repeat them this time around.
- You may need some help and that's okay. If a friend or family member wants to set you up, give it a chance!
- Don't get too involved with anyone too fast.
- Don't be afraid to be vulnerable.
- Don't jump into bed with anyone new too quickly.
- Accept that the dating scene has likely changed since you were last in it. You may have to adapt a little!
- Technology is your friend (i.e. dating apps).
- Don't think that your next relationship will definitely work out. You may have to date several people before you find the next one you'll settle down with.
- Don't be concerned with what your ex is doing/how they're moving on.
- You will find love again!
It's one of the toughest decisions to make in any new relationship: When should you introduce your partner to your parents? This is a tricky situation, because you want to make sure the timing is just right. Your new partner meeting your parents can really make or break the relationship, so it's important to do this the right way. So when exactly is the perfect time to introduce your partner to your parents?
In our totally unprofessional opinion, the perfect time to introduce your partner to your parents is… between 1 and 2 months of dating. Yup, that is the sweet spot when it comes to introducing the new boyfriend or girlfriend to your parents. You're probably wondering why we've chosen that specific timeframe, so let us break it down:
You need to have dated someone at least one month before you even think of bringing them home to your family. Meeting the parents is a significant step in the relationship and doing it before the one month mark can be misleading for everyone involved. For starters, you may overwhelm your new partner by doing it too soon. You may also embarrass yourself, if your new partner was thinking the relationship was casual when you have deemed it “meet my parents” serious. It can also mislead your parents if you bring home a person you've only been with for one or two weeks. At that very early stage, there is no way of knowing how long this relationship will last. So you could be introducing your parents to someone that could very well be out of your life in a matter of days.
So we know you should be together for at least one month before meeting each other's parents, but why should you do it before the two month mark? Meeting someone's family is, like we've said several times, significant. Your family is a huge part of who you are. While many people aren't exactly like their parents, most people actually are (whether they like to admit it or not.) Your partner should be able to meet your parents and assess the situation before they are too committed to the relationship. For example, say they meet your parents and find out that both you and your family have certain beliefs they want no part of. They will likely want to cut things off, and they should have the right to do so. Letting them meet your parents before two months of dating gives them the chance to end things before you get too involved.
Over half of all marriages will end in divorce. It's a sobering statistic, but it's the reality. We know that most marriages just don't work out, but in spite of all the relationship experts and marriage counselors in the world, the reasons that couples choose to get divorced is still poorly understood. While it's hard to determine exactly why so many marriages are ending, a major trend has appeared when it comes to who initiates the divorce and why they've made that decision…
Who is more likely to want a divorce, the husband or the wife? As it turns out, women are ones to ask for a divorce more than 80% of the time. Now that's a pretty hefty statistic! So why is it that women are more likely to make that final call and end their marriage? Are men more willing to fight for the relationship? The answer to that second question is “no.” Sure, there are plenty of men who fight to save their marriages, but that's not the reason so many divorces are initiated by women.
There are several reasons wives are typically the ones to ask for a divorce. The first reason is that men are more likely to screw up the relationship. Sorry guys, but you know it's true. Obviously women are capable of doing everything wrong in a relationship. Women can be unfaithful. Women can be abusive. Women can be neglectful. With that said, it's far more common for men to behave in these toxic ways. Men have been found to commit infidelity far more often than women. Men have also been found to be physically and emotionally abusive to their partners more often than women are. So when a guy cheats on his wife or abuses her, it only makes sense for her to want out of the relationship.
Another reason that women are more likely to want a divorce is directly correlated to a female's emotional needs. Most women have a natural urge to be supported, appreciated, and acknowledged. Men have these needs too, but they are rarely put in a position where they go without them, as women typically show their husbands all of these things without provocation. Men, on the other hand, can often be very dismissive of their wives. They have difficulty showing their appreciation to their wife or showing her how much she means to them. Many women can only tolerate this for so long and eventually decide to leave the marriage so that they can find emotional fulfillment elsewhere.
Obviously these generalized statements do not apply to every single man and woman on Earth. However, the statistics do speak for themselves. More women are asking for divorces than men are, and it seems to be that the reasoning is pretty clear. If you feel that your marriage is headed for divorce, take the time to speak to your partner and see if any of these issues are behind your marital trouble.
All that anyone can talk about right now is the absolutely electric performance by Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper at the 91st Academy Awards. The two sang the hit song “Shallow” from their film A Star Is Born. (The song won an Oscar later in the ceremony!) While everyone has praised the two for how incredible the performance was, everyone is mainly focused on the palpable sexual tension between the two onstage. In fact, fans have been noticing the major chemistry between Gaga and Bradley all throughout awards season and the promotional tour for their movie. The two look at each other with so much love in their eyes, it could make even the most cynical non-romantic clutch their hand to their heart.
With such obvious chemistry between the two of them, why aren't they together? Well…Bradley has a girlfriend. A very serious girlfriend, actually. Bradley has been dating gorgeous supermodel Irina Shayk for several years and two even have a daughter together. While they do seem very much in love, fans feel that he has much more chemistry with Lady Gaga. So this brings up the question: Can you have more chemistry with a friend than you do with your actual partner? And, does this mean you should be with that other person instead?
First off, yes, you can absolutely have insane chemistry with someone who is not your partner. Chemistry is not something that is in your control. Rather, it is the way two personalities and spirits interact with one another. There will be some people that you just naturally mesh with, and others that you definitely do not. Obviously, you cannot force yourself to have good chemistry with someone. You also cannot turn it off if you do have good chemistry with someone. It is no secret that good chemistry is essential for a good relationship. Happy, healthy couples have great physical and emotional chemistry that, much like Gaga and Bradley, is apparent to everyone around them. So what happens when you, again much like Gaga and Bradley, have great chemistry but one of you is already with someone else?
If you find that you have amazing chemistry with someone that you just do not have with your partner, it could be time to take a closer look at your relationship. Is there something wrong in the relationship that could be hindering your chemistry or is it that the two of you just don't fit? Do you feel that you will be happier with the person you have great chemistry with? How serious is your relationship and do you have any desire to leave it? Staying in a relationship with no chemistry is unlikely to end well, especially when there is a third person involved with whom you do have great chemistry. If you ask us, this is just infidelity waiting to happen.
So all in all, it's possible to be in a relationship with one person and find that you have more chemistry with another. How you deal with this predicament depends on whether or not you want to stay in your current relationship. Whatever your decision is, we wish you the best of luck!
Infidelity is the demise of so many relationships and most people think that they can spot the signs of cheating right away. While there are certain red flags that are glaring and obvious, many of the signs of cheating are more subtle. Find out five signs of cheating that are often overlooked:
1. There's A Decrease in Their Libido
Pay attention to your sex life. Do you find that you're the only one initiating sex when it used to be your partner getting things started? Do you notice that it's harder for them to get aroused when you're intimate? These can be signs that they're having sex with someone else.
2. Their Friends Are Acting Weird Around You
Many cheaters will actually confide in their close friends when it comes to their indiscretions. If you notice that their friends are treating you differently or acting strange around you, it could be because they know something that you don't know.
3. They Don't Set Their Phone Down Anywhere
If your partner used to set their phone down anywhere, but now makes a point of keeping their phone in their pocket at all times, it could be that they don't want you getting your hands on it. Definitely see this as a red flag that they're hiding something.
4. They've Changed Something About Their Appearance
Did you boyfriend just shave his beard for the first time in years? Did your girlfriend dye her hair a color she's never dyed it before? This may be innocent enough, like they just wanted to change things up a little. It can also be a sign that they're trying to impress a new love interest.
5. They're Not Arguing With You
Not arguing may seem like a good thing in your relationship, but it could be a sign of something like infidelity. When your partner is involved with someone else, they've reached a point that they don't care enough to even argue with you about things in the relationship anymore. They're just over it.
You're all familiar with Serena Williams, right? Pro-athlete and activist? One of the greatest tennis players of all time? All around badass? Yeah, you know Serena. Well, the seven-time Wimbledon champ recently shared the best piece of advice she ever received – and it has nothing to do with tennis.
Serena opened up about love and relationships, sharing the best piece of dating advice she ever got. So who bestowed these words of wisdom upon Serena? Well, none other than Ms. Oprah Winfrey herself. Yeah, that's how cool Serena is. She gets dating advice from Oprah. Anyways, you're probably anxious to find out what that great piece of advice was, right? Oprah told Serena to “never settle for someone who would dim her light.” …WOW.
Can Oprah share that piece of advice with literally every single person who is in a rocky relationship or looking to meet someone right now? We totally get why this advice made such a difference for Serena. Too many women accept partners who diminish their skills, accomplishment, ambition, and motivation. Too many women spend their lives taking the backseat to partners who want to be in the spotlight.
Legendary actress Glenn Close recently shared a similar sentiment when accepting her award for Best Actress at the Golden Globes. She shared the story of her mother, who passed away feeling as if she had never accomplished anything…because she spent her entire life as a wife and mother. This is just one of countless, endless examples of women giving up their dreams to make their existence about their partners.
These stories and pieces of advice are important. They remind women that their life is still their life. When it comes to love and relationships, you should never give up your dreams or your identity for someone else. If your partner expects that from you, then they aren't the right person for you. Find someone who lets you step into the spotlight and shine.
Obviously Serena took Oprah's words of wisdom to heart. She recently got married, and it seems that her husband is not dimming her light in any way. Serena is still on the court breaking records and definitely isn't taking a backseat to anyone anytime soon!
When it comes to dating, society likes to follow an unwritten set of “rules” that will hopefully lead to everlasting romance. However, the way we look at dating changes over the decades and that means these rules often change. What we once thought of as foolproof dating tips are now antiquated and useless. This is especially true when it comes to old dating rules for women. Women used to adhere to certain dating standards that just aren't necessary anymore! Check out six old dating rules women shouldn't follow anymore:
1. Let the Man Pick Where You're Going
The old standard was to let the guy decide everything. Where you go, when you go, how long you stay…it was all up to him. While you can still leave some of the details up to him, it's okay for you to plan some of the dates and make some of the decisions.
2. Always Dress Up
It used to be expected of women to dress up whenever they went anywhere with a man. This meant wearing a super fancy, uncomfortable dress even if you were just going somewhere casual. Dressing to the nines at all times isn't the norm anymore. Now you can feel free to dress for the occasion and wear a t-shirt and jeans if you want!
3. Avoid Serious Topics or Conversations
A well-known dating rule for women and men is to avoid discussing serious topics like religion or politics early on in a relationship. This rule should be thrown out the window. It's actually better to talk about these things and find out where you both stand on these things before you go any further in the relationship.
4. Play Hard To Get
We're not sure why women have always been told to play hard to get, but we are sure that they need to stop. Playing hard to get is only misleading and confusing for everyone involved. It's better to just be upfront with your feelings and let someone know that you're interested in them.
5. Don't Have Sex On the First Date
Women have always been told to not have sex on the first date because they'll be seen as “easy.” The reality is that women should do whatever they want, whenever they want. If you want to sleep with a man right away, go ahead. If it makes him think less of you in any way, he's not the guy for you.
6. Wait For Them To Contact You
One of the biggest dating rules has always been to let men initiate all of the communication. Let him make the first move. Wait for him to call. Wait for him to text, and so on. In this modern dating scene, women should feel free to make the first move. If you're interested in a guy or want to see him again, go ahead and give him a call!
Dating is hard – we all know that to be true. It's even harder as you get older. Seniors often have difficulty when it comes to dating, as re-entering the dating scene can be daunting. You're not familiar with modern dating “rules” and you may feel unsure of how to meet new people at your age. Whatever is troubling you about dating as a senior, there are ways to feel better about it. Check out these five dating tips for older people:
1. Be Confident
Confidence is sexy at any and every age. When you have confidence, people are going to gravitate towards you. It will also change the way you approach the dating scene. When you are confident, you're going to put yourself out there more and increase your chances of meeting people.
2. Don't Settle For Less
When you're an older person who is looking for a partner, you may feel desperate to find someone very quickly. This can lead you to settling for someone who is less than what you deserve or someone who is just not a good match for you. This will only end in a breakup and ultimately make your search for love even longer.
3. Embrace Technology
Many older people tend to be hesitant when it comes to technology. If you're older and trying to date, you'll want to embrace what technology has to offer. Using online dating websites or dating apps on a smartphone can really increase your chances of meeting someone.
4. Don't Be Afraid To Try New Things
Re-entering the dating scene can definitely be scary if you're not open to trying new things. We're not suggesting that you do anything that makes you really uncomfortable, but try to step out of your comfort zone just a little bit if you really want to meet new people and have good experiences.
5. Avoid Unrealistic Expectations
While you don't want to set the bar too low and settle for anyone, you also don't want to set the bar too high and turn away someone who may be a great match. Don't have unrealistic expectations that no potential partner can match up to, because this will only leave you lonely.