Why aren’t we told to be happier in our marriages? And even if we are told, we realize that we have failed to boost our happiness in our relationships. The key reason is that our culture dictates that we take care of ourselves before others. Another reason why happiness hasn't made it into our marriages is that we have focused mostly on the smallest percentage of happiness that is hard to change. We can control some aspects of our happiness by the way we think and behave. Also, our happiness can be greatly influenced on how we act and sometimes, even simple changes can make a huge difference in our happiness levels.
So, to make our marriages even happier than before, we should try these five small, yet subtle changes to make it happen:
- Be intentional
List all the things in a journal in your marriage that is happy or mark all the specific events in your relationships that brought you happiness or joy. Recall all the specific colors you saw, the food you ate, all the beautiful or romantic spots you visited or the clothes your partner wore. An analysis such as this one will help you to excite your senses in ways that might have remained passive for a long time.
- Laugh or Keep Smiling
Laughter is an amazing elixir for a happy marriage. Laughter is an effective stress reliever. It makes you feel physically better and tones up your emotions and feelings, and that's going to make you much nicer to your spouse. If you want to improve your communication skills for better communication with your partner, humor is crucial. This will draw you closer together and bring back the intimacy and excitement to your relationship.
- Establish Connection With Other Couples
It’s a fact that your relationship will get stronger when you have a connection with other couples with similar values and opinions. You can share ideas and experiences, which might be helpful to overcome various issues and obstacles in your marriage. Talking with other couples may also help you to appreciate what you have in your relationship.
- Focus On Others
If you’re sincere in boosting the happiness in your marriage, it’s time you focus on others, not just for yourself. When you and your spouse can find a cause that is larger than yourself and discover challenges in other couples relationships that are bigger than the challenges you face in your marriage, it will make you more compassionate. Ultimately, this compassion and empathy will flow to your partner, and make both of you happier.
- Spice Up Your Marriage With Variety
You can improve the happiness level in your marriage by adding a little variety or adventure. Let’s be honest, we all get tired of having sex with our partner in the same position over and over again just like we get bored of eating at the same restaurant. Both you and your partner should do his or her part as well as take turns trying to boost the happiness level in your relationship.