We all strive to have happy, healthy relationships. While this is what we all want, it's not an easy thing to achieve. Relationships come with many obstacles and most of us struggle to keep them afloat. It turns out there are little, everyday things we can do to have happier, longer-lasting relationships. The following are ten small habits that lead to long-lasting relationships:
1. Accepting Small Differences
Happy couples have learned to accept their differences…the small ones at least. We're not saying you should accept huge differences that impact the future of the relationship, like one of you wanting children and the other never wanting them. But if you like watching comedies and your partner only watches sci-fi movies, that's a small difference you should accept.
2. Holding Hands
It may seem like a trivial, silly thing, but happy couples hold hands! No matter how long they've been in a relationship, they still enjoy holding one another's hand like they would have back in high school.
3. Saying “Goodnight”
An important habit in long-lasting relationships is always saying “goodnight”. It seems like a small gesture, but it's very important. Even if you've had a bad day or you and your partner got in a fight, always say “goodnight” to them before bed. It lets them know that even during bad times, you're still in this together.
4. Picking Your Battles
Healthy couples have mastered the art of picking their battles. This means you don't have to turn every single disagreement into a huge fight. Before you confront your partner about something, think about whether it's worth it or not. If it is something that is detrimental to the relationship, then go for it. If it's just something that irked you a little, it's probably not worth arguing over.
5. Focusing On the Good
People in long-lasting relationships have learned to focus on the good things, rather than the bad. Don't focus on the little things your partner does that annoy you. Instead, focus on all the things they do that make you happy and enhance your life.
Physical touch is vital in long-lasting relationships. While a hug may not seem like an important interaction, it may be to your partner. Take notice of when your partner is having a hard time or stressed out and give them a hug.
7. Saying “I Love You”
After being together for a long time, you may think that your partner knows you love them. This is not always the case. In long-lasting relationships, both partners consistently tell the other that they love them. Sometimes hearing the affirmation makes all the difference.
8. Sleeping Together
We don't mean sleeping together as in sex (although that is important in most healthy relationships). We mean literally, physically sleeping together. Always go to bed together and always try to go to bed at the same time. If one partner is falling asleep on the couch while the other goes to sleep in the bedroom, it creates a strong disconnection.
9. Showing PDA
People in long-lasting relationships aren't afraid to show a little PDA. We're not suggesting gratuitous public displays of affection like groping one another in the grocery store. We're suggesting a kiss or hug in public, to let your partner know you're proud to be seen at their side.
10. Checking In Throughout the Day
For a healthy relationship, it's important to check in with your partner throughout the day. You shouldn't text or call them compulsively to the point where it's disruptive. Instead, you can call them on their lunch break to see how their day is going. This will let them know that you're thinking of them while you're apart.