When it comes to dating, there's always a set of “rules” that people recommend following. While some of these rules are tried and true, other rules seem a little outdated. One old rule that may not apply to the dating scene anymore is that men should always pay on the first date. It used to be seen as chivalrous for men to pay the bill when they took a woman out for first time. Now, for many women, it is important for them to feel equal and independent. This means they may prefer to split the bill on the first date, rather than having the man pay for the whole thing. At the same time, there are still women who prefer the old tradition of men picking up the tab. So, how do you know whether or not you should pay on the first date?
Here's what we say: Pay on the first date, unless she asks/offers to split the bill. Call us old-fashioned, but we still like that old rule of men picking up the bill. With that said, we respect women who want to pay their own way. So we feel the best way to handle this situation is for the man to automatically go to pay, and if the woman wants to split the bill, she needs to offer. At that point, the man should agree to pay half. Don't make it a big back and forth argument at that point. If she mentions it, go ahead and split it. If she doesn't offer, pay the whole thing. Seems simple enough, right?
It also helps if you can try to get a sense of who this girl is before you go on a date with her. If she's very independent, it's likely that she will want to pay for her own meal. If she seems very old-fashioned and likes to be courted, she'll most likely appreciate you picking up the tab. Either way, we wish you the best of luck on your first date!